veganpilot Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I don't know if my engineering professor is attracted to me. He is MARRIED and in his mid-twenties. But, here are the subtle 'signs': 1. When he talks to me, he tends to be nervous, stutters and talks softly, which is strange since I've observed the way he talks to others. He is confident and loud when he talks to other male/female students. He is also an alpha male. 2. He tends to be short-tempered and 'mean'. However, with me, he is calm, patient and very friendly, although a bit nervous. He smiles at me and laughs a lot. 3. When I asked him about a printing error, he didn't tell me and go reprint it out myself. He told me to stay after class when everyone's gone so he could reprint them all out for me (60+ pages) at his own expenses! 4. He tries to make conversation and when he saw my pencil case, he complimented on how cute it was as well as my bag. I think this is strange because he is usually stern and serious. 5. Today when I came to his office for help in my homework, he seemed surprised and nervous. But he explained everything until I got it and we talked about an hour until class started. What do you think?
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I don't know if my engineering professor is attracted to me. He is MARRIED and in his mid-twenties. But, here are the subtle 'signs': 1. When he talks to me, he tends to be nervous, stutters and talks softly, which is strange since I've observed the way he talks to others. He is confident and loud when he talks to other male/female students. He is also an alpha male. 2. He tends to be short-tempered and 'mean'. However, with me, he is calm, patient and very friendly, although a bit nervous. He smiles at me and laughs a lot. 3. When I asked him about a printing error, he didn't tell me and go reprint it out myself. He told me to stay after class when everyone's gone so he could reprint them all out for me (60+ pages) at his own expenses! 4. He tries to make conversation and when he saw my pencil case, he complimented on how cute it was as well as my bag. I think this is strange because he is usually stern and serious. 5. Today when I came to his office for help in my homework, he seemed surprised and nervous. But he explained everything until I got it and we talked about an hour until class started. What do you think? Why do you care?? If he's married you shouldn't be going anywhere near him bar for educational purposes which is what he's there for. I can't see anything more than a nice man being kind. Doesn't scream wild, passionate love affair to me 15
David87 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Yep he's into you but he's maried so it doesn't matter. 2
Gaeta Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I don't know if my engineering professor is attracted to me. He is MARRIED and in his mid-twenties. But, here are the subtle 'signs': 1. When he talks to me, he tends to be nervous, stutters and talks softly, which is strange since I've observed the way he talks to others. He is confident and loud when he talks to other male/female students. He is also an alpha male. 2. He tends to be short-tempered and 'mean'. However, with me, he is calm, patient and very friendly, although a bit nervous. He smiles at me and laughs a lot. 3. When I asked him about a printing error, he didn't tell me and go reprint it out myself. He told me to stay after class when everyone's gone so he could reprint them all out for me (60+ pages) at his own expenses! 4. He tries to make conversation and when he saw my pencil case, he complimented on how cute it was as well as my bag. I think this is strange because he is usually stern and serious. 5. Today when I came to his office for help in my homework, he seemed surprised and nervous. But he explained everything until I got it and we talked about an hour until class started. What do you think? He is being nice to a good and attentive student.
stillafool Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 What difference does it make if he is or not, he's married. I'm sure you have more appropriate options when it comes to choosing a bf. 1
Author veganpilot Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 Some replies are amibiguous, and I want an answer, not to be preached. Some people has stated he is a married man and yes, I won't do anything or takes this anywhere. Where did my post actually say I want to bang him? I want to know if he is attracted to me and whether it is mutual or not.
Els Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Some replies are amibiguous, and I want an answer, not to be preached. Some people has stated he is a married man and yes, I won't do anything or takes this anywhere. Where did my post actually say I want to bang him? I want to know if he is attracted to me and whether it is mutual or not. Wait what??? 13
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 If you had no intention of "taking it anywhere" you wouldn't need to know. You'd see it for exactly what it is. 7
David87 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Some replies are amibiguous, and I want an answer, not to be preached. Some people has stated he is a married man and yes, I won't do anything or takes this anywhere. Where did my post actually say I want to bang him? I want to know if he is attracted to me and whether it is mutual or not. Yes he is attracted to you, now if you say that you don't want to bang him, then what do you want to do?
