somedude81 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Cause they seemed to forget they were talking to me, when something new appears/happens and they turn their back to me and walk away without saying a word.
thefooloftheyear Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 No...But they do have difficulty with depth perception... TFY
johan Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 They tend to be color blind, from what I understand. And they really only see things that either move very quickly or sparkle. 7
Phoe Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Our attention span averages somewhere between goldfish and squirrel. 3
thefooloftheyear Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 They tend to be color blind, from what I understand. And they really only see things that either move very quickly or sparkle. I think you are confusing women with Largemouth Bass.. TFY 3
Author somedude81 Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Our attention span averages somewhere between goldfish and squirrel. I was thinking more along the lines of dog, that just saw a squirrel. Anyways it's weird how often it happens that I'm talking to a girl then she just walks away without saying a word.
xxoo Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I was thinking more along the lines of dog, that just saw a squirrel. Anyways it's weird how often it happens that I'm talking to a girl then she just walks away without saying a word. If it happens a lot, maybe you're missing a cue that they are about to leave the conversation. How much conversation are we talking about? A real discussion? Or just a couple words exchanged? 1
Author somedude81 Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 If it happens a lot, maybe you're missing a cue that they are about to leave the conversation. How much conversation are we talking about? A real discussion? Or just a couple words exchanged? So today I'm sitting on the floor of the dance studio and a girl sits down a few feet from me. I've talked to a her a few times before so we're familiar with each other. I start talking to her and she talks about her astronomy class what it's about and stuff like that. Then it's time to dance and the instructor teaches us a new Irish jig because Patties day is coming up. So I'm her partner for that. The conversation has shifted to dancing and drinking. After about three minutes of that we start salsa dancing, and the conversation shifts to her feeling tired because she's stressed and so on. Then the instructor says something like "Ok class we're going to go over the test review", and she's gone. Doesn't say anything to me or look back. She just disappears without a word and seems to completely forget that she was with me for the past 15 minutes. I know she had a good time with me and she gave me no impression at all of wanting to be somewhere else. There was an incident on Monday where a girl also walked away from me without saying anything after we've been talking and dancing, but I did get the feeling that she wanted out because she wasn't that involved with the conversation. The girl I was with today had much more enthusiasm.
xxoo Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 It sounds like the teacher shifted the conversation by calling everyone's attention. Perfectly normal that she'd turn her attention away at that moment. I'd find it odd and rude (to the teacher, and the class) if she didn't. 2
Author somedude81 Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 It sounds like the teacher shifted the conversation by calling everyone's attention. Perfectly normal that she'd turn her attention away at that moment. I'd find it odd and rude (to the teacher, and the class) if she didn't. She could have at least said something to me, "Like come on" or "I'm going to the front" or even, "it was nice talking to you" something to acknowledge our time together. The other girl that I mentioned had no such excuse. She just straight up walked away as soon as she was able and started going through her phone. I have a pretty strong impression that she knows I'm interested and she may be trying to keep her distance. But she's so cute
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 She was being nice by engaging you. The teacher gave her an out, and she took it. 1
xxoo Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 She could have at least said something to me, "Like come on" or "I'm going to the front" or even, "it was nice talking to you" something to acknowledge our time together. The other girl that I mentioned had no such excuse. She just straight up walked away as soon as she was able and started going through her phone. She could have, but it's not really necessary under these circumstances. She's appropriately focused on class in class, not her dancing partner. It would be different in a primarily social setting (not class setting). 2
GoreSP Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Our attention span averages somewhere between goldfish and squirrel. I agree with… Oh! piece of candy! 3
Author somedude81 Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 She was being nice by engaging you. The teacher gave her an out, and she took it. Hmm, I have to think about that. The first girl I was talking about didn't seem like she was just being nice. Though maybe she was and that's just her personality. That thought is a bit of an ego hit. The second girl was definitely not engaging me as much, and she also seems to have a more reserved/quiet personality. Anyway to find out if a girl is only talking to me just because she's being nice?
