Medium.Lumo Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 How do you tell if a girl is interested? A friend of mine seems to be interested, but how can I tell for sure? The signs are: 1. She started hanging out with me more and wanted more 1 on 1 events without other friends in the group 2. She has held my hand and leaned on me while we were at the movies with friends 3. She wants to come with when I go out with other (male) friends and doesn't want me to go out with our mutual (female) friends as much anymore... she hasn't said this directly but has hinted. 4. We have made out once 5. She has invited me to her parents house and invited herself to my parents place 6. She changed her FB and BBM profile pics to me and her But she hasn't made a move to stay over at my place or said outright that she wants to date, or tried to change her status on FB. I haven't had a gf before, so I could be missing something. I'm also worried that she is playing games with me because of an incident that happened a month ago between her and another guy, where he insulted her and I defended her. He then called her my gf and I didn't correct him. Could she secretly be upset by that and messing with my head?
PegNosePete Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 How to tell if she's interested? Ask her. Rocket science, I know! 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 The thing is that we are good friends. I don't want to make things weird between us. It's a difficult situation... I am also scared of rejection. She's very sweet, I shouldn't be this nervous, but after what has happened between us I am nervous. I have read threads here where failed friend zone relationships ruined the friendship. It's a tough one. I'm also quite shy so I wouldn't even know how to phrase the question.
David87 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 The thing is that we are good friends. I don't want to make things weird between us. It's a difficult situation... I am also scared of rejection. She's very sweet, I shouldn't be this nervous, but after what has happened between us I am nervous. I have read threads here where failed friend zone relationships ruined the friendship. It's a tough one. I'm also quite shy so I wouldn't even know how to phrase the question. Guy just tell her how you feel, sure you can lose her as a friend but you could end up with a cool girlfriend. My advice is to go for it. It's all or nothing. 2
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 Thanks man. Good advice. I can't help but be nervous though. Do you think these signs are a indication she is interested but is just waiting for me to make a move? Or is it just the behaviour of a really good opposite sex friend? (Ok. That's extreme I know). Or is she just playing around with me?
David87 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Thanks man. Good advice. I can't help but be nervous though. Do you think these signs are a indication she is interested but is just waiting for me to make a move? Or is it just the behaviour of a really good opposite sex friend? (Ok. That's extreme I know). Or is she just playing around with me? I think that she likes you more than a friend and you got a real chance here. Just go for it because in the end you'll regret more the things you didn't do. 3
Phantom888 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Geez you made out with your friend? You crossed the line man. Just because she's a good friend doesn't make her a good girlfriend. If a girl is interested, you just know it. Tread carefully because a girlfriend is easy to come by, but a genuinely good friend is hard to find. 1
Assasda Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 My advice is . DO NOT TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. You are already with this girl, what else do you want? Go with the flow. If you made out with her, yourre already there. You dont need to question anything 1
Mr.Mango Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 To answer the initial thread question: are you kidding or just hard at telling signs? Ask yourself this instead. Would she do these things if she wasn't interested? I think you can sort it out for yourself.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 My advice is . DO NOT TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. You are already with this girl, what else do you want? Go with the flow. If you made out with her, yourre already there. You dont need to question anything She never specifically mentioned at any point that we were dating.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 To answer the initial thread question: are you kidding or just hard at telling signs? Ask yourself this instead. Would she do these things if she wasn't interested? I think you can sort it out for yourself. She could be interested... or she could be playing with me... or something else. I am inexperienced, never had a gf before
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 From what you've listed I would say uh... DUH, yeah she is lol!! There's a bunch of married couples out there that show less interest in eachother than your list! 2
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 So Assada... if I shouldn't tell her how I feel, should I ask her how she feels? How can I tell her true motives?
