MissNoname Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I need some advice please. My bf doesnt want to talk to me. He is punishing me for something I didnt mean to do. We argued yesterday and after working a long night and being sick I didnt want to argue. I wanted to sleep, I may have said something that made him upset. He said I made him worried then all i would say is not to worry about it. I called him late at night then he texted me early in the morning saying he just woke up and to let him know when to call him. I texted him after work saying its ok I got it figured out. He got upset and started saying I made him worry and thats all Im gonna say. I guess because I did not talk to him on the phone. We started arguing and I said I was tired and not feeling well and thats the kind of treatment I was getting from him. He knows Im going out that day so I needed to sleep. I texted him when I came home and he did not respond. I told him I would like us to resolve our issue. I sent him another text the next day and he said that I cut him off and went to my friends and only want to talk on my convenience. I feel like hes punishing me. He still doesnt want to talk and I dont know what to do. I did not mean to hurt him in any way and I tried to explain that to him. He is a caring bf. He never treated me like this before. Maybe I hurt him so much? Please I need some advice! I dont know what to do. Fyi i also started on birth control pill this week so im feeling alot of different emotions.
SunnySide0418 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 It sounds as if by going out you made him feel that was more important and when you got home you were ready to talk. I'd be upset too but not talking to you is a bit juvenille.
Author MissNoname Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 It sounds as if by going out you made him feel that was more important and when you got home you were ready to talk. I'd be upset too but not talking to you is a bit juvenille. I told him about my plan of going out a while ago. Im not sure why all of the sudden he started to argue with me that morning. He knew I needed to sleep so I could go out in the afternoon. I already said sorry for hurting him. I did not mean to hurt him.
Assasda Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 "YOu may have said something to make him upset" what did you say?
Author MissNoname Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 I am sending this message to my bf who is mad at me for not listening to him when he wanted to talk. I give him space for a day and Im thinking of sending him a message to let him know Im deeply sorry and that I care about him so much. Hi babe, Hope your day is going smooth. I just wanted to let you know that I care about you more than you know. I may have failed to show it to you lately but you mean alot to me. I miss your hugs and kisses when were apart. Babe lets kiss and make up. I miss you. I miss your kisses. I miss your hugs. I miss everything about you. I miss how you make me laugh. I miss lying next to you. I miss how happy we are when were together. Your texts makes me smile. Your presence makes my heart beat fast. Your smile brightens my day. Your kisses ummm your kisses sends chills to my spine. Your hugs melt my heart like chocolate ice cream. When I am with you my troubles seem to melt away. You make me feel safe. I am sorry for the wrong things that Ive done. I will be more considerate of your feelings. I will listen when you want to talk. I am with you when u need me. And tho I don't see you everyday, I am thinking of you. You make me smile. I miss you so much. Please honest opinion. Should I send it? Im thinking of sending it in the morning. Anything I should remove/ add? I appreciate the help.
Hello_is_it_me Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I am sending this message to my bf who is mad at me for not listening to him when he wanted to talk. I give him space for a day and Im thinking of sending him a message to let him know Im deeply sorry and that I care about him so much. Hi babe, Hope your day is going smooth. I just wanted to let you know that I care about you more than you know. I may have failed to show it to you lately but you mean alot to me. I miss your hugs and kisses when were apart. Babe lets kiss and make up. I miss you. I miss your kisses. I miss your hugs. I miss everything about you. I miss how you make me laugh. I miss lying next to you. I miss how happy we are when were together. Your texts makes me smile. Your presence makes my heart beat fast. Your smile brightens my day. Your kisses ummm your kisses sends chills to my spine. Your hugs melt my heart like chocolate ice cream. When I am with you my troubles seem to melt away. You make me feel safe. I am sorry for the wrong things that Ive done. I will be more considerate of your feelings. I will listen when you want to talk. I am with you when u need me. And tho I don't see you everyday, I am thinking of you. You make me smile. I miss you so much. Please honest opinion. Should I send it? Im thinking of sending it in the morning. Anything I should remove/ add? I appreciate the help. Really as an honest guy, a lot of it's a little too cliched. The chills to spine and chocolate ice cream stuff just hurts the credibility of the message. But that's just imo. Everyone's different. 1
Author MissNoname Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 Really as an honest guy, a lot of it's a little too cliched. The chills to spine and chocolate ice cream stuff just hurts the credibility of the message. But that's just imo. Everyone's different. Thank you i think the same way. Maybe I should remove that part.
TXGuy Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Make it shorter. If he is mad, he is not going to read through all of that. Cut it down to a third of that and take out the cliches. 2
Author MissNoname Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 Make it shorter. If he is mad, he is not going to read through all of that. Cut it down to a third of that and take out the cliches. Thank you. I will remove the cliches. What important parts should I retain?
