amyO Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I became friends with a guy at my college back in September. I knew he had a girlfriend, but I didn't think much of him in any way except a friend. We became a lot closer as friends and I began to really fall for him. It started becoming obvious that he liked me as well. He has never been inappropriate towards me and never tried to do anything with me. I of course would never do anything towards him in that way either. We would text a lot and he would always come to my room to hangout with my roommate and I. He would literally spend more time hanging out with me/talking to me then his own girlfriend. I kept feeling he would break up with his girlfriend soon, but they're still together. I know it was wrong of me to even like him/talk to him, but I feel really played. He will continuously flirt with me and ask what I'm doing on the weekends. He will come to hangout and again, show that he likes me. He literally never brings up his girlfriend around me and at parties will try to avoid her when I'm around. Even times when he is with his girlfriend, he'll text me. Example: He spent time with his girlfriend on NYE and texted me a half hour before the "new Year" because he was afraid his phone would die. Also, at a bar with all our friends, he kept asking me to sit near him and stay with him even though his girlfriend was in the same room. We even went to a concert with our friends recently and he kept calling me his "date" and trying to put his arm around me. I guess all in all, he sounds like someone that likes that he has a girlfriend, but can still flirt and "like" another girl as well. It just bothers me because I've never been played like this in a sense and especially by someone who I have become close friends with. It confuses me and hurts me a great deal. I guess I'm asking if anyone has been through this and what are helpful ways to deal with this situation?
newmoon Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 he didn't play you. you're playing a game all by yourself. he never promised to break up with his girlfriend for you. it doesn't even sound like you have a real friendship/relationship. you're hoping for more and just bummed it's not going in that direction. you can't put any blame on this guy for not returning feelings only you have. texting doesn't mean he likes you more than his gf. I think you're confused. 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I'm not sure why you feel played?? You've given no indication of sexual advances, promises of a relationship, or discussions of leaving his girlfriend. It's apparent that he likes hanging out with you and your friends, but you're not giving much else to go on as far as feeling played... 1
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