ExpatInItaly Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 No, I think he is saying the professor knows you are attracted to him so he makes sure to wear his wedding ring to deter you. Read Phantom888 post. Exactly. In any case, OP, keep your distance. If this little crush is mutual, it would be highly inappropriate to attempt to pursue anything. If the crush is one-sided, you will make him uncomfortable. Just be a regular student - attend his lessons, do your work, strive to your best academically. And leave it at that. 1
jcrew11 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Hey OP, Why don't you try dating other college students instead of trying to date your professors? You do know that most college forbid professors from dating students? He most likely will be fired if anyone found out he was banging a student. Not to rant or be mean, but I think these silly college girls just want to tempt, tease, and flirt with older college professors because they are smart guys who give them attention, and its a bit naughty. These college girls are away from their parents, and are horny to find a boyfriend. 2
d0nnivain Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Professors lose their jobs & have difficulty getting new ones if they mess around with students. It's a big freaking deal. Just because he was nice to you, liked your pencil case & you perceived him to be stuttering when he spoke to you does not in my mind add up to much more than you over-reading a situation because you are attracted to him & want it to be mutual. All I see is a good teacher who cares about a student. When you say he let you reprint 60 pages at his expense, it probably was on the school's dime. Employees don't pay for printing the same way students are charged. 3
BlueIris Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Excuse me if I misunderstood that reference, but, does that mean he knows we're mutually attracted to each other, and therefore he puts on the ring to prevent this from happening? I know, sometimes we cannot help with attraction. I'm sorry I wasn't clear. No, it does not mean that "he knows" there's mutual attraction. To me, it appears as though he is uncomfortable with your behavior and he is trying to signal you to stop. I apologize that I wasn't clearer. I also don't agree that "sometimes we cannot help attraction." That sounds like an excuse to do things that you shouldn't do. 2
Author veganpilot Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 You guys seem to perceive me as a creeper-and no. I wasn't attracted, flirting or doing anything. I wear normal jeans and clothes to class all day and I never stared at him. Hell, I didn't even like him before he started showing those signs. I used to think he was bad-tempered, mean and stern. I was less than interested, but thought he was young and intelligent. I only found him attractive after he displayed these suspicious sgins, or so I thought. And you think I'm the crazy one!? It might be the other way around, he thinks that I like him when apparently, I answered his questions properly, and professionally and I didn't even go to that after-class printing thing because I was kinda creeped out. There is everything people can say and do in this forum to prevent a frowned-upon scenario from happening. But I want the truth, not bent for the wellbeing for us. That's our buisiness and I want to know the answer.
Author veganpilot Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 As I told you, I didn't "matrix" or fantasize about all of this. I only did when the teacher started showing these signs. He was nervous and did stutter, I am sure of it. I don't overanalyse things. I just saw him as some teacher with a short-temper before he started exhibiting those signs. Don't assume.
Els Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Excuse me if I misunderstood that reference, but, does that mean he knows we're mutually attracted to each other, and therefore he puts on the ring to prevent this from happening? I know, sometimes we cannot help with attraction. .... No, just no. You need to get over being hung up on this guy. You're reading all sorts of possibilities into things that you shouldn't be.
napy666 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 That is really creepy. Try talking to him about it or transfer to another professor?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 You guys seem to perceive me as a creeper-and no. I wasn't attracted, flirting or doing anything. I wear normal jeans and clothes to class all day and I never stared at him. Hell, I didn't even like him before he started showing those signs. I used to think he was bad-tempered, mean and stern. I was less than interested, but thought he was young and intelligent. I only found him attractive after he displayed these suspicious sgins, or so I thought. And you think I'm the crazy one!? It might be the other way around, he thinks that I like him when apparently, I answered his questions properly, and professionally and I didn't even go to that after-class printing thing because I was kinda creeped out. There is everything people can say and do in this forum to prevent a frowned-upon scenario from happening. But I want the truth, not bent for the wellbeing for us. That's our buisiness and I want to know the answer. What truth, exactly? None of us can tell you what he's thinking. We can only offer insight based on what you're posting. I don't really understand why you created this thread, OP. You've refuted and been defensive to almost every post - what is it that you want to hear?