pickflicker Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I am sending this message to my bf who is mad at me for not listening to him when he wanted to talk. I give him space for a day and Im thinking of sending him a message to let him know Im deeply sorry and that I care about him so much. Hi babe, Hope your day is going smooth. I just wanted to let you know that I care about you more than you know. I may have failed to show it to you lately but you mean alot to me. I miss your hugs and kisses when were apart. Babe lets kiss and make up. I miss you. I miss your kisses. I miss your hugs. I miss everything about you. I miss how you make me laugh. I miss lying next to you. I miss how happy we are when were together. Your texts makes me smile. Your presence makes my heart beat fast. Your smile brightens my day. Your kisses ummm your kisses sends chills to my spine. Your hugs melt my heart like chocolate ice cream. When I am with you my troubles seem to melt away. You make me feel safe. I am sorry for the wrong things that Ive done. I will be more considerate of your feelings. I will listen when you want to talk. I am with you when u need me. And tho I don't see you everyday, I am thinking of you. You make me smile. I miss you so much. Please honest opinion. Should I send it? Im thinking of sending it in the morning. Anything I should remove/ add? I appreciate the help. Don't communicate important things by text/email. Call him. And if you're already apologised for pissing him off, let him come to you. 3
TXGuy Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Potential rewrite: Hi babe, I'm sorry. I miss you. I miss lying next to you. I miss your touch. And tho I don't see you everyday, I am thinking of you. You make me smile. I miss you so much. You can tell him the rest of the stuff later, if you want. I imagine the point of this text/emil is to get the conversation going again. I think this shorter version has a better chance of making that happen than the longer version.
Author MissNoname Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 Don't communicate important things by text/email. Call him. And if you're already apologised for pissing him off, let him come to you. I did apologized but he was still mad. How many days should I give him before i try to contact him? I left him alone today. Im thinking if he doesnt reach out by wednesday, I will text or call him. Guys what do you think?
Author MissNoname Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 You can tell him the rest of the stuff later, if you want. I imagine the point of this text/emil is to get the conversation going again. I think this shorter version has a better chance of making that happen than the longer version. Thank you for your suggestion. I think it sounds better that its shorter.
Assasda Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 The message is just super loopy, and I personally would not put much stake in it. If you want to get real. Apologize specifically for the thing that made him mad. SPECIFICALLY. Then tell him that you miss him. THe whole "I miss you" game at the start seems like some kind of ploy
Chocolat Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I'm not a guy, but this message is mostly about you -- how much you miss him, how he makes you feel, what you want, etc. If the point of the message is to apologise, then do that, preferably in person or on the phone. 6
darkmoon Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 (edited) buy him something special, and have it delivered, or deliver it yourself , with an apology or letter..."I will treat you like Royalty from now on. I was wrong, so I will here you list all the treats on offer...I was silly and now I am sorry. But I will make it all up to you" xxx or words to that effect make him an offer he can't refuse, my two cents Edited March 11, 2014 by darkmoon
Michael91 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Hi babe, Hope your day is going smooth. I just wanted to let you know that I care about you more than you know. I may have failed to show it to you lately but you mean alot to me. I miss your hugs and kisses when were apart. Babe lets kiss and make up. I miss you. I miss your kisses. I miss your hugs. I miss everything about you. I miss how you make me laugh. I miss lying next to you. I miss how happy we are when were together. Your texts makes me smile. Your presence makes my heart beat fast. Your smile brightens my day. Your kisses ummm your kisses sends chills to my spine. Your hugs melt my heart like chocolate ice cream. When I am with you my troubles seem to melt away. You make me feel safe. I am sorry for the wrong things that Ive done. I will be more considerate of your feelings. I will listen when you want to talk. I am with you when u need me. And tho I don't see you everyday, I am thinking of you. You make me smile. I miss you so much. That's fine but since you have already apologized just a short text saying I miss you and I'm thinking about you is just as good. Really, almost anything is fine. However, I get the impression that you want him far more than he wants you and smacks of desperation and a willingness to grovel which, in the long run, is not good for you and the relationship because guys sense that and value you less. Nevertheless, I don't know the situation. Perhaps you really are in the wrong and mistreated him badly in which case a bit of groveling is good.
David87 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 If you already told him that you are sorry why don't you just call him? The text is a little to long and about your feelings not his.
Candy_Pants Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 It's great. Except you should follow his lead, and TALK. Not text.
Larry56 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Ummm...I think your message is really not a good apology. All your doing is talking about how *you* miss him, how *you* feel, how *you* need him etc. Sure he'll probably be OK with this. But you have to acknowledge his feelings without demanding he forgive you. Do you know how you *actually* made him feel? Cause if you don't...then you should really think about what you did wrong.
Treasa Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I'm assuming this is the same guy you've been posting about. The same boyfriend you said doesn't call you or text you when he says he will, because sometimes he's sleeping. I read your post from a couple days ago about this. He's acting immaturely and should let it go. Definitely do not send this message. If you want, call him and say, "I'm sorry if I made you feel bad/ignored/whatever, but let's end the silent treatment and move on."
clia Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Good God, please do not send this message unless you want to have something to feel humiliated about when you are old. If you truly feel that you need to apologize to him, a simple "I'm sorry" on the phone will work just fine. 1
pickflicker Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I did apologized but he was still mad. How many days should I give him before i try to contact him? I left him alone today. Im thinking if he doesnt reach out by wednesday, I will text or call him. Guys what do you think? You've probably already sent the message, but if you made a heartfelt apology the first time, don't contact him again at all - wait.
Author MissNoname Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 I have not sent the message. He got mad because he wanted to discuss about his feelings and I wasnt available to talk. He felt I cut him off and went with my friends. Hes also upset the I confide to my friends more than to him. I realized my faults and I want to fix it.
Author MissNoname Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 I'm assuming this is the same guy you've been posting about. The same boyfriend you said doesn't call you or text you when he says he will, because sometimes he's sleeping. I read your post from a couple days ago about this. He's acting immaturely and should let it go. Definitely do not send this message. If you want, call him and say, "I'm sorry if I made you feel bad/ignored/whatever, but let's end the silent treatment and move on." Yes and I brought up that issue to him about calling and texting and he changed. He even texted me everyday, same time everyday as he promised. But that stopped because he is mad.
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