D.Andrew Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Hello everyone, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 years.6 wonderfull years.Everything was great, we loved each other so much and a lot of people envied our relationship for how perfect it was.I was her first at everything and her family loved me.We had really big plans together. Things changed last autumn.She started to change, she was going cold, we had some argues and she told me that she needed a break to get her feelings right.It was until january that I found out she was seeing somebody else and after about a month she gave herslef completely to this guy.I tried to convince her to change her mind , did everything I could .She told me that she went too far with this guy.We still kept contact and I was the only one she could talk to because at that time nobody knew what was going between us. Two weeks ago her familiy found out and things started to go down the hill.She gave up her family, her friends, her entire life for this guy.During this period she was always saying to me that i've changed for the better and that she regrets what she did and she wants to always talk to me and keep contact.She misses the times she didn't have anything to worry about, the times we were laughing together and having the time of our lives.But last week I told her I cannot play this game anymore and wee need to stop talking to each other as friends because those were not my intentions. Nobody can explain what is going through her head right now.I could offer her everything she wanted and she knows that.This guy cannot offer her anything.She gave up everything for him, her family, her friends, everything.Her family is crying all the time and want me back but they say they can not do anything to change her mind.It's like this guy casted a spell on her or something.She even said she's gonna leave home for him. Close friends say that, because I was her only boyfriend, she is now going thru a phase to experiment things and other people and nobody can do anything about it.Everybody is telling me that this is a rebound and she will eventually come to her senses.Everybody that knew our relationship say that it's impossible for her to give up on what we had.She had the prefect life with me and she gave it for a life full of misery and dissapointment.She is crying all the time now beacuse everybody including her family hates her for what she did.Still she says that she loves the guy and doesn't want to give up. It's been a week of NC.Usually she would try to contact me but last time I told her I don't want be her friend and that she should make up her mind.So for a week I didn't hear anything from her. My questions for you are : -Based on you're experience and my circumstances do you think one day she will come back asking for another chance ? -Based on the fact that until last summer everything was perfect, do you think she can forget it all in 2 months ? -Is it true that at the moment she doesn'n know what she wants and untill the dust settles , nobody can do anything to change her mind ? All people do mistakes in life and because of the wonderfull life we had together I am willing to forget her for what she is doing right now.The question is , will I have the chance . Thank you
Heroeric Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I'll try to put it simple; she is afraid things are not gonna work out with this guy so she keeps trying to have you close for when the relationship goes to Crap. She leading you on, and I'm glad your taking a stand for yourself. To answer your question, more then likely she will come back to you, but by the sound of it that's the last thing you need, she cheated on you and did all this not out of confusion like she or others might say, but simply because she wants a 'bigger piece of the pie'. But she sees it going to Crap, so she tries to keep you near. No she hasn't forgotten everything in two months, but she is likely trying too. And the last question is a little hard to answer. She does but she doesn't. She left because from the way she saw it, she will get more out of the guy she is with now, she knows what she wants, but at the same time she is learning that the grass isn't always greener. By no means does this make you a bad person for being cheated on, someone can be perfectly good honest person and still be cheated on, it happens because they want something more, or something new, but by no means better. Best thing to do is ignore her, because she will do this again no matter how many times she promises not too...
AlphaC Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Hello everyone, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 years.6 wonderfull years.Everything was great, we loved each other so much and a lot of people envied our relationship for how perfect it was.I was her first at everything and her family loved me.We had really big plans together. Things changed last autumn.She started to change, she was going cold, we had some argues and she told me that she needed a break to get her feelings right.It was until january that I found out she was seeing somebody else and after about a month she gave herslef completely to this guy.I tried to convince her to change her mind , did everything I could .She told me that she went too far with this guy.We still kept contact and I was the only one she could talk to because at that time nobody knew what was going between us. Two weeks ago her familiy found out and things started to go down the hill.She gave up her family, her friends, her entire life for this guy.During this period she was always saying to me that i've changed for the better and that she regrets what she did and she wants to always talk to me and keep contact.She misses the times she didn't have anything to worry about, the times we were laughing together and having the time of our lives.But last week I told her I cannot play this game anymore and wee need to stop talking to each other as friends because those were not my intentions. Nobody can explain what is going through her head right now.I could offer her everything she wanted and she knows that.This guy cannot offer her anything.She gave up everything for him, her family, her friends, everything.Her family is crying all the time and want me back but they say they can not do anything to change her mind.It's like this guy casted a spell on her or something.She even said she's gonna leave home for him. Close friends say that, because I was her only boyfriend, she is now going thru a phase to experiment things and other people and nobody can do anything about it.Everybody is telling me that this is a rebound and she will eventually come to her senses.Everybody that knew our relationship say that it's impossible for her to give up on what we had.She had the prefect life with me and she gave it for a life full of misery and dissapointment.She is crying all the time now beacuse everybody including her family hates her for what she did.Still she says that she loves the guy and doesn't want to give up. It's been a week of NC.Usually she would try to contact me but last time I told her I don't want be her friend and that she should make up her mind.So for a week I didn't hear anything from her. My questions for you are : -Based on you're experience and my circumstances do you think one day she will come back asking for another chance ? -Based on the fact that until last summer everything was perfect, do you think she can forget it all in 2 months ? -Is it true that at the moment she doesn'n know what she wants and untill the dust settles , nobody can do anything to change her mind ? All people do mistakes in life and because of the wonderfull life we had together I am willing to forget her for what she is doing right now.The question is , will I have the chance . Thank you Are you kidding? This girl is this man's woman now. Do you want her back, do you know what she is doing for this guy?? Let me tell you a few things: 1. She is licking his toes 2. She is washing his dirty drawers 3. She is cooking him steak 4. She is massaging his walnuts 5. She is leaving you, her family and her friends for this man. 6. She is doing the nasty, a lot of stuff I would like to but can't post on here, lol. And what about you? You are crying, begging, praying that this woman would become this little girl you had wrapped around your finger for 6 whole years. Dude, she left you for a reason, by your post I can tell you were suffocating this poor girl. Man up, grow a pair and maybe she will come crawling back. If you had an ounce of testosterone you would not take her back if she did. Peace 1
