arlington Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 About two months ago I met a guy through a group of new friends that I started hangiing out with. At first, he would sit next to me at dinners, bars, etc and pats on the shoulders became pats on the leg and then at one point we began holding hands under the table. He had a party at his place for New Years and I conveniently had too much to drink and so I stayed over the night and we slept together for the first time. Just sleeping and no sex. We talked about whats was going on between us and I found out that he was hurt by the last person he was dating as he found you that this person was seeing someone else behind his back. Apparently he was really hurt and said that he won't kiss me until he trusts me and I said ok fine well I won't have sex with you until you can kiss me and he is fine with that. We talked about our relationship and he said that he was not yet comfortable with the term dating and that he was not yet willing to open his heart up just yet so he calls us friends with an interest in more. We have slept together on two more occassions and still no sex. This is driving me crazy as I am afraid that my feelings for him will intensify as they already have been and I don't how I should proceed. Any advice?
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 Apparently he was really hurt sounds like despite what his ex did to him he still has feelings for her and he isn't ready for another relationship he sounds like a good guy who doesn't really want to hurt your feelings by jumping into a relationship with you while his heart hasn't moved on he is enjoying your friendship at the present but he may take a long while to completely heal
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