thatconfusedgirl Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I've been dating this guy for just over 3 months, he was a traveller I met on holiday and him and his friend crashed on my couch for a few days when they came to my city. We hit it off and because of his lifestyle he stayed/lived at my place. Things got pretty serious pretty quick, after about a month we were making plans to go visit his family in france together, organising paperwork in case we needed to apply for a partnership visa, etc. Then at some point the fuzzy love eyes faded and I realised that our connection was really weak, because of the language barrier a lot of natural humour was lost and we relied almost solely on being silly to get a smile (which can become quite irritating if someone's constantly poking you or getting in your face), I also found that his emotions were heavily invested in me and this applied a lot of pressure, and most importantly I stopped feeling sexually attracted to him. We broke up this morning, which was his choice, he left in the night and left a letter explaining how he knew I wasn't happy and he couldn't stand to see me force the feelings I didn't have. It was very mature and felt really clean. And I was relieved (and a little sad of course). But then he came by tonight to collect some things, he couldn't look at me, or talk to me, eyes filled with tears. Stormed in and stormed out. He sent me a text saying "I miss you so much!!" I miss him to, it's lonely without someone to tell your day to, or give you a good cuddle, but I know breaking-up is what I need. Do I reply? I don't want to seem too cold and dismissive of his feelings, but I also don't want to give him hope. At some point we have to be in contact on account of some loose ends. Where do I go from here?
d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Kindness is always appreciated but he may not see the intellectual reasons you two can't be together. If you send him a reply along the lines of you're a really good guy but we just don't work . . . it's like a breadcrumb. You are giving him false hope.
Barbarossa Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I would just ignore his texts he will find someone else soon enough
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I commend you both on the mature handling of the breakup.
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