saltyfishhead666 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Yes he is attracted to you, now if you say that you don't want to bang him, then what do you want to do? Perhaps it's an ego boost... 2
David87 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Perhaps it's an ego boost... Fare enough, op you got your ego boost so now focus on studying, because it's bad to be the one who breaks a family. 4
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 He's probably good on stage in front of the class but suffers from social anxiety one on one. He's an engineering professor so nerd comes to mind. I wouldn't read anything more into it than that. 5
Author veganpilot Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 I wanted to know if mutual attraction was present. There is no harm having a little curiosity. Also, I am intelligent. I don't read anything too much into, except my calculus and aeronautical engineering textbook. I've seen the way he responds to other students in class when they ask a question and he never acts shy, stutters orquiet. Nowhere near it.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I wanted to know if mutual attraction was present. There is no harm having a little curiosity. Also, I am intelligent. I don't read anything too much into, except my calculus and aeronautical engineering textbook. I've seen the way he responds to other students in class when they ask a question and he never acts shy, stutters orquiet. Nowhere near it. You must really like this guy to pay such subtle attention to these minute details! He's married you creeper!! 6
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 You must really like this guy to pay such subtle attention to these minute details! She's NOT reading into his mannerisms. She already said that.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Okay, so say that the attraction is mutual. Is OP going to start a thread asking for advice on how to seduce a married professor..? Like.. what's the point here? 4
anne1707 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Hang on, your last thread was about a single professor http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/465260-my-professor-attracted-me Is this the same man or are there two you are interested in? Plus you say you are only 17 - why on earth would you be interested in a married man? 2
Author veganpilot Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 As I said, I'm not reading into these tiny subtle clues that may be excluded for matrixing of the mind, for then you'll call me a freaking stalker.. However, he didn't wear a wedding ring the last time I saw him. But today, I saw him wearing it. And my friend told me he has a wife. I was attracted before I knew he was married. I was disappointed, and well. Yeah.
Author veganpilot Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 Before, I thought he was single.
BlueIris Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 He might be acting this way and making sure to wear his ring because he can tell you're attracted. His career and/or reputation could be damaged by any involvement with a student, or even a false accusation by a student. 2
writergal Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 OP what exactly is it that you want us to tell you? If you want to have an affair with him then do it. No one can tell you what you should or shouldn't do. You've admitted that you were disappointed to find out that your professor's married. I think that you did have intentions of starting something with him, otherwise why start a 2nd thread where you analyze his body language and tone of voice as clues to whether or not the attraction is mutual (from his end)? Aren't there any single men you can date? 2
stillafool Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Some replies are amibiguous, and I want an answer, not to be preached. Some people has stated he is a married man and yes, I won't do anything or takes this anywhere. Where did my post actually say I want to bang him? I want to know if he is attracted to me and whether it is mutual or not. If an answer to your question is what you are seeking your best bet would be to ask him. No one is a mind reader or a psychic here that I know of.
Phantom888 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Here's some perspectives from a former business professor. When I taught college a few years ago (as a way to give back to my community), I was hit on by female students all the time. They see a young, smart, charismatic professor, and they start having thoughts. Some of them actually proposed sex in exchange for a better grade. I never accepted any offers because I was married, and also professionalism is very important to me. That being said, I have chatted with female students and helped them after class. I even had lunch with a few. But I was never interested in them. I was in my early 30s, and none of them 20-year-olds could stimulate my mind. In my opinion, OP's professor enjoys her company, but is not interested in any romantic way. Kinda like a little sister. IMHO. 5
Author veganpilot Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 As I said, I'm not reading into these tiny subtle clues that may be excluded for matrixing of the mind, for then you'll call me a freaking stalker.. However, he didn't wear a wedding ring the last time I saw him. But today, I saw him wearing it. And my friend told me he has a wife. I was attracted before I knew he was married. I was disappointed, and well. Yeah. He might be acting this way and making sure to wear his ring because he can tell you're attracted. His career and/or reputation could be damaged by any involvement with a student, or even a false accusation by a student. Excuse me if I misunderstood that reference, but, does that mean he knows we're mutually attracted to each other, and therefore he puts on the ring to prevent this from happening? I know, sometimes we cannot help with attraction.
stillafool Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 (edited) No, I think he is saying the professor knows you are attracted to him so he makes sure to wear his wedding ring to deter you. Read Phantom888 post. Edited March 13, 2014 by stillafool
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