HappyLove Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Oh my goodness! What more does she have to do to show she's interested? Does she need to rent a Blimp and somehow have it sputter your name out in smoke while hopping on one leg holding a sign that says she likes you? I feel sorry for her.
oldshirt Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 But she hasn't made a move to stay over at my place or said outright that she wants to date, or tried to changethr status on FB. She's not going to do those things because those things are YOUR job. in just about every single species on the planet, males are the pursuers and females are the ones the make the selection out of the males pursuing her. Right now you are in the lead because you stood up for her and showed strength. Don't blow it now by being a pussy. men are the initiators and the leaders of the relatheonship. you lead the relationship by leading her down the path you want it to go. She shows her interest by following with you down that path. She shows her disinterest by not following you. So far she IS interested. if you keep waiting for her to make the moves and make the plans and for her to set the tone and lead the relationship though, she will lose interest quickly. There is one thing that separates the guys with GFs from the guys that are always stuck in the friendzone, the guys that have GFs aren't afraid of awkwardness or of losing girls as friends. Risk awkward. Treat her with basic courtesy, dignity and respect, but don't be afraid to lose her friendship if the romance doesn't work out. 2
Assasda Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 So Assada... if I shouldn't tell her how I feel, should I ask her how she feels? How can I tell her true motives? Dont ask her anything. Just keep having fun with her, and make out with her. In the end she'll make the decision. If you question her, She'll feel too much pressure, and back off. Motives??? Does she seem like a sketchy person??? Do you think she maybe after your wealth or something??? Just have fun with the girl and let nature take its course. Its going well right now, the only thing you can do is start screwing it up by asking a bunch on nonsense questions
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Well she's a student so I do actually have more money but that's not what I mean by motives. What if she is doing this to prove a point - she might feel that since I didn't deny she was my gf that night she will act like she wants to be my gf and go cold at the last minute. I know this is a bit paranoid, she's probably the sweetest person I have ever met. But I can't help considering it. What if she feels she owes me for defending her? That will be horrible, I don't want her to feel indebted in that way. Dont ask her anything. Just keep having fun with her, and make out with her. In the end she'll make the decision. If you question her, She'll feel too much pressure, and back off. Motives??? Does she seem like a sketchy person??? Do you think she maybe after your wealth or something??? Just have fun with the girl and let nature take its course. Its going well right now, the only thing you can do is start screwing it up by asking a bunch on nonsense questions
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 People seem to be saying I'm an idiot for not thinking these signs are obvious and that she is into me. But throughout the friendship she has been physical. She is a "hugger", hugs everyone. She also used to "rub" me early on in the friendship, not in a sexual way but just my arm if we were sitting together or my hand etc. She also hugged me very closely and kissed the top of my head when my cat had to be put down a while back. I know it was just a kiss on the top of the head but wow. It really gave me a lot to think about that night. I understand that making out is a bit different but maybe she just felt she owed me something?
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Have you decided what are you going to do? I have decided to change my relationship status on FB and see how she reacts.
Larry56 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Just keep getting more and more physical. If you don't feel like *verbalizing* it then just show her with your actions. If she reciprocates your in!
David87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I have decided to change my relationship status on FB and see how she reacts. Are you going to put '' in a relationship'' or what? I don't think thats a good ideea. Look if you don't want to talk to her about the fact that you like her very much, then try to kiss her because you said that you did before. Se how it goes.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Are you going to put '' in a relationship'' or what? I don't think thats a good ideea. Look if you don't want to talk to her about the fact that you like her very much, then try to kiss her because you said that you did before. Se how it goes. Yes... I was thinking of putting in a relationship with (her name) and see if she accepts
David87 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Yes... I was thinking of putting in a relationship with (her name) and see if she accepts I think this forcing her .... it's better to make a move first, say kiss her and see how she reacts. My advice is not to change your relationship status but it's up to you. Keep us posted and Good Luck.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 I think this forcing her .... it's better to make a move first, say kiss her and see how she reacts. My advice is not to change your relationship status but it's up to you. Keep us posted and Good Luck. Well yes. That's what I'm thinking. I don't know how she's feeling so I need to do something to gauge it.
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