Hurting-girl Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Hi Everyone Its been two weeks since i broke up with my ex and i feel so empty and bitter, we have been dating for 5 years and we were supposed to get married this year, I found out that he is cheating on my in January and i broke up with him, he begged for forgiveness so many times and i gave him a chance. He came over to my place (we are in long distance relationship) and we talked and solved our issues then out of the blue the lady whom he cheated me with sent him a message and he refused to disclose the contents to me. I realised that they never broke up and according to my ex the lady is now pregnant with his child. I felt like my world is collapsing i couldn't believe that my lover did that to me he betrayed . I am so hurt!!! please help me to get over him!!
David87 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 (edited) Hi Everyone Its been two weeks since i broke up with my ex and i feel so empty and bitter, we have been dating for 5 years and we were supposed to get married this year, I found out that he is cheating on my in January and i broke up with him, he begged for forgiveness so many times and i gave him a chance. He came over to my place (we are in long distance relationship) and we talked and solved our issues then out of the blue the lady whom he cheated me with sent him a message and he refused to disclose the contents to me. I realised that they never broke up and according to my ex the lady is now pregnant with his child. I felt like my world is collapsing i couldn't believe that my lover did that to me he betrayed . I am so hurt!!! please help me to get over him!! Welcome to LS. Sorry this happened to you. But in a strange way it's better that this didn't happen later when marriage or even kids were involved. You did the right thing by dumping him because he's a lying and cheating douchebag. I know how much it hurts, but it will get better in time. Don't call or text him, block him on social media and start NC. Edited March 12, 2014 by David87 2
LostConfused123 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I'm so sorry for your pain! You did the right thing. I know that doesn't help but just keep coming here. We're all here for you and understand your pain. For most everyone here, it's the most excruciating pain we've ever experienced. Sending you big fat hugs!!!! 1
mangetout Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Hurting girl I cannot begin to express how sorry I am for you as I have been in your shoes. My ex fiancé cheated on me with an ex of his three days after our engagement party. I was devastated. I dumped him but took him back a few months afterwards. It was the worse mistake I ever made because I couldn't trust him anymore. I also found out that his ex got pregnant around the same time as when they had sex. My ex swears its not his but who knows eh!! All I am saying is stick to your guns and stay away from him. Especially if he has a child with this woman. You are in for a lot of hurt but you will be in even more pain if you pursue this relationship even further. You will wake up one morning and see him for what he really. A very immature man with a lot of baggage. And then you wont hurt so much. I promise you 1
Author Hurting-girl Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Thank you friends Its tough hey, i get so emotional and hurt every time i think about his betrayal, I am currently staying alone i don't have friends around to relieve my stress. At least i can vent in this thread without being judged. I am always looking out for him to text me or send an email but he doesn't. Does it really get better??? I cannot wait to relocate from this place to another town to start a new life. I really wonder if he thinks about me at all. He seems to be enjoying life whilst i am here torn and lonely. Life!!!!
mangetout Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Cheating on someone is the WORSE thing to do to another person. I know you are in a lot of pain and you are in shock. But that will subside eventually. It will take time though. It hurt immensely for two months. I couldn't stop crying. Please make sure you are safe
WYSWYG Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I wish you strength and fortitude to endure this bottom-less misery, Hurting-girl. It has broken your heart but don't let it break your spirit. Keep posting and reading here. These forum offers the needed consolation and ease the blow. We're all hurting just like you. Acceptance is painful but that pain will not last. There will be sunshine again in your life after this storm. He too, will feel it one day......that mofo! 1
Lifegoezon Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 This is horrible for you and there is nothing that will make it better right away. Many of us have been where you are and some of us still struggle with adjusting. But it truly does get better bit by tiny little bit. You just have to take it day by day, absolutely no contact including internet stalking, and don't accept any overtures from him. He's history and you deserve better. We all do. Good luck. Keep coming here where you will get all the support you need.
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