flight E Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 We know it's not easy because we have all been there but please let her go. If you truly have so much to give her, then stop aking her to come back and do not for any reason let it seem you have pitched her family against her. You have to heal you are hurt like any rationale human being will be. Leave your questions for now. After you heal you can visit them again. Go strict no contact. For your own sake. Pls 1
Kevin_D Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Are you kidding? This girl is this man's woman now. Do you want her back, do you know what she is doing for this guy?? Let me tell you a few things: 1. She is licking his toes 2. She is washing his dirty drawers 3. She is cooking him steak 4. She is massaging his walnuts 5. She is leaving you, her family and her friends for this man. 6. She is doing the nasty, a lot of stuff I would like to but can't post on here, lol. And what about you? You are crying, begging, praying that this woman would become this little girl you had wrapped around your finger for 6 whole years. Dude, she left you for a reason, by your post I can tell you were suffocating this poor girl. Man up, grow a pair and maybe she will come crawling back. If you had an ounce of testosterone you would not take her back if she did. Peace What's up with this macho BS? I cried and begged for two weeks, and you know what? I don't regret it at all. I'm proud to have emotions, that's what makes me human. Acting like you don't care when your best friend suddenly decides to ditch you after 6 years is not cool, it's just pathetic. Of course, when you realise that the decision is permanent, you need to step back. Not because you want to "man up", not because you want to get her back, but because that's the only way you can heal. If she comes back, there will probably be trust issues, and in that case, a reconciliation is probably a bad idea. But to you it sounds like he should reject her due to pride, which sounds really immature in my opinion.
AlphaC Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 What's up with this macho BS? I cried and begged for two weeks, and you know what? I don't regret it at all. I'm proud to have emotions, that's what makes me human. Acting like you don't care when your best friend suddenly decides to ditch you after 6 years is not cool, it's just pathetic. Of course, when you realise that the decision is permanent, you need to step back. Not because you want to "man up", not because you want to get her back, but because that's the only way you can heal. If she comes back, there will probably be trust issues, and in that case, a reconciliation is probably a bad idea. But to you it sounds like he should reject her due to pride, which sounds really immature in my opinion. Nobody said anything about emotions? Nobody said to regret the past, you can't regret the past and even if you tried, you can't change it. The only thing you can do is accept the past and move forward. The advice you are giving this poor fella is to keep crying and hold out hope. The poor man even thinks a spell was cast on his ex, come on man, did you read his post?? My advice is a wake up call - some guys like being victims, dwelling on the past forever. I was there before, but i've grown a lot wiser, and now i have more options than I can handle. What's changed is my thinking, my outlook on life and my phone number. The OP can keep crying and having feelings for his ex for the next 6 years or he can grow a pair and meet a woman that will treat him with respect, something his ex didn't do. Peace 1
Kevin_D Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 The advice you are giving this poor fella is to keep crying and hold out hope. The poor man even thinks a spell was cast on his ex, come on man, did you read his post?? Yes. And he never wrote that. My advice is a wake up call - some guys like being victims, dwelling on the past forever. I was there before, but i've grown a lot wiser, and now i have more options than I can handle. What's changed is my thinking, my outlook on life and my phone number. The OP can keep crying and having feelings for his ex for the next 6 years or he can grow a pair and meet a woman that will treat him with respect, something his ex didn't do. Peace Wiser? To me it sounds like you're quoting those PUA losers: "You're suffering from oneitis, dude! You need to let go of her, become alpha and sleep with 10 other girls. Then she won't be so special anymore." Even that Mystery dude was about to commit suicide because he was ditched. When you find someone special, you couldn't care less about your "options". And the truth is that nobody's perfect. We all make mistakes. We all hurt our friends from time to time. With that said, he still needs to move on, because there's nothing else he can do at the moment. 1
AlphaC Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Yes. And he never wrote that. Wiser? To me it sounds like you're quoting those PUA losers: "You're suffering from oneitis, dude! You need to let go of her, become alpha and sleep with 10 other girls. Then she won't be so special anymore." Even that Mystery dude was about to commit suicide because he was ditched. When you find someone special, you couldn't care less about your "options". And the truth is that nobody's perfect. We all make mistakes. We all hurt our friends from time to time. With that said, he still needs to move on, because there's nothing else he can do at the moment. Hello everyone, It's like this guy casted a spell on her or something.She even said she's gonna leave home for him. Thank you He didn't write what?? Spend a little bit more time reading next time. The rest of your reply is like hate mail, useless.
Never Again Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 He didn't write what?? Spend a little bit more time reading next time. The rest of your reply is like hate mail, useless. Simile - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia When reading, it often helps to have a grasp on figures of speech. Just sayin'. 2
Author D.Andrew Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 Well, she did call today, asking how I was and stuff.I was afraid i was gonna lose it but to me surprise I didn't. I told her i was fine, I told her I have other people that care about me and I don't need her simpathy.I also told her that next time she wants to call , she would better send me a text message first telling me exactly what her intentions are.If not I will not take her call.I kinda like this NC thing. It's amazing how women react to ignorance . I also want to thank all of you guys for your support.I will keep you up to date with me experience.
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