whitneyblue Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 (edited) So I'll just get right to the point with this, although its a bit of a long story. I (somewhat) recently started seeing someone new, and it was probably the best start to a "relationship" that i've had thus far. We kept finding all of these strange coincidences where we were both in the same EXTREMELY random places at the same times and didnt meet, found out randomly that his best friend was my next door neighbor, etc. Regardless, we have an amazing time together, I like and get along great with his friends and vice versa, and everything just all around felt "right" (there's literally no other word i can use to describe it, as cliche as it sounds). Not too far into it however, he was offered an amazing job that he could not turn down on the other side of the country and had to leave. I have no hard feelings about this whatsoever, I am a very career oriented person and I think he made the right choice by leaving, but it left me in a very confused place, because i'm not generally the type of girl to throw down a huge risk for a guy like getting involved long distance right off the bat, but at the same time it felt pretty wrong to let go of someone that I was so 100%, gut feeling, sure about. So he left, it was surprisingly actually pretty emotional, we both cryed, etc. He has consistently throughout assured me that his intentions with me are serious, etc, which I believe. Even going as far as to say that if I were to find it in myself to move there, he would be all about it and would want us to have a serious relationship. Which is not too far fetched as i had already been very seriously motivated to move elsewhere and get out of my current area. We skype almost every night, text, call etc every day..my problem lies within the fact that I was completely screwed over in a previous relationship and that left me with some trust issues. There was one thing that raised some doubt in my mind, and that was a girl who lives in the new city that he moved to leaving a comment on his wall right before he left, saying "i heard I might get to meet you soon ;)" or something along those lines... this girl has many mutual friends with him there locally and hangs out with his friends on a regular basis..and to all appearances looks like they had previously been trying to set him up with her. He didnt respond, so I didnt think anything of it, and then a few days later she commented again saying "welcome to the area" and he responded saying "thanks, look forward to meeting you" or something along those lines. Since then she has liked almost ALL of his statuses and pictures etc. Which seems weird to me. my gut feeling is that I have never gotten a sketchy vibe from him and that he is a good guy, and he has continued to assure me on a regular basis that he has serious interest in pursuing a relationship with me. i will be flying out to visit in a couple of weeks, so I was going to play it by ear and see how it goes...Is it worth the risk? :/ Edited March 11, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author whitneyblue Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 also should probably mention that I am now in second rounds of a job interview process for a job to possibly move there...jobs do NOT open up easily or frequently in my line of work and one was sent to my email by a recruiter right around this time, and I applied for it. While it would be a step up for me career wise, and i was looking to move anyway, it definitely put more on the line for me.
ja123 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 If your new job is a step-up and it's in the same town where he lives, then I'd say go for it! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If the relationship doesn't work out, then you have still done yourself a favour by getting a better job. Good luck! 3
Author whitneyblue Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Thanks, very good advice! I was planning on taking the job regardless of what happens with him, but still wondering what I should think about the other chick. time will tell I suppose?
Assasda Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Thanks, very good advice! I was planning on taking the job regardless of what happens with him, but still wondering what I should think about the other chick. time will tell I suppose? hahahaha, maybe you should fight the other girl, you jealous jenny. hahahaha Bust seriously, stop projecting your past relationships unto this guy, you could lose him by doing that
Author whitneyblue Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 hahahaha, maybe you should fight the other girl, you jealous jenny. hahahaha Bust seriously, stop projecting your past relationships unto this guy, you could lose him by doing that LOL, heard. Easier said than done though.
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