We got back together!!!!

[Plove]

Ok I've been reading this board for a few months, and it was here that I found out from the reviews posted here and enotalone.com about the book by Harold McDonald "STop your divorce now". Quick background on my situation, I was in an "official" relationship for 2yrs, we were best of friends for almost 2yrs b4 that, and we "broke up" about 2yrs and 7months ago, but we have been close, and stuff sometimes got "cloudy" in terms of how we were relating with each other, but we remained close. I was immature in the past, the female who always wanted everything done her way, and I've always wanted to get back, because I've come a long way, lot more mature and all. In the book, they said something about making an agreement with the person, I had tried talking and all avenues, but he was really skeptical because we both have extremely busy grad/prof schl programs, and a lot of other stuff, but I was willing to despite that try to make it work. Well in the book they talk about trying to make an agreement with the person, so I got a paper, and it was blank with the exception of my signature. I also agreed like the book said to when he said we should see other people. In the past I would strongly object to it, but a few weeks ago, I told him I'd go ahead and do that cause I cant deal with this anymore. Since then he pretty much gave me my space and was acting distant.

Yesterday while we were in a good mood, watching a movie at his place and I gave him the paper, and explained everything, and how I was willing to put my signature that if it wasnt working out, I'd be ready to get out. I also used tactics suggested in the book such as agreeing with what he said, for example he was like I dont understand what u see in me, there are thousands of fishes in the sea, I'm just a lame ol tuna, and I was like yeah ur right, there are thousands, but at the end of the day I do want my good ol tuna sandwich.

At the end of our 30mins discussion,our shortest "relationship" talk in our 6-7yrs of knowing each other, he agreed to try it out again!!

We're in our mid 20s, and have known each other since college.

 

Things to point out, we've always remained close, and feelings on both ends never really went away. Now I plan on being less clingy, and the art of compromising. I'm no longer the bug a boo girlfriend, and in essence I've grown and so has he, our communication level is different, in the past we would argue anytime we discussed relationship matters.

Goodluck to everyone else, and thanks topeople who wrote reviews on the ebook and made me decide to get it.

[Oriental]

congratulations and all the best to you two!

 

thanks for posting this hopeful message here. this forum needs posts like this.

 

a few questions: did he ever see other women or sleep with others? why did you break up in the first place?

 

thanks!

[Plove]

Originally posted by Oriental

congratulations and all the best to you two!

 

thanks for posting this hopeful message here. this forum needs posts like this.

 

a few questions: did he ever see other women or sleep with others? why did you break up in the first place?

 

thanks!

 

he tried to, and I was aware of that, but nothing really came out of it, he is not one that is quick to open himself to females in general. Plus I never really went away, or at least too far from sight SO at least to my knowledge he didnt sleep with others, he didnt really have time, med schl took up just about everytime, plus he always made time to hang out with me as a friend, but if he did I cant fault him.

We broke up because he was always stressed with schl, and we always used to get into constant arguments about everything. I wanted attention, and when I didnt get it, I'd pick something to argue about just to talk about it. Eventually he got tired of it, and we broke up on our 2nd anniversary after I messed up plans he had for a night out It was really silly but that was the height of it, and he pretty much had it.

 

I think the thing is that you cant make the person unless they still want to, we had talked bout it b4, but never agreed to officially get back together. I knew his feelings for me were still strong, and I knew it, but I also knew that we needed to figure something out pretty soon, as he has to move in about 6months, and I wanted everything to be good b4 then.

[Gottabestrong]

Dear DrPlove,

 

congratulations, I hope everything works out for your and your man.

 

I have read about this book a few times already. So you think it really helped you? could you share some of the main points? I would really like to know if this book is different from all the other 'Ex-Back' books.

 

Thanks a lot.