Author veganpilot Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 I want the answer. Some people truly canno read here, assume or are just plain rude. I never intended to start an affair with him, but I want to know if he is attracted to me. I usually have a low self-esteem, but that will flatter me. Nothing will go beyond mutual admiration. I hate how people call me a creeper or stalker when I haven't even acted unappropriately, let alone, flirt with him. But anotherthing today, he always tells people off or yell at them when we talk. I have talked to my friend several times in class but he NEVER yells at me. Still overlooking this?
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I want the answer. Some people truly canno read here, assume or are just plain rude. I never intended to start an affair with him, but I want to know if he is attracted to me. I usually have a low self-esteem, but that will flatter me. Nothing will go beyond mutual admiration. I hate how people call me a creeper or stalker when I haven't even acted unappropriately, let alone, flirt with him. But anotherthing today, he always tells people off or yell at them when we talk. I have talked to my friend several times in class but he NEVER yells at me. Still overlooking this? You want the answer? You want to know so badly? Then bloody grow some lady balls and ask him your damned self! Last I checked we can't read each other's minds 3
jcrew11 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I want the answer. Some people truly canno read here, assume or are just plain rude. I never intended to start an affair with him, but I want to know if he is attracted to me. I usually have a low self-esteem, but that will flatter me. Nothing will go beyond mutual admiration. I hate how people call me a creeper or stalker when I haven't even acted unappropriately, let alone, flirt with him. But anotherthing today, he always tells people off or yell at them when we talk. I have talked to my friend several times in class but he NEVER yells at me. Still overlooking this? You are probably one of the only females in his class, and he is probably nervous because he does not interact a lot with females, and is trying to be nice to you since you are a girl. You may think you are just a student learning, but he is a "working professional" and he should be following workplace rules on "sexual harassment and professional conduct." If he were your "office boss" would you want him hitting on you, and making moves on you, to try to kiss you or sleep with you? Maybe he thinks you are just another naive schoolgirl with a schoolgirl crush, who will give him a BJ when the semester ends? Is that what you want to hear, that he wants to bang your brains out?
Copelandsanity Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Ask when his office hours are and when you can stop by because you have something important to discuss. When you get there, put your hand on his crotch and start lightly massaging. Say: "Professor, I haven't been studying. I've been a really bad girl and I need to spanked very hard." I guarantee that you will have the answer to your question.
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Ask when his office hours are and when you can stop by because you have something important to discuss. When you get there, put your hand on his crotch and start lightly massaging. Say: "Professor, I haven't been studying. I've been a really bad girl and I need to spanked very hard." I guarantee that you will have the answer to your question.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I want the answer. Some people truly canno read here, assume or are just plain rude. I never intended to start an affair with him, but I want to know if he is attracted to me. I usually have a low self-esteem, but that will flatter me. Nothing will go beyond mutual admiration. I hate how people call me a creeper or stalker when I haven't even acted unappropriately, let alone, flirt with him. But anotherthing today, he always tells people off or yell at them when we talk. I have talked to my friend several times in class but he NEVER yells at me. Still overlooking this? But why this particular professor? When a random cashier at the grocery store asks you if you want paper or plastic and stutters, do you mull it over in your mind for days and days? 1
jcrew11 Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 I want the answer. Some people truly canno read here, assume or are just plain rude. I never intended to start an affair with him, but I want to know if he is attracted to me. I usually have a low self-esteem, but that will flatter me. Nothing will go beyond mutual admiration. I hate how people call me a creeper or stalker when I haven't even acted unappropriately, let alone, flirt with him. But anotherthing today, he always tells people off or yell at them when we talk. I have talked to my friend several times in class but he NEVER yells at me. Still overlooking this? Most girls would just want the professor to give them a good grade. But apparently you want to sleep with the professor. Perhaps you have some sort of "daddy figure" complex and you want an older man to "save" you from your unhappy life. Most girls have "low self esteem" and that is why it is so easy for confident men to take advantage of these dumb naive girls and pump and dump them. Now imagine if a "male high school teacher" tried to sleep with his students - would that creep you out. Because you are essentially saying that you want your "male college professor" to sleep with younger girls. Now you are a female over 18, but that does not make it okay for a "professor or school teacher" to ever sleep with his female students "with low self esteem." You can certainly complain if your male professor is trying to have sex with you. But what you are saying here is that you actually want to sleep with your professor on your own initiative.
Author veganpilot Posted March 15, 2014 Author Posted March 15, 2014 Uh. Actually, I'm still a virgin and I'm not interested in banging him. I mean, he's not the one that I would give it to. I can only give it away once and never take it back. Also, there are 10 other females in his classroom with me.
