NoOne Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 I am attracted to my guy friend David. He has a girlfriend of 5 years, whom i am also friends with. I would NEVER act on these feelings, but it doesnt even feel like an attraction.... just an intrest.... *sigh*. I have a boyfriend, and i am finding him so unappealing as of late (ever since he cheated).. Why am I having these feelings? Is it that I should move on from my boyfriend? And if so... why dont I feel attracted to David as much as I have other people? Like I dont really find him cute and I wouldnt really want him as a boyfriend.... I know you cant answer these FOR me... but maybe you could give some insight?
audiojunky Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 Maybe you are somewhat envious of your girlfriend's boyfriend. Is he faithful and nice to her like you want your boyfriend to be? I think a large part of it also is that your current boyfriend cheated on you, and maybe you have not quite accepted that in your own head. If you have felt so unattracted to him since he misused your trust, then why are you still with him? On top of thinking about all those things.. don't forget to think about the events and attitude that you or your bf had before the cheating incident happened. You have to question why he really did it and find out if it was an issue that you were bringing into the relationship, or whether it was just his lame sense of respect for you. If you don't answer these things you may never find your BF attractive or appealing again.
Blondewriter Posted January 26, 2005 Posted January 26, 2005 Personally, I think every woman deserves better than a man who cheats. My advice for you would be to realize that you are too good of a person to put up with that behavior in a relationship. As for your friend David, I have found that it is easy to become attracted to a friend because you already have a connection. You care for him as a friend and he probably treats you well, as he would any friend. It's easy to confuse those feelings for attraction. However, David is obviously unavailable and there is an available man out there somewhere for you. The sooner you get rid of your boyfriend, the sooner you will find a better man.
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