germain Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I work with a girl I've recently gotten really into. We flirt a little, but I haven't let it go too far for a couple of reasons. She's 18, and I'm 28. Her friend seems to like me - but I think is getting the hint that it's not mutual, only friendly. This is at work where the relationship would have to be hidden - even though my supervisors know I'm a good guy and have encouraged me to ask out other girls in the past. I'm not even sure how asking her out would go, since it's only been the occasional flirting. But I keep escalating it the more I see her, and she seems receptive. I can't help it. I'm really into her. It's kind of sad how much so. Rationally this seems like such a bad idea, but I can't fully convince myself. Could something like this work?
Vivienne Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 age is just a number. but i'd be careful, she's only 18 and even some states, not even of age yet, meaning she may be inexperienced with long term relationships and you don't want to get into that. also because she's younger and presumably more carefree, you want to ENSURE that she is reciprocating the flirting going on. 1
Assasda Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Cant believe at your cowardice when she's so young.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I think you two are probably in quite different stages of your life. In this scenario, I think that would be the biggest obstacle. At 28 and 38 it might be more workable, but she's barely an adult yet. Consider that before moving forward with this. 1
Author germain Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 I understand the age issue completely. I dated a 19y/o when I was 24 and even that was a bit rough. I'm not expecting things to get too serious and that's okay. You change so much 18-24ish, you can't expect a whole lot. also because she's younger and presumably more carefree, you want to ENSURE that she is reciprocating the flirting going on. I agree but why do you say because she's young? Things would definitely be a little uncomfortable if she shot me down, but I'd make sure it was obvious and she was into me before. I can avoid her if worse came to worse. Cant believe at your cowardice when she's so young. How do you mean? I'm pretty confident approaching her. I'm really just afraid of potentially losing a good job or at the very least causing a bit of a stink if it started going around. Although I could handle the latter really. Also with her friend being into me, that could be trouble when she likely knows everything going on...
David87 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Too many red flags my friend. The first one is the age difference, If you want a one night stand then it's ok but she's no god for a long therm relationship. The second red flag is that you work together, this could blow out in your face in so many ways especially if you say that her friend is involved to somehow, not to tell that you could lose your job. 1
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