Are these signs my MARRIED professor is attracted to me?

[Gaeta]

So he's attracted toward you and?

 

Married men aren't dead, and aren't insensitive to beautiful women. Doesn't mean they will act on that attractiveness.

 

When your course is finished you will move up and that will just be a story to tell. Is it the first time a man is showing you a bit of attention that you make a big deal out of this?

 

When I was in Uni this one teacher had a thing for me. I was married. My friends in my course kept asking me what I had done to him, it was like I had hypnotized him. Ok, and? let the man enjoy his fantasy. As long as he doesn't act on it he's not doing anything wrong.

[MrMeh]

Don't mean to be rude here, but I think there are healthier ways to boost your self-esteem than hoping that your professor has a liking to you. Also,your mild obsession for an answer isn't equivalent to the work required to know it.

[stillafool]

This is an update. Some things made me suspicious:

1. When I was sick from an exam, I was supposed to retake it by the university rules but he exempt me from it, telling me it's ok and that meant my exam and next test is worth more.

2. My 29 year old friend, who is experienced with men and the sort of person that wouldn't lie, told me ny professor checked me out as I walked into my lecture room, but he didn't do that to anybody. As I was copying the calculus equations from the boardnd looking down to do them, she said he was staring at me the whole time I wasn't looking. She also said that he had so many mistakes when he stared at me, and stuttered as he did the equations on the board.

 

Okay and why do you feel a need to report this here? Did you get the validation you were seeking?

[stillafool]

So he's attracted toward you and?

 

Married men aren't dead, and aren't insensitive to beautiful women. Doesn't mean they will act on that attractiveness.

 

When your course is finished you will move up and that will just be a story to tell. Is it the first time a man is showing you a bit of attention that you make a big deal out of this?

 

When I was in Uni this one teacher had a thing for me. I was married. My friends in my course kept asking me what I had done to him, it was like I had hypnotized him. Ok, and? let the man enjoy his fantasy. As long as he doesn't act on it he's not doing anything wrong.

 

Exactly! This is nothing new. So OP, what difference does it make, he's married. Glad you got your answer though.

[StanMusial]

You should eat some meat, the lack of proper minerals in your diet is cutting off the oxygen to your brain.

[veganpilot]

I'm normally an extremely open-minded person and accept morals and values of other people. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I respect that. I do not hate nor do I object to those who do eat meat, but when you do criticise me for being an airhead due to vegetarianism, I will debate and prove you WRONG.

 

First of all, my IQ was 143 according to a Mensa assessment, not my EQ. My EQ is not that high, and that is because I don't socialise and keep to myself a lot. Don't you DARE judge me without even knowing me. I have been a vegetarian for 7 odd years, and my garades were perfect. I got into university to pursue engineering, since I am a mathematically and scientifically inclined person. Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Da Vinci, Steve Jobs, Pythagoras, Isaac Newton and Faraday were all vegetarians. Where would this world and what would it be without these geniuses now? A big difference, wouldn't it? Also, it is proven by research that vegetarians on average have a boost in IQ of 10 points over omnivores. It isn't because vegetarians are smart, but rather they are smart enough to be vegetarians to know of unethical slaughtering. Most of the carbon footprint and greenhouse gases are caused by cattle and meat industries, also to note meateaters are more prone to cardiovascular disease, bowel cancer and diabets type 2. So chew on that piece of steak before you ASSume, hun

[veganpilot]

Also, I did an update so other users would not piss their asses claiming I am spamming because I am copying and reposting my question so I instead updated.

[Tressugar]

And...don't fall for the ol' "I'm separated from my wife" or "I'm going through a divorce". It seems like most professors would like to use these lines or at least that was my experience when I was in school.

[ExpatInItaly]

I'm normally an extremely open-minded person and accept morals and values of other people. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and I respect that. I do not hate nor do I object to those who do eat meat, but when you do criticise me for being an airhead due to vegetarianism, I will debate and prove you WRONG.

 

First of all, my IQ was 143 according to a Mensa assessment, not my EQ. My EQ is not that high, and that is because I don't socialise and keep to myself a lot. Don't you DARE judge me without even knowing me. I have been a vegetarian for 7 odd years, and my garades were perfect. I got into university to pursue engineering, since I am a mathematically and scientifically inclined person. Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Da Vinci, Steve Jobs, Pythagoras, Isaac Newton and Faraday were all vegetarians. Where would this world and what would it be without these geniuses now? A big difference, wouldn't it? Also, it is proven by research that vegetarians on average have a boost in IQ of 10 points over omnivores. It isn't because vegetarians are smart, but rather they are smart enough to be vegetarians to know of unethical slaughtering. Most of the carbon footprint and greenhouse gases are caused by cattle and meat industries, also to note meateaters are more prone to cardiovascular disease, bowel cancer and diabets type 2. So chew on that piece of steak before you ASSume, hun

 

Girl. I am a vegetarian too. But seriously? This is the internet. Ignore those type of comments. I promise you'll appear less foolish and immature if you do.

