What the hell is this girl doing?

[datkid55]

Sorry for the long story but I wanted to give you guys the entire story basically I had a fling with this girl about 6 weeks ago, we met up ****ed on two occasions, she seemed really warm to me at first texting me constantly, hell she was usually the first to initiate, she even told me she liked me. Anyway she had also gotten out of a 5 week relationship once we started hooking up, which she let me know about. Anyway after the second time we had a sex I felt like I made the mistake of telling her I wanted to get to know her better, that I was happy to be there with her blah blah blah, she seemed okay with it but nevertheless that was the last time I slept with her. I hit her up a few days after just saying hey to which she ignores so i say **** it I'll wait for her to text me back which shes does the following saturday, calling me up asking me what I was doing. I happened to be out of town to which she replied was stupid and then she admitted she that heard that my fraternity was having a party and that she wanted to come and asked me to find out for her, which I did. Anyway another week goes by so I decide to ask her what shes doing the following saturday night to which she respond to my text 5 hours late. I figured she had honestly saw my text earlier,but decided to get back to me once her plans fell through, so i chose not to respond. SO the following tuesday I run into her at the bar and she is with none other than her ex, but she still seemed warm to me. She came up to me gave me kiss came outside smoked a cig together and everything seemed fine,but she clinged to her ex whenever he would come out. She even gave my one of my friends (a girl) a dirty look when she hugged me indicating that she still had interest.

 

 

After this encounter I made sure that I wouldnt actively pursue this girl and would just be nice with her whenever I saw her, due to the fact that I could easily keep this girl around as a slampiece while keeping my options open. Anyway spring break was the following week and so I didnt see her until 2 weeks after the past tuesday. So basically my last encounter with her played out like this: I wasnt going to give her attention like I used to so I didnt approach her at the bar, but rather went about doing my own thing. The bar was packed out enough it was hard enough to even locate her. Anyway I stood close to her group of friends having my own conversation to see if she'd react and she didnt so whatever. Later on I go outside to smoke a cig and she happened to be out there. This time she came over to my group of friends personally greeted all of them and didnt say hi to me at all. Like she literally hugged like each one of my friends( which they found odd haha) while I made direct eye contact with her. Personally i hate that type of **** when people ignore eachother like that so I decided to hold the eye contact but regardless she walked away. not gonna lie this really pissed me off so I went over to her friends and started talking to them. Eventually she came over Still ignoring me so i didnt give her the time of day. Finally about 5 minutes later, when I stepped aside to talk to a friend of my mine, she finally came over hugged my friend and then decided to start talking to me. Believe or not she seemed somewhat genuine at first smiling at me but our conversation was rather platonic, like I asked her how her spring break to which she told me she had stayed at school, which was like a slap in the face given that she could have easily hit me up knowing I live by the school. If she was ignoring me the entire night why the **** would she decide to finally talk to me at the end of the night? Tbh im rather inexperienced with girls and cant tell what the hell is going on rn, cant tell if shes playing games or what.

[angel555]

Looks like the girl is doing the exact same thing as you are.Keeping her options open.

And at the slightest hint you gave her that you would like to get to know her better,she must be making it hard for you to get her.

She probably thinks that you ought to chase her more and pursue her to actually get to know her.Lot of mind games.

Probably you should relax a bit around her and seem like you have a life beyond hitting this chick.Id say go for complete no contact for a week or so and dont ignore her but just keep things casual when you do bump into her.

Make sure you do have fun along and if she is around make sure she notices it and dont ignore her.Be warm and nice.

Once she sees that you do have outside interests,shes gonna be the one running after you!!

[Assasda]

Dude you seem very inexperienced with women.

Its good that you knew what you did wrong. When you started to talk about your feelings with her, like you're one of her girlfriends.

 

Then you chose to play the ignore game (because you saw her with her ex), like youre one of her girlfriends.

Act like a man dude. Dont let the whole thing get to you.

 

Do you think James Bond would let this type of thing bug him Heck no.

What you need to do, is see other girls.

You can still have fun with this girl, but dont get feminine with her, be a man

[datkid55]

"Then you chose to play the ignore game (because you saw her with her ex), like youre one of her girlfriends.

Act like a man dude."

 

I didnt ignore her when I saw her walking in with her ex I said hi and talked with her for a bit, I just didnt make her the center of attention of my night, I went around and had fun talking to other people. Why should i show her attention if she is clearly not doing same, plus I figured i didnt want to come off needy having to talk to her. The last time I saw her though I didnt make a purpose to outright go up to her and talk to her bc I didnt want to seem like her little puppy dog. I wanted to show her that I also have other options and that she isnt my focus, given that I obviously ****ed up in the beginning coming off too hard. She may have mirrored my actions by intentionally ignoring me. Was this wrong bc I felt that this course of action seemed fitting.