My recovery story. You'll all be ok. read for your sake. BARKY THANK YOU

[jphcbpa]

Happiness within yourself is true happiness man . Really delighted for you, keep it up and help spread the word that things really do get better.

 

agree...this is an inside job. "things" from the outside are not going to seep in and give me contented joy. happiness is a by product of right living, doing the next right thing imho.

 

do what makes you passionate. for me, it is helping other men in my 12 step programs. it gives me a joy that the world or another person cannot steal.

[jphcbpa]

for me the shift started to happen when I stopped trying to rush the process. i was thinking i needed to hurry up and get over it....get back out there and start dating. for me, what i realized is that i need to trust the process, heal up right and let it be. that is was okay to still be in love and not be with her. that was just where i was at the time. i do not need to bury/stuff those feelings.

 

also i knew that "getting back out there" was only going to be used to medicate my pain/hurt. that the only way to truly move on was to be alone and have peace while being alone and doing my thing. i started to notice that i enjoyed coming home at night and just being by myself. i started to notice that i looked forward to doing the simple things i like to do.

[you.will.be.ok]

Thank you for sharing.

 

As much as I hate to admit this, I'm still not over my ex after 7 months. I recently just started NC again (2 months ago) but from time to time I go through these low points wondering if I made the right decision telling her to never contact me again (which she hasn't). I guess it is more disbelief of all the things that happened to me...

 

I hope one day I will get to the point you are at. I really appreciate your post because it honestly gives me a lot of hope...but I also question my sanity for not being over my ex yet too. I just need to continue to be patient and it will come, just as it has for you and many others on this forum.

 

There's no time frame, don't question your sanity, you'll get yourself happy it really is just a matter of time.

 

What sticks out to me is that you 'just started NC again', implying that it was broken before. NC did me the world of good, no matter how hard it is you simply have to cut them out of your life in every aspect, seeing what they're doing or what they're planning will ONLY hold you back. Stick to it and you'll absolutely recover and probably be happier than ever .

[Snow101]

Barky, I need an intervention. Can I fly out to Boston and party it up with you while you school me on the method to the madness? Can you convince this stubborn idiot (aka me) to let go and live again? I'll pay for the drinks.