daboyz Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 Ok ...nailed down a second date with this girl that i have known for awhile now. We just had our 1st date a few days ago. The day after I sent her a dozen tulips just to let her know that I had a great time. Im pretty much a shy guy so I probably dont act when i should as in holding hands, touching and kissing. So my question is what is normal behavior for a second date. I really think this girl is special and I dont want to mess anything up ! Should I try to hold her hand a few times throughout the date ?? Should I go in for our 1st kiss sometime in the night before the awkward moment before we say goodbye ??? Just a shy guy who needs help .....LOL Thanks
chica Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 Just see how it feels when your're together. Maybe check her body language, try and tune in so you know what her vibe is. There's nothing wrong with holding hands or kissing on 2nd date (or whatever!) AS LONG as it feels right and nice and tasty and not forced or uncomfortable or too eager. The physical side of it is often easier when you have made a really good mental connection. Imagine you have a really awesome and intimate converstaion and you're happy and excited by what you're sharing..... then the kiss will blow you away! good luck chica
Hund1976 Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 I agree with the last post you have to play it as it goes. There is no specific rule as to what you do on each date. If you are hold her hand and she draws in closer to you then proceed further, if she takes her hand away right away then back off some. Just take small baby-steps and you'll be fine.
sinkerswim Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 go with what feels natural to you.... I just met a guy and we kissed within the first hour we met! (of course he asked me first..it was really sweet)
Huntr777 Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 Just go hang out somewhere and the two of you have a good time. Don't think about too much, just let things unfold and see how it goes. I can see you want this to work out, but don't overanalyze anything. Remember, this is supposed to be fun! As for the holding hands/kissing question, again don't overanalyze here, see where and how it goes. Who knows? Maybe she'll grab your hand, or plant a kiss on you first. Just keep your head in the game and enjoy yourself. Where are you planning on going on your date? Hunter
kanga Posted January 27, 2005 Posted January 27, 2005 You sent her a dozen tulips a day after the first date?!?! Eek. How did she respond to that? Do you have a second date already set up? It certainly depends on the guy and our connection, but I think in most cases I'd be a bit creeped out by someone who sent me flowers after only a first date.
Author daboyz Posted January 27, 2005 Author Posted January 27, 2005 Huntrr.......Im takin her to a nice restaurant and then going to a Cirque Du Soeili show out at Disney !! Kanga......Yes sent her flowers just to let her know I had a good time....ur actually the first person to say that was a bad idea.....a lot of women I have talked to about it said that it was a great idea to do that. Everyone has their own opinion. She loved the flowers --said they were beautiful !! And no I called her a few days later and asked her out again ----said she would love to ! Do u guys bring up more relationship questions on the second date ? Not about us or anything, just what she looks for, past experiences stuff like that ?
Spira Posted January 27, 2005 Posted January 27, 2005 I wish my guy would take me to see Cirque Du Soeili! I probably wouldn't start asking her about her past experiences were on the second date, unless they were somehow relevant to the conversation. But I think it's OK to ask what she's looking for.
kanga Posted January 27, 2005 Posted January 27, 2005 Originally posted by daboyz Kanga......Everyone has their own opinion. Absolutely. Like I said, it totaly depends on the circumstances. Had the guy I'm currently liking sent me flowers after one of our earlier dates, I would've been pretty happy. Someone whom I just met and whom I didn't really think I'd want to see a second time? That's where the flowers would've been a bad thing. Sounds like things are going well. Good luck and have fun. Like the others have said, just go with flow this second date. Don't talk too much about yourself. Many people do that without realizing when they are nervous. If it feels right, go for that good night kiss. Please let us know how it goes.
Author daboyz Posted January 31, 2005 Author Posted January 31, 2005 Chica : Havent gone on the date yet.....LOL..... It's suppose to be on Feb 5th.......called her today to let her know what time im gonna pick her up and stuff but got the cell phone machine.....left her a mesage to call me back. Most guys would start freaking out cause she hasnt called back yet.....LOL.....I will give her a few days until I go that far !!! LOL..... I hate the games girls play during the dating game !!!! She probably looked at the number and said to herself "let him think I am busy and let him squirm a little bit.....LOL"
chica Posted January 31, 2005 Posted January 31, 2005 Well at least you're wise to the games that *some* girls play when dating! Makes it easier to deal with rather than going through the head-fu@k, "Why hasn't she called back?!" etc etc. I hope you both have a great night
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