Grumpybutfun Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Perhaps he really just has a thing for Hello Kitty pencil cases.... G 3
WP4046 Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 Some replies are amibiguous, and I want an answer, not to be preached. Some people has stated he is a married man and yes, I won't do anything or takes this anywhere. Where did my post actually say I want to bang him? I want to know if he is attracted to me and whether it is mutual or not. If you didn't want to bang him you would not have started this thread
WP4046 Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 As I said, I'm not reading into these tiny subtle clues that may be excluded for matrixing of the mind, for then you'll call me a freaking stalker.. However, he didn't wear a wedding ring the last time I saw him. But today, I saw him wearing it. And my friend told me he has a wife. I was attracted before I knew he was married. I was disappointed, and well. Yeah. So if the answer is yes would that make you feel better about yourself?
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 A nice case study here that helps us understand the age old question of: "what is going through the 'other woman's' mind when she hooks up with a married man?" Apparently, not much! 2
Author veganpilot Posted March 22, 2014 Author Posted March 22, 2014 I'm not desperate, and that is why I've only got eyes for him. In my engineerin class, so many guys are attracted to me but they claim I never even noticed them. That is true. I was minding my own buisiness and thought nothing about the teacher when one day, he started claiming how cute my stuff were and I became attracted to him because he is handsome, intelligent, strong willed and ambitious. None of the guys there were up to my standards except my professor. And this is an update: My friend and I both worked together on the same assignment and had exactly the same answers as we handed it together. Then, she got 60% and I was supposed to get the same mark since our answers were identical but I received 90%!!! WTF?! I know I'm not the crazy one here now.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 I'm not desperate, and that is why I've only got eyes for him. In my engineerin class, so many guys are attracted to me but they claim I never even noticed them. That is true. I was minding my own buisiness and thought nothing about the teacher when one day, he started claiming how cute my stuff were and I became attracted to him because he is handsome, intelligent, strong willed and ambitious. None of the guys there were up to my standards except my professor. And this is an update: My friend and I both worked together on the same assignment and had exactly the same answers as we handed it together. Then, she got 60% and I was supposed to get the same mark since our answers were identical but I received 90%!!! WTF?! I know I'm not the crazy one here now. So? Were you seeking more proof that he has a crush? All of this doesn't mean anything in terms of what you're going to do next. He is your instructor and isn't available for you.
Eggplant Posted March 22, 2014 Posted March 22, 2014 Two points: First, attraction between students and teachers happens with high frequency inevitably. It's a transference reaction, and it happens in all relationships that have some kind of power dynamic. For instance, it also is very common between therapist and patient, or between employer and employee. This dynamic casts a spell that makes you interested in a person you otherwise never would be, and when relationships start based off these dynamics, and the dynamics disappear, and you're left with the real person, often the feelings evaporate as well. Secondly, crushes develop inevitably all the time as a fact of life, even when people are married. It's natural. And it's nothing. Since you're young, pretty, and smart, just expect to draw attention. So there's your ego boost. You got it, girl! On some level, a heterosexual man/woman is always going to feel something for another woman/man. It's just a matter of degree. This guy will like you, and he will on some level like many women students he will have through the years. (Not to pick on him, it happens to everybody). But my point is, it's as common as dirt, and it's not a big deal. Emotionally healthy people pass all these crushes through a filter. You too will have to learn how to channel your feelings, so that you don't get in a knot over unavailable men like you are now. I'm a little older than you, and after one or two school-girl crushes, it gets too sad dreaming about unavailable men. You learn to put up walls, so that you can have the treat of fixating on a guy who might actually happen. Good luck. 2
Author veganpilot Posted April 12, 2014 Author Posted April 12, 2014 This is an update. Some things made me suspicious: 1. When I was sick from an exam, I was supposed to retake it by the university rules but he exempt me from it, telling me it's ok and that meant my exam and next test is worth more. 2. My 29 year old friend, who is experienced with men and the sort of person that wouldn't lie, told me ny professor checked me out as I walked into my lecture room, but he didn't do that to anybody. As I was copying the calculus equations from the boardnd looking down to do them, she said he was staring at me the whole time I wasn't looking. She also said that he had so many mistakes when he stared at me, and stuttered as he did the equations on the board.
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