avoforastig Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I'm a novice to the multi-dating game. I have a third date with a girl on Friday evening that I'm pretty indifferent towards at this point. Via OLD site I met another girl I'd really like to meet. However, the only time our schedules mesh is on Friday afternoon, since neither of us works Friday. Otherwise, it'll probably have to wait until the following week. Usually I'm in favor of meeting ASAP once I establish a connection. As a novice, would anyone recommend two dates in one day or is this just a disaster in the making?
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I have done it before, no big deal. Just make sure you don't tell them. 1
PegNosePete Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 How would you feel if the new girl was meeting another guy for a 3rd date on the same evening after meeting you? If you can answer that honestly then I think you'll have your answer.
d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Are you good at scheduling & do you adhere to boundaries? If so go ahead. Just schedule them far enough apart that you have time to have fun on the first date, get home, shower & change then go on the 2nd date. That middle piece is very important. 1
ctxinfl Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I've set up a few first time dates on the same day due to scheduling. Not ideal, though it works so long as you keep it yourself and give yourself enough time between dates.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 It just seems efficient to me! Now, if this thread would alter a bit and be about banging one girl in the afternoon and then another a night I can see this being a potential problem lol
deathandtaxes Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I've done two in a day. I've done three. It's all about logistics. And it just tells me that I'm not really into some of them if I have a date with somebody else. I'm not the biggest fan of multi-dating. It means that you don't have strong feelings for somebody if you're already looking to go out with another. The fact you're indifferent about the first and setting up a date with the second speaks volumes. Do the first lady a favor and cancel your date with her.
FitChick Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I've done dates on back to back days and found it exhausting. Can't imagine doing them all in the same day.
Stay Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I've done two in a day. I've done three. It's all about logistics. And it just tells me that I'm not really into some of them if I have a date with somebody else. I'm not the biggest fan of multi-dating. It means that you don't have strong feelings for somebody if you're already looking to go out with another. The fact you're indifferent about the first and setting up a date with the second speaks volumes. Do the first lady a favor and cancel your date with her. That's not necessarily true that you don't have strong feelings because you really don't have much feelings for a person you're going on a first date with and you shouldn't have much feelings early on in these relationships. So there's really nothing wrong to date a few to see who you connect with the most.
organizedchaos Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I'm a novice to the multi-dating game. I have a third date with a girl on Friday evening that I'm pretty indifferent towards at this point. Via OLD site I met another girl I'd really like to meet. However, the only time our schedules mesh is on Friday afternoon, since neither of us works Friday. Otherwise, it'll probably have to wait until the following week. Usually I'm in favor of meeting ASAP once I establish a connection. As a novice, would anyone recommend two dates in one day or is this just a disaster in the making? It's only a disaster if you meet them both in the same place and the second one shows up early. So keep the locations separate and don't tell them you're seeing someone else the same day. You're not in an exclusive relationship with either one so what's the harm?
organizedchaos Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 That's not necessarily true that you don't have strong feelings because you really don't have much feelings for a person you're going on a first date with and you shouldn't have much feelings early on in these relationships. So there's really nothing wrong to date a few to see who you connect with the most. Exactly. Love at first site is so rare. It's near impossible to be so smitten with someone SO early in the dating process. If you are, it typically signals a stage 5 clinger and will scare women off. Date around until you reach a point where you both feel a strong enough connection to want to date only each other.
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