JayFizzle Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 So me and my ex-fiance (now) were together for a year. The first 8 months we lived together, which was probably too much too fast. The last 4 months, we've been doing the long distance thing, which hasn't been great either. Aside from that, and me getting real clingy towards the end when she wouldn't respond enough to my calls and I felt like I was loosing her (which I was). When she broke up with me, I sent a couple panicky texts, but after she said we could still be friends, I resorted to initiating NC and dropped all contact. 2 weeks later, she calls. We txt back and forth normally, everything is going good for two days. That night, she tells me to call. Now our last conversation a couple days ago was nothing special.. this one was intense. We talked for 5 hours straight about all kinds of stuff, including how she had developed the same fetish as me (threeways) and everything was exiting again. The next morning I sent a ton of foolish lovey dovey text messages and then proceded to send her a string of panicked txts when she never replied for another 2 days. Finally, she replies, and we reconcile. At this point she has one of her exes living with her as a fwb situation, and me and her get back together in a poly amorous relationship (we've done this before). I call her every night for the next 4 days and we talk for a couple hours each time.. everything is going good. The other guy is on the verge of being thrown out however. She had planned to come down in 2 days to visit on the morning that she told me not to call her for that day. She wanted 'no distractions' while she broke off the fwb with the dude. I wake up at 4 a.m. that night to two txts, 1. I am in a commited relationship. I hope you can respsect my choice not to be influenced by any of my exes on this. 2. Please do not contact me. After 6 or 7 more panicked, then angry text messages, i said "**** it. Maybe i was being too clingy by txting and calling so much. Take care." Its been two days since that.. and I'm hurting badly. Not only do I face loosing the love of my life.. I face loosing all the three ways that come with it and the fact that i wont find another girl thats into what i am for a long time, if ever. Last night though, she facebooks me saying "That was a blanket text i sent to a lot of people and not all of it applies to you.. We can still be friends if you want??".. as I had said in one of my texts that it wasnt 'fair' that we could be friends still. Now im wondering, what do i do? whether or not i get back together with her (which i would), i still want to have sex with her. She told me that the dude shes with now cant satisfy her anywhere close to me and isnt into the threeway thing as its two guys on one girl. How long should I wait? Do you think she will have to come **** me as im the only one who can truly satisfy her deepest nastiest desire? she cheats on everyone sooner or later, after all. thanks for the input?
Author JayFizzle Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 i havnt responded to the text yet but i really want to.. the fact that there was two question marks at the end tells me either that she made a typo or is missing me. i also seriously doubt that it was a "mass text". im the only ex she still talks to on a regular basis.. the rest are burnt out. she doesnt want me to know that she made a conscious decision to completely cut me out of her life and is now regretting it.. but why?
AlphaC Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 So me and my ex-fiance (now) were together for a year. The first 8 months we lived together, which was probably too much too fast. The last 4 months, we've been doing the long distance thing, which hasn't been great either. Aside from that, and me getting real clingy towards the end when she wouldn't respond enough to my calls and I felt like I was loosing her (which I was). When she broke up with me, I sent a couple panicky texts, but after she said we could still be friends, I resorted to initiating NC and dropped all contact. 2 weeks later, she calls. We txt back and forth normally, everything is going good for two days. That night, she tells me to call. Now our last conversation a couple days ago was nothing special.. this one was intense. We talked for 5 hours straight about all kinds of stuff, including how she had developed the same fetish as me (threeways) and everything was exiting again. The next morning I sent a ton of foolish lovey dovey text messages and then proceded to send her a string of panicked txts when she never replied for another 2 days. Finally, she replies, and we reconcile. At this point she has one of her exes living with her as a fwb situation, and me and her get back together in a poly amorous relationship (we've done this before). I call her every night for the next 4 days and we talk for a couple hours each time.. everything is going good. The other guy is on the verge of being thrown out however. She had planned to come down in 2 days to visit on the morning that she told me not to call her for that day. She wanted 'no distractions' while she broke off the fwb with the dude. I wake up at 4 a.m. that night to two txts, 1. I am in a commited relationship. I hope you can respsect my choice not to be influenced by any of my exes on this. 2. Please do not contact me. After 6 or 7 more panicked, then angry text messages, i said "**** it. Maybe i was being too clingy by txting and calling so much. Take care." Its been two days since that.. and I'm hurting badly. Not only do I face loosing the love of my life.. I face loosing all the three ways that come with it and the fact that i wont find another girl thats into what i am for a long time, if ever. Last night though, she facebooks me saying "That was a blanket text i sent to a lot of people and not all of it applies to you.. We can still be friends if you want??".. as I had said in one of my texts that it wasnt 'fair' that we could be friends still. Now im wondering, what do i do? whether or not i get back together with her (which i would), i still want to have sex with her. She told me that the dude shes with now cant satisfy her anywhere close to me and isnt into the threeway thing as its two guys on one girl. How long should I wait? Do you think she will have to come **** me as im the only one who can truly satisfy her deepest nastiest desire? she cheats on everyone sooner or later, after all. thanks for the input? Playboy, you seem to know this girl, I would call her and get busy before she finds someone better to satisfy her. Then again, not a lot of guys would be into that, and if they did they wouldn't develop feelings for such a girl. My buddy was separated from his wife for a year and he hooked up with a girl who was into that, 2 guys and one girl. They would hook up at various hotels until my friend's wife took him back. Protect yourself and your heart, don't get too attached to a woman who cheats, and lastly, help her kick that FWB out, LMFAO!
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