Brokenhearttt Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 He went travelling for 3 months. Asked me to wait for him. He said he love me. I waited. Then when he got back he dumped me. I know the problem, I annoyed him with my jealousy. But it was only because he was too far away. Now I am hoping to have him back and start from scratch. It's day 4 of NC with him. Did this method help anyone? I need your support here!! It is very hard for me
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 He went travelling for 3 months. Asked me to wait for him. He said he love me. I waited. Then when he got back he dumped me. I know the problem, I annoyed him with my jealousy. But it was only because he was too far away. Now I am hoping to have him back and start from scratch. It's day 4 of NC with him. Did this method help anyone? I need your support here!! It is very hard for me The only thing no contact is good for is helping YOU heal and move on. It's not done to get someone back (although very rarely it sometimes happens anyway) 8 months ago I was in your position, I sat on this forum and thought to myself brilliant, I'll ignore him. He will remember how fabulous I am and miss me and come back. 8 months later he's not back - and 8 months later although I miss the good we had I wouldn't want him back either. If you want him back tell him and leave the ball in his court then start NC. If he doesn't come back... You'll already be on your way to healing and perhaps finding someone new oneday x
Author Brokenhearttt Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 The only thing no contact is good for is helping YOU heal and move on. It's not done to get someone back (although very rarely it sometimes happens anyway) 8 months ago I was in your position, I sat on this forum and thought to myself brilliant, I'll ignore him. He will remember how fabulous I am and miss me and come back. 8 months later he's not back - and 8 months later although I miss the good we had I wouldn't want him back either. If you want him back tell him and leave the ball in his court then start NC. If he doesn't come back... You'll already be on your way to healing and perhaps finding someone new oneday x Thank u. Well at first I told him I want to be with him. Then I got angry and told him that I don't feel the same about him as I did before (he told me exactly the same thing when was breaking up with me). So then he said ok if u feel so. Sorry I didn't mean to hurt you. So I didn't reply and don't text since then. But I do want him back atm. I was hoping that NC will help? It says it will in so many forums and websites. I hope I will get over it one day, but at the moment I want him to be back
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Thank u. Well at first I told him I want to be with him. Then I got angry and told him that I don't feel the same about him as I did before (he told me exactly the same thing when was breaking up with me). So then he said ok if u feel so. Sorry I didn't mean to hurt you. So I didn't reply and don't text since then. But I do want him back atm. I was hoping that NC will help? It says it will in so many forums and websites. I hope I will get over it one day, but at the moment I want him to be back I realise you want him back, I was in your position. I begged and cried and did anything I could to make him come back and it made it worse. No contact isn't about him - it's about you. It's so you can move on to a life without them. It's you holding your head high and saying ok I messed up, I can't change that, you don't want me? Ok I'm going to walk the other way with my dignity and find someone new eventually. I hate it when forums advise it as a way to get a man back, you can't make someone want you. If he wanted you he would be with you already. I know that sounds harsh and when someone told me that I cried for hours but it's true. Hold your head high and say I'm better than this, I will be better than this and let him sit back and watch the new you come out. X 3
Author Brokenhearttt Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 I realise you want him back, I was in your position. I begged and cried and did anything I could to make him come back and it made it worse. No contact isn't about him - it's about you. It's so you can move on to a life without them. It's you holding your head high and saying ok I messed up, I can't change that, you don't want me? Ok I'm going to walk the other way with my dignity and find someone new eventually. I hate it when forums advise it as a way to get a man back, you can't make someone want you. If he wanted you he would be with you already. I know that sounds harsh and when someone told me that I cried for hours but it's true. Hold your head high and say I'm better than this, I will be better than this and let him sit back and watch the new you come out. X Thank you hun. I know what u mean, but I suppose u also know what I mean. We all have this stupid hope that he will come back etc. i do really hope i will get over it and find someone else!! Xx
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Don't you worry you will. You won't feel better for months and it's going to suck, but I found coming on here and writing about how I was feeling helped a lot!! Keep your chin up xx
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