Lightglowabove Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I have read numerous posts on here stating that the MM never divorces his wife. My situation right now is that my MM is in the process of having his lawyer draft divorce papers for him. I'm wondering if anyone has gotten this far and divorce has actually happened. I would love to know your story if you would like to share. I guess I'm asking myself the question, "will this really happen" (of course I would love it to)? And hearing other's stories would make me feel better if everything turned out positive.
cocorico Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I have read numerous posts on here stating that the MM never divorces his wife. My situation right now is that my MM is in the process of having his lawyer draft divorce papers for him. I'm wondering if anyone has gotten this far and divorce has actually happened. I would love to know your story if you would like to share. I guess I'm asking myself the question, "will this really happen" (of course I would love it to)? And hearing other's stories would make me feel better if everything turned out positive. My fMM D the BW and we've been M for several years now, so yes! it does happen. Will it happen in your case? Thats hard to predict. If you see him taking action, going through with promises, not hiding behind excuses for lack of movement, that is obviously a positive sign - but whether the action and change will be sufficient or sustainable is hard to know from the outside. If he is done with his M, has checked out emotionally, has moved on and is not feeling tied to his M for The Usual Reasons (young kids, shared assets that are hard to sell right now, shared business interests, convoluted social situations, etc) it is bviously easier, and there is less danger of him leaving and then regretting his decision - but you'd be far better placed to make that call than strangers on a message board.
MissBee Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 (edited) I have read numerous posts on here stating that the MM never divorces his wife. My situation right now is that my MM is in the process of having his lawyer draft divorce papers for him. I'm wondering if anyone has gotten this far and divorce has actually happened. I would love to know your story if you would like to share. I guess I'm asking myself the question, "will this really happen" (of course I would love it to)? And hearing other's stories would make me feel better if everything turned out positive. I haven't ready anyone saying MM NEVER divorce their wives. What I do read and what seems to be the overwhelming trend is that many do indeed stay married and the A doesn't transition to an open relationship. However, what you have to do is look at the evidence in your situation and whether or not what he is saying and doing match up. As even if some other person's MM left or didn't, that's not your situation, so my personal advice would be to observe MM carefully, as well as if this is happening it should be an open discussion, and check what you're seeing and hearing against other people's experiences. Edited March 14, 2014 by MissBee 2
Got it Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I agree with both above posters. While it is lovely to hear supporting stories it doesn't translate that x = y. What applies are the specifics that both posters discussed. Also just because he divorces doesn't mean everything is rosy either. It is a long road that can work out or not. You are really at just the beginning so take it day by day.
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