Gamb Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Hey everyone,i will try to make this one as short as i can. Update:Hmm,looks like this turned out to be wall of text. Sorry everyone,i shared only about 10% of the whole story,i had no idea it would take so long. Quick overall of the relationship: Met this chick 3 years ago. She is almost 5 years older than me. She "fell in love" with me in 2 or 3 weeks,cause my plan was (is) to travel the world,but i needed to get my cash first. We started having sex soon enough,i spent most of my freetime in her apartment. She complained about her EXes,told me unasked for details (this was/is my first serious relationship so i didnt told her to shut up till later) I wanted to break up with her few times cause all the nasty **** she told me,but she always managed to convince to "keep together". We moved in together after about 3 or 4 months. Then we moved to countryside house and spent 2 years there. About every free minute we were together,neither of us hanged out with other people cause we were happy together (or so i thought at the time). There was a lot of fights cause of her past and the **** she used to tell me. I was very jealous and so was she. Once i told her that i would never cheat on her cause i love her. She stopped wanting to have sex,the first few months we would fu** 4-7 times a DAY. After year and some i would be lucky to get her in the mood once every other day. I asked WTF was wrong,she told me that there was no reason for her to keep trying since i said i would never cheat on her. I hanged out with my female friends (no cheating) and she got jealous as hell,it still didnt help with her libido though. At this point we were living together for almost 2 years and our relationship was far from good. She moved out and got back together with me in 3 days. The next 4 months everything was just as great as in the beginning,lots of sex,cuddling and fun. I was estatic that our relationship is back on track,i even got much closer to our goal (raising cash to travel). The main breakup phase: The house we lived in got sold and she found apartment. She was overjoyed to move in with me back to apartment. Out of the blue,she told me that we should propably each go our own separate ways. I was heartbroken,but i said ok then...The next day (i was moving out our **** from the house all day) she stopped by and kissed me. When we were supposed to move out she started crying. I told the driver to take me back to the house once we move our ****. I came back and here we were,crying/hugging. We had sex that night. In the morning i wanted to get us breakfast and make one last bonfire in the garden. She started crying and looking at me without replying. Then she said that the breakfast is bad idea and that she has to go. Changed her mind about that 3 times in single hour. When i asked WTF is going on,she started crying without explanation. So i got mad after few hours without explanation and told her to have a good life and moved out. First week Post-Breakup: I had no idea what happened,everything was getting great after so much time wasted being mad and all of the sudden she dumps me? I decided to ask her if she is ok,how is she doing etc. We chatted for a while. Few days later i asked her if she is pregnant (she was pregnant with me before and she lost the baby due to some sickness,it runs in her family) or if she cheated or me or wtf happened. Negative,no cheating or anything and she acknowledged that it sure looked like that,but that she is SCARED of me and saw window to run through (figure of speech,of course). We talk and talk. She wants to go innawoods with me and spend the night there,to talk about us. Next day she tells me that we have to postpone it by 1 day cause she got drunk with (female)friend yesterday and is tired from work cause of that. I get pissed off and go spend the night in woods alone. No message next morning,so i get drunk and walk around woods (alone). By midday she texts me something along the lines of "sorry,i overslept. I will get some food,shower and we can go out?" I reply that i am not her dog or something and that she can go innawoods with someone else. Later that day we spend few hours chatting over the internet. She wants to get back together with me,but i have to get job etc. I tell her no way,that its just matter of days till i get the cash to travel. She tells me that she will think about it. Wants to come over that night,but only on her terms. I had guy friend crashing over,so i told her that we have to go out. (cause privacy) Not interested,but wants to come over next day. This time i am not interested. Second week post-breakup: I offered several chances for us to meet,but she makes tons of excuses. I tell her to stop that ****,that she should just tell me that she is not interested. "its not that" she replies. I get drunk and text her to basically **** off and enjoy her life. The very next day i manage to get my cash for the travelling,I or we (as you like) have been waiting for this moment 3 years! I get excited and text her the news,she is indifferent. Tells me that she wants to start going to school again and that she is happy this way (alone). I lose it (i was drunk again) and plead to get back together that this is the moment we were waiting for all that time etc. She tells me she is so sorry,but its not possible cause it hurts too much. I tell her that she is manipulatable as hell and that the school idea is surely not ouf her own head. And that i GUARANTEE her that if we had met week ago she would be packing her **** right now instead of thinking about school. She agrees with me,saying that she would "lose it to me" if we had met after the breakup. Day later she texts me something along the lines of "Will you wait for me till i finish the school so we can go travel"? I tell her that she already quit the very same school 3 times and asked her if she REALLY wants us to spend the most productive times of our lives waiting around for her to "maybe" finish school which will prove to be ABSOLUTELY useless out there (during travel). Yes,she is convinced that this is the way she wants to live and asked if i am mad. "Im not mad babe,its your life and your choice. Bye" I replied. She wished me good luck on my travels,and that i should let her know if i am ok whenever i can. And that this is the last text she will send me for now. I didnt reply. In the morning she texted me "Oh and dont worry,i wont share anything about your family past anywhere. And what did you mean by the school being absolutely useless?" I ignored her the whole day today. To anyone who managed to read this wall of text-congratulations and help me please. What the hell is going on?
redbaron005 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Day later she texts me something along the lines of "Will you wait for me till i finish the school so we can go travel"? I tell her that she already quit the very same school 3 times and asked her if she REALLY wants us to spend the most productive times of our lives waiting around for her to "maybe" finish school which will prove to be ABSOLUTELY useless out there (during travel). That was neither loving nor supportive. This was a test, one you did not pass. If you loved her, you would have said you would wait without any hesitation.
Author Gamb Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 That was neither loving nor supportive. This was a test, one you did not pass. If you loved her, you would have said you would wait without any hesitation. So you are saying that i should have agreed to wait around some 3 years for girl who had dumped me week ago (twice in the last 4 months)? Dont get me wrong,i still want her back badly (well im conflicted,but mostly i want her back). But thats not to say that i will waste another 3 years of my life with girl who can (and have) dump/ed me out of the blue whenever she feels like it or cant communicate with me honestly face to face.
drallafi Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 So you are saying that i should have agreed to wait around some 3 years for girl who had dumped me week ago (twice in the last 4 months)? Dont get me wrong,i still want her back badly (well im conflicted,but mostly i want her back). But thats not to say that i will waste another 3 years of my life with girl who can (and have) dump/ed me out of the blue whenever she feels like it or cant communicate with me honestly face to face. Nah. There's another dude in the picture. She's stringing you along.
Author Gamb Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Nah. There's another dude in the picture. She's stringing you along. I spent 2 years being pointlessly jealous. I honestly believe that there is no guy around. Last time she was in relationship this long it took her year to get over him. After that she went on the infamous "single again" streak and had one-night stand,fu**buddy and some dude who just wanted to get some. But it took her year to be able to sleep with someone else.
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