xxoo Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Hmm, I have to think about that. The first girl I was talking about didn't seem like she was just being nice. Though maybe she was and that's just her personality. That thought is a bit of an ego hit. The second girl was definitely not engaging me as much, and she also seems to have a more reserved/quiet personality. Anyway to find out if a girl is only talking to me just because she's being nice? In a class, I am definitely going to talk to the person sitting next to me, and also the person dancing with me. I'm not going to be rude and refuse to engage conversation. I'd imagine most adults would do the same. But that doesn't mean she wouldn't date you. It just means you have to kick it up a notch, beyond "chatting with my dance partner" to "chatting with my friend in dance class". 2
Author somedude81 Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 In a class, I am definitely going to talk to the person sitting next to me, and also the person dancing with me. I'm not going to be rude and refuse to engage conversation. I'd imagine most adults would do the same. But that doesn't mean she wouldn't date you. It just means you have to kick it up a notch, beyond "chatting with my dance partner" to "chatting with my friend in dance class". I know what you mean. But not every girl actually engages me in conversation or they show very little interest in keeping a conversation going. How much a girl seems to enjoy talking to me is my primary basis for deciding if I want to ask her out. The girl that I wrote this thread about has shown me "high engagement" a few times already, so I was surprised when she just walked away. Though it may be that her behavior was acceptable because she her desire to pay attention in class was more important than me. As for kicking it up a notch, that's why I made this thread
clia Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I'm trying to imagine this scenario, and I have to say that if I was dancing and conversing with a guy who I hoped would ask me out, I would not just walk away from him without saying a word. No way. I would at least bid him farewell. I'm sorry, but I don't think she is interested in you beyond friendship and friendliness in class. Obviously she is not going to be rude to her dance partner, so she conversed with you and was friendly. JMO. 1
Author somedude81 Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 I'm trying to imagine this scenario, and I have to say that if I was dancing and conversing with a guy who I hoped would ask me out, I would not just walk away from him without saying a word. No way. I would at least bid him farewell. I'm sorry, but I don't think she is interested in you beyond friendship and friendliness in class. Obviously she is not going to be rude to her dance partner, so she conversed with you and was friendly. JMO. Oh I'm pretty sure she's not interested in me, at least not yet. I've only spoken to her about three times, and each was very briefly. I was just wondering why girls seem to disappear without saying anything when something new shows up. It's like they don't understand that it's rude to just walk away from somebody you were talking with without saying anything.
MidwestUSA Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 I was just wondering why girls seem to disappear without saying anything when something new shows up. It's like they don't understand that it's rude to just walk away from somebody you were talking with without saying anything. It goes back to attention span and manners. They're simply moving on to what interests them in the next moment. Bigger, better deal. Shinier, newer things. It's a function of the age group. 2
ascendotum Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 In a class, I am definitely going to talk to the person sitting next to me, and also the person dancing with me. I'm not going to be rude and refuse to engage conversation. I'd imagine most adults would do the same. ^ I agree that is not being rude and its being pleasant, but walking off in mid conversation will be considered rude by many people. While the teacher may start talking, she can still stay next to SD and listen, and does not have to drop the conversation and turn on him and walk off or like the other girl suddenly remember she has to check her phone for a msg a and just walk off to play with her phone. If you care how you are perceived by the person you were in middle of conversation with, you would excuse yourself and say you are going to the front to hear better or you need to check your phone. Alas for SD, SOLs reply pretty much covers it...imo 1
RedRobin Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 (edited) It sounds like the teacher shifted the conversation by calling everyone's attention. Perfectly normal that she'd turn her attention away at that moment. I'd find it odd and rude (to the teacher, and the class) if she didn't. I agree to this... Plus SD, she might have picked up on the glaring look from the teacher for the two of you to stop yammering. Which is code for 'shut up right now and listen' My ballet teacher does this. Hates it when people carry on discussions during class time. She's barked at me a couple of times. Not all teachers bark though. Most do expect your full attention during class. ... also, lets not forget that SD is likely hitting on younger girls... early 20's. I wouldn't say their social skills are always most developed a lot of the time. Edited March 14, 2014 by RedRobin
Author somedude81 Posted March 14, 2014 Author Posted March 14, 2014 Then it probably is just the girls not having fully developed social graces yet. It definitely is rude. Also, I'm most likely not shiny enough to hold a girls attention for a long time. That's something I'll have to work on.
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