Jerry17 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I'm a male and this girl I liked in high school (let's call her Abby), our situation was complicated. We ride the same bus and live a few streets away. I'm a junior and she's a freshman. But she was giving mixed signals to me while she had a boyfriend. One day I asked her about it and her boyfriend threatened me. I respected their relationship and tried not to be friends. But I decided to just talk to her and soon enough, we became friends again. But she continued to give mixed signals. And her sister told me Abby liked me and even a complete stranger came up to me asking if me and Abby go out. So I asked her about it, but she said she didn't see me as a boyfriend, but she wanted to be friends. But I found out she was kind of talking badly about me to people on the bus so mostly everyone on the bus knows about us. Most of my friends don't like her because they think she played me. They've even started calling her bad names. Some of them even say that she's bisexual. Only two of them had some really valid evidence pointing that she's bisexual, but I didn't believe it. I asked her about it but she said she's not and that everyone says that. Some weeks later, she stopped talking to me for a week and posted on Facebook saying that she will always love her boyfriend and her boyfriend said it back. But soon enough, me and Abby started back talking. But she got mad at me all of a sudden for saying idk what to do because my friends don't think I should be involved with her and she said "df if so bye". And that's when we stopped talking. But I tried to be friends with her again because she was still giving me mixed signals by staring at me alot in the hallways and she even started playing with one of my closest friends. (let's call her Lacey) while I was standing there trying to talk to Lacey. But Abby kept playing with her and completely ignored me. So I messaged her on Kik, but she told me to move on and that she doesn't care anymore. So after a long while, I now believe she played me. Especially because she changed her Kik name to something that seemed like she wanted to die and I asked if she was okay. She said she was alright and we were just dry kiking. But she stopped kiking me back. I blocked her and later, I found out she blocked me too. I assume she's still with her boyfriend and they've been together for almost a year now. But, I'm starting to think they broke up. I've been trying to move on since she apparently is doing the same. But more people are finding out about our situation and more things are being revealed about it. And then one of my friends (let's call her debbie) is apparently friends with Abby and she asked about me. Abby told Debbie she just doesn't like me. But Abby still constantly stares at me and anytime we're near, she acts nervous and tries to avoid me. Now, the staring is increasing and her main group of friends do the same, even one of my friends noticed it and said Abby and her friends were staring at me like I killed their best friend. I hate Abby now, like I really hate her. I felt like I care less what's going on with her. But now, I feel like my feelings are slowly coming back. I don't why they are but it's happening. And I don't want my feelings to return because I refuse to let her get to me again. I feel like Abby knows I hate her now and is somewhat affected. What could this mean?
SpiralOut Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 She likes the idea of another guy liking her, but then she turns around and pretends to be annoyed by it. She likes attention. She's messing with you. Stay away.
reshmi Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 (edited) stay away from the girl. She is just soaking up the attention and trying to mess with you. Ultimately she might start spreading false rumors about how you are so desperate for her and you'll end up being isolated among your friends and school. Stay away, start looking at other girls, you will find someone who is true and likes you back honestly. She is surely not affected by you hating her, she just wants you to think she is affected and will change; so that she can get you back in her loop again, now athat she's noticed that you are keeping away. Edited March 14, 2014 by reshmi Addition
Author Jerry17 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 stay away from the girl. She is just soaking up the attention and trying to mess with you. Ultimately she might start spreading false rumors about how you are so desperate for her and you'll end up being isolated among your friends and school. Stay away, start looking at other girls, you will find someone who is true and likes you back honestly. She is surely not affected by you hating her, she just wants you to think she is affected and will change; so that she can get you back in her loop again, now that she's noticed that you are keeping away. I'm trying to ignore her and continue to hate her, but the staring has gone on for like 2 months. The whole situation has gone on since September and we stopped talking in January. And I keep trying to ignore her but we end up seeing each other everywhere in school so I have to deal with the staring alot. And I have to deal with it more on the bus. I wouldn't think she's still trying to get me back in her loop now but then again it's hard to tell.
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