 

Also, I agree with other posters saying you need to find other ways to boost your self-esteem than over-analyzing a professor. I think you deep down have a very insecure and competitive streak; honestly, nobody here gives a flip if he's attracted to you. Why the need to try to convince us? I think you're trying to convince yourself more than anything because it makes you feel good. It'd be healthier for you to seek out other ways to prop up your self-esteem. The analysis of this man's behaviour is becoming a bit weird.

[veganpilot]

Immature? I'm 17, and like I said, I have a low EQ. Also, he did imply that vegetarians are airheads. Me, why do I even need him to boost me self esteem? I'm beautiful and incredibly intelligent. Lots of guys and even girls are after me. I don't even know if the girl i'm chasing after is interested, but I'm not interested in the guys that are after me. They keep on saying that I don't notice them, which is true. My expectations are very high for men. The fact that this man in his mid-twenties, handsome, ambitious, determined and with a pH.d in maths is very attractive to me. I'm interested but I think it is inappropriate to act on it. He is married and I don't know if he has children. I'm no homewrecker. I am a SAPIOSEXUAL.

[veganpilot]

If I don't lecture him, then he thinks it's incredibly polite and intelligent to ASSume and degrade vegetarians. I'm no PETA promoter or worker. They kill animals and I don't support them.

[FitChick]

My EQ is not that high, and that is because I don't socialise and keep to myself a lot.

You are a virgin who is socially inept so are very susceptible to flattery and predation. You also sound sexually confused. Why not have a couple of one night stands with men and women to see what your sexual preference is?

[Chubbi]

I wasn't interested in the vast majority of men either when I was 17. I only liked the REALLY HOT popular guy in my school to the exclusion of every other male. Did other men even exist? I loathed average looking men, though I was also average. I just wanted the hot, athletic guy with black hair, full pink lips and seagreen bright round eyes.

 

I would spend days on days of analyzing his "hi". Did he look at me at all? Did he walk pass me? Oh god, he walked passed me. I analyzed our every interaction, like if he said hey to me or not, if we were wearing the same colors, if he showed up to eat at the cafeteria at 5:30 instead of 6:30pm; if he was feeling okay, what movies he liked so I could pretend to like them...

 

I didn't do that with my teachers though. For me, teachers were too boring. I loved the rebellious, hip guy who knew all the latest and greatest and teachers were like 80s and 70s generation. BORING

Edited April 13, 2014 by Chubbi

[Elle1975]

I don't know if my engineering professor is attracted to me. He is MARRIED and in his mid-twenties. But, here are the subtle 'signs':

1. When he talks to me, he tends to be nervous, stutters and talks softly, which is strange since I've observed the way he talks to others. He is confident and loud when he talks to other male/female students. He is also an alpha male.

2. He tends to be short-tempered and 'mean'. However, with me, he is calm, patient and very friendly, although a bit nervous. He smiles at me and laughs a lot.

3. When I asked him about a printing error, he didn't tell me and go reprint it out myself. He told me to stay after class when everyone's gone so he could reprint them all out for me (60+ pages) at his own expenses!

4. He tries to make conversation and when he saw my pencil case, he complimented on how cute it was as well as my bag. I think this is strange because he is usually stern and serious.

5. Today when I came to his office for help in my homework, he seemed surprised and nervous. But he explained everything until I got it and we talked about an hour until class started.

 

What do you think?

 

I wouldn't date someone who is married, or involved with someone else. It's not ever the morale (although, for me, it is). It is just that i would never trust the person. Trust is my #1 when it comes to relationships.

[KaylaP]

I don't know if my engineering professor is attracted to me. He is MARRIED and in his mid-twenties. But, here are the subtle 'signs':

1. When he talks to me, he tends to be nervous, stutters and talks softly, which is strange since I've observed the way he talks to others. He is confident and loud when he talks to other male/female students. He is also an alpha male.

2. He tends to be short-tempered and 'mean'. However, with me, he is calm, patient and very friendly, although a bit nervous. He smiles at me and laughs a lot.

3. When I asked him about a printing error, he didn't tell me and go reprint it out myself. He told me to stay after class when everyone's gone so he could reprint them all out for me (60+ pages) at his own expenses!

4. He tries to make conversation and when he saw my pencil case, he complimented on how cute it was as well as my bag. I think this is strange because he is usually stern and serious.

5. Today when I came to his office for help in my homework, he seemed surprised and nervous. But he explained everything until I got it and we talked about an hour until class started.

 

What do you think?

