Found boyfriend's old sex tape of him and ex

[Trimmer]

Okay well I've read all of your replies, had a good long think and I've concluded this:

 

 

All the people telling me to forget it, focus on the present and how it means nothing in the grand scheme of things sound like emotionally healthy, rational people. All those telling me the opposite (he's a cheater, he's a misogynist, he still loves her, I would have deleted it, etc...) sound, well, a bit insane.

Ha ha... this made me laugh so hard. I think you're going to be OK, girl.

[WLFL]

The physical attraction will always be there (they've all been hotties lol). And it's hard for me to just cut off any sentimental feelings that may be there as well. Again, I guess some people are wired differently. But the thing I can't understand is why I would need to hang out one-on-one with my ex if I have a gf at home? What's the purpose of this?

 

 

 

When you ask that question, you are again attaching emotional significance to the ex by lumping them in the same category as the current partner.

My ex is just a male friend and I have many of them. He makes me laugh and we get on well, I hang out with him for the banter. Does he give me butterflies? No. Does he turn me on? Hell no. Does he offer Intimacy? Sex? Hand-holding? No, no and no. My partner does.

[Hello_is_it_me]

When you ask that question, you are again attaching emotional significance to the ex by lumping them in the same category as the current partner.

My ex is just a male friend and I have many of them. He makes me laugh and we get on well, I hang out with him for the banter. Does he give me butterflies? No. Does he turn me on? Hell no. Does he offer Intimacy? Sex? Hand-holding? No, no and no. My partner does.

 

Ah, for the baaaaaanter. lol. We're just different then. I would never date someone that hung out with their ex for banter.

[WLFL]

Ah, for the baaaaaanter. lol. We're just different then. I would never date someone that hung out with their ex for banter.

 

 

 

Banter? As in having a drink, chatting, laughing and then parting ways?

That's a LOT of people you're not gonna be able to date!

[WLFL]

You snooped.

 

 

You're too late to the party I'm afraid, I've already explained that I think 5 times in this thread. Not doing it again.

[Copelandsanity]

Now that everything is settled, was the sex tape really hot?

[kaylan]

I have no idea why men and women keep these things after breakups. I steer clear of women who hang onto ex momentos. And I definitely don't date women who are friends with their exes, its always been drama in my experience and my friends experiences.

[kaylan]

It's no big deal to your boyfriend but imagine how the ex-girlfriend would feel knowing you saw something that she thought was private?

 

Just another example of why you shouldn't make sex videos or take nude pics. Someone else will ALWAYS see them.

 

True that its better not to create such media. Luckily I'm smart and considerate enough to delete that stuff when I'm done hooking up with a girl or when i break up with an ex. A couple girls have pics of me I hope they've gotten rid of.

[WLFL]

Goodness. I actually thought I was the cripplingly insecure one posting this thread, but after seeing how many posts/posters have problems with exes and how they would react in these situations, I'm starting to realise I am actually not that bad!

 

 

Been quite an eye-opener.

[Robert]

I trust the thread starter has gotten the advice she needed, thanks