oceanblue93 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I had a long distance relationship with a guy for 8 months and eventually he ending up moving to Australia and moving into my home. All together he had been apart of my life everyday for 1.5 years. Our relationship seemed pretty special, however cracks began to show shortly after he moved here. I discovered from his Facebook that before leaving his home country he had met a girl at a festival and they had apparently 'kissed'. They discussed in facebook conversations their romantic feelings, as well as sexual feelings. This made me pretty upset and we nearly broke up about it. However, we didn't and I gave him another chance. The next thing that happened was that he had met a girl out on a night out with his friends in Australia and subsequently wanted to meet her for dinner alone. He told me I wasn't allowed to come and that she was moving to another city and he wanted to do it alone. I was confused, upset and angry that I had welcomed this man into my life in everyway and he was trying to shut me out of his new friendships. Eventually he invited me but told the girl that I felt uncomfortable with them being alone, hence why I had to attend. Of course it never happened and eventually the whole situation just disappeared. About 4 months later I find out that he and this dinner date girl are messaging everyday and I begin to be concerned and question the nature of their friendship. I am told by my boyfriend that I am jealous and that there is absolutely nothing going on, I even communicate my fear that they will gain feelings for each other from talking everyday and he straight out denies it would ever happen and that he loves me and needs me and wants to make the most of this relationship. On further investigation I discover that they feel romantic towards each other, a desire to be together and discuss their sexual desires. Straight away I call him and break up with him and all he can say is sorry.. he appears to be pretty speechless. That same day he sent me standard messages saying he always loved me. He also came to my house to get his things which I made sure I left outside and said he was sorry and hoped he could change and see me again, I just shut him down. Since then, it has been two days and I have not heard a word from him. Honestly I did expect that he would show some sort of remorse, considering he had a nerve to move into my family home rent free, and was given a job by my family. But not a single word has been said and it has made me question the entire relationship in general. Did he ever love me? Did he only use me for my resources? Will he ever speak to me again? I never would take him back, that is something that I know clearly. I think this is the best thing that has happened to me - to be separated from such a pathological liar. However, I did think that he would deep down try and make amends for the pain he caused? Any advice would really help, I am the most confused I have ever been
innocentbutterfly Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 (edited) Well hello there. I see you were in a LDR too. Welcome to the club. Also a dumpee here. You know, I think this guy is full of ****. Just like mine was. Except yours kept lying even after having been caught. It's normal. He's been caught and he threw some bull**** into messages to you to not seem like he did somthing terribly wrong. Or he just tried to still keep you around and keep fooling you. I'm sorry you had to go through this. It's too sad when you think you know a person, but later you really see the face they hid from you fro so long. It makes you think hollywood is really missing some good actors right there. And don't expect any remorse from him. Guys like him dont have it. It's normal for them what they do and if you said he has been chatting with this girl, he may have let go of feelings for you a long time ago. So he doesn't really feel like he owes you anything, maybe even in a way he feels relief he didn't have to do it. You should have not given him a second chance Let him be and forget about it. You deserve better than that. Edited March 12, 2014 by innocentbutterfly
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