 

 

LMAO of course he's into u! I had a hs teacher like that when I was 16 he was always trying to talk to me after class.

 

 

At first he was pretending to be nice & shyt then he wanted my number!

 

 

I was flattered or whatever but told him no but he was acting nervous at first so believe me I ALREADY KNEW!

[Salvatore85]

Just don't bang your teacher. Thats how peoples lives and careers end up ruined.

[bluegreen]

Immature? I'm 17

 

 

 

Isn't 21 requirement to be able to join the site ?

[Hello_is_it_me]

The awkwardness of this thread lives on!!

[KaliLove]

Daddy issues much?

 

Since you have yet to answer this question in this thread, I'll try again. OP, you got your answer. You think he's attracted to you. So now what? What is the point of asking all these questions if you're not intending to try to start an affair with him?

 

Frankly, it sounds like his behavior is unethical and he needs to be reported to the Dean immediately. If your answers were exactly the same as your friends' answers and you got different scores, then he is showing you preferential treatment and should therefore be made to go before an ethics committee.

 

As for you..keep it in your pants. Find a guy your own age who is not attached. And maybe try some therapy too.

[GorillaTheater]

I'm betting the prof is smart enough to avoid jeapardizing his tenure-track appointment (and marriage) by having a relationship with not only a current student but a student who's a minor.

 

Though lord knows I've been proven wrong often enough before.

[ses]

I remember a few years ago when I had it pretty bad for a lecturer in our Spanish department. He was/is a doctoral candidate in the linguistics program and shared an office with my then-professor. I used to see him almost every day when I used to meet my professor during office hours for Spanish help. Eventually I started to talk to him alone to practice with him. A few months later I accidentally let it slip while I was at lunch with a female colleague of his (another lecturer) of my feelings and she told me he had a girlfriend. In order to feel "normal" around him I confessed my feelings to him shortly thereafter.

 

You know what he told me? He was flattered but that it would also NEVER work out due to his relationship status and the unequal power dynamic. I felt so much better after telling him and it made being around him more comfortable. I haven't really spoken to him since and we've gone our separate ways. I have no hard feelings.

 

Just let it go. This guy is married and it does you no good to obsess about his behavior. He's your professor and you're not worth the risk of jeopardizing his shot at tenure. Academics are an incredibly intriguing bunch but you've only known him in a classroom setting. You've idealized him to be this perfect man, which will inevitably set you up for disappointment. You're still very young and there are plenty of young, eligible guys on campus who would be more than willing to ask you out if you let them.

[Hello_is_it_me]

A few months later I accidentally let it slip while I was at lunch with a female colleague of his (another lecturer) of my feelings and she told me he had a girlfriend. In order to feel "normal" around him I confessed my feelings to him shortly thereafter.

 

Wait... Wha..!? How does this help the situation at all? If anything, it opens the door for potential cheating. Thankfully the teacher in your instance was a stand-up guy. I say if someone is enamored with a taken person, they keep those thoughts to them self and focus their energy on a single person.

[Phantom888]

Only sleep with professors if they promise to give you A's. Otherwise don't waste your time.

[Thomas the Red Fox]

Be weary of IQ tests -- for if you have a high IQ, you'd know IQ tests vary widely. I scored everywhere from 130 to 150, and realized they're futile in most respects.. I could have probably scored a 115 and a 160 too depending on many factors at different times.

 

I think you're just young and confused, and your low self esteem is causing you to be quite defensive...

 

Live life, you just have a lot of growing up to do, which is fine...

[Cpt]

You seem to be attracted to people of high social status. The most porpular guy in hs, that young ambitious mid twenties phd professor.

 

I can't believe I read through this thread, but all I got from it was that you're arrogant and uphold yourself higher than everyone else. I wouldn't go around bragging that a bunch of guys in engineering find you attractive. The ratio of males to females in engineering is ridiculous, any girl in there appears much more attractive than she actually is; although you could be the most beautiful girl out of the other 10 in your class.

 

I absolutely loath your type of mentality. You're entitled to be attracted to whomever you're attracted to, but to reject "average guys" just because they are not of high status is pathetic imo. You will most likely end up alone if you continue with that mindset.

 

Sorry if it seems like a personal attack. I know a few girls who were like you, and they treated people badly I really hated that, and the worst part is they were not even anywhere near attractive compared to other girls who were much more awesome.

 

P.s stop looking down on omnivores like we're a bunch of idiots for not having the same ideologies about eating animals. Claiming that those geniuses were vegeterians so vegeterians are smarter because they choose not to eat meat is so ridiculous I will not dignify it with the response you deserve. I know a lot of dumb vegeterians, now what?

 

P.s.s your professor is not that attracted to you, he is merely curious about you. Two completely different things.