avoforastig Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I've been using some free OLD resources and wondering if the pay sites yield any better results. Anyone with a good or bad experience? Also, anyone try speed dating or have other good ideas to meet people.
babycakees Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 First hand, I've never used a pay site. My friend was on eHarmony and Match for the longest time. She recently signed up for OKCupid and has been yielding much better results she says.
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 In my experience, pay sites are no better than the free sites. I've actually met three women off of free sites (in 4 years). Met none off of pay sites...
FitChick Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Very few men on the free sites appeal to me for various reasons. Much better results from the paid sites. I don't use match.com.
GoreSP Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I tried Match, eHarmony, POF and OKC in the last year. Met 1 person on match, none on eHarmony, 2 on POF and 1 on OKC. None of these people were 'quality partners' and I've received dozens of pictures of penises. I've sworn off OLD for 2014. Gonna start going out instead...... 2
mammasita Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I've never met anyone from a paid site. I've met more men off of POF than anything. 99% of them were not a match for various reasons. My favorite reason of all though was because I was wasting his time since I wouldn't have sex with him after 3 dates. There are some good ones on free sites. 1
newmoon Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I prefer the paid sites. I have only tried match and OKC, and between the two I have met an equal number of people (4 from each). The difference imo isn't the quality of the people, because many are on both, but the seriousness of the person. Every person I corresponded with on match ended up in reliable call/chat/meet. The people from OKC are less reliable (in my experience) - they chat you up once and disappear, or ask to meet and never follow through. And there are far more shirtless profile pics on OKC than match. Neither is stellar, but there is some truth to the saying that you get what you pay for, and that (for me) is reliability. The paid sites have a slightly better degree of seriousness from the people who pay to be members. And OKC and especially POF trend younger in terms of age and are also becoming known for just quick hook-ups, especially POF. I think the experience is different for everyone though and you get what you put in, but I'm off OKC now and just on match.
GoreSP Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I've never met anyone from a paid site. I've met more men off of POF than anything. 99% of them were not a match for various reasons. My favorite reason of all though was because I was wasting his time since I wouldn't have sex with him after 3 dates. There are some good ones on free sites. I have a better one! I dated this guy for a few weeks. After a trip with my mom, one night I was too tired and wanted to go to sleep early and wasn't in the mood for sex. He dumped me saying my libido was too low for him. ...
PegNosePete Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Paying does not guarantee success. If you are having problems getting dates on a free site, then you should really be looking at your profile, photos and messages. I have no problems getting dates whenever I want them on a free site. Why would I bother paying money for what I can get for free? 1
mammasita Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I have a better one! I dated this guy for a few weeks. After a trip with my mom, one night I was too tired and wanted to go to sleep early and wasn't in the mood for sex. He dumped me saying my libido was too low for him. ... LMMFAO!!!! Nice.
J21 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Most of the time the same ones on the free sites are on the paid ones as well. Who wouldn't want increased exposure, esp if it was free right? It all depends.
Michael91 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I've been using some free OLD resources and wondering if the pay sites yield any better results. Anyone with a good or bad experience? Also, anyone try speed dating or have other good ideas to meet people. It really doesn't make much difference because very few attractive and desirable people, 7s and above, the top 20 percent, use dating sites to meet people. That is because within that top 20 percent and excluding all 6s and below, looks don't matter much so it is easy for them to meet and date through normal activities such as work, school, clubs, church, etc. Based of the bell curve, about 60 percent of people are 5s and 6s, and although most will accept others within their group, more than a few find it difficult to accept someone that is not more attractive then themselves. No one will accept 1s and 2s, and 3s find other 3s so unappealing that they demand at least a 4. Therefore, since it is so rare for 3s and below, the lower 20 percent to find someone that is acceptable to them, they flock to dating sites in the hope of finding someone. Attractive people may have other issues or reasons for not finding and accepting a mate. Therefore, a small percentage may be on dating sites but that has little to do with them being able to meet and attract others.
d0nnivain Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I only did OLD once for 3 months. I tried eharmony because at the time it was the most expensive & that profile thing is a p.i.t.a. to complete. To my way of thinking anybody who would go to all that trouble wanted something more than a casual fling. I probably talked to 6-7 guys & met 3 in person. All were quality people -- smart, interesting, well educated, employed & polite. None were a match for me; I just wasn't attracted to them / there was no chemistry. I only ever had 1 date each with the 3 guys I met but I couldn't fault the site. I tried to go speed dating. It kept getting cancelled because in my area of suburbia they never got enough men. I understand it works better in cities.
PegNosePete Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 It really doesn't make much difference because very few attractive and desirable people, 7s and above, the top 20 percent, use dating sites to meet people. My personal experience is clearly very different from your entertaining theory.
Michael91 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 My personal experience is clearly very different from your entertaining theory. That is contradictory, unless you meant hypostasis, since theories are considered to be proven facts. 1
PegNosePete Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 theories are considered to be proven facts. I think you need a new dictionary dude Theory - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary
MissBee Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I paid for two sites before, won't be doing that again frankly. They were THE WORST!
writergal Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Online dating is horrible, period. Doesn't matter if you use a paid-for or free online dating website. Better to just go out with friends and meet the opposite sex that way, like they did before the internet was invented.
Phantom888 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Online dating is awesome. I met my fiancee there almost 10 months ago. Before that I dated some really nice women, and had good experience overall. It was Match, a paid site. I have never tried any free sites, but I figure people could mess around on free sites without consequences. At least with paid sites, you are forking over hard-earned money to meet people, so you are committed to the extent of the money you spent. I met some really amazing women on Match, and got lots of responses on a regular basis. So I think paid sites are better than free sites.
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Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I never tried the paid sites. After reading reviews on Match and Eharmony, I backed off. Did POF and OKC for about 8 months. I had better results and the majority of my dates were from OKC, but ended up meeting my guy off of POF. NEVER thought that would happen as that site can be pretty dismal. He'd only signed up the day before and it was his first time ever trying online dating. I can say without a doubt that he is the absolute love of my life. I've never known anything like it. 1
Mo_Do Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I've used POF and Tinder - met a bunch of girls from both. Problem with those is that chicks use it for an ego boost, and you wont get that on a pay site. Currently I am signed up with eHarmony and Zoosk. eHarmony I checked out as it lets you sign up and get a profile for free but you can't see pictures. Right away I was getting the questions and stuff from about 6 girls (paid girls, could see me but I couldnt see them). I thought it was great! Then I searched for a discount code # and signed up. ($15/mnth...cheap) Oh boy - the girls I had been mingling with were...uhh, not my type to put it nicely. Teased 80's hair, 20's but looked 40, country bumpkins, overweight etc. Once I got through that I've been matched up and chatting with some better quality gals that are serious about relationships - which makes this site better than the free ones (for me anyway). Zoosk seems like a waste of time so far....I'd avoid that one.
shvrk Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I feel like it really depends on the person & the area... I've never used a paid OLD site but I had lived in one area while using one, where I wasn't really the "hottest" female, but I did end up making a dope friend that sort of helped me grow into a better person... by living a better life... But I moved to a smallish City in the midwest and used the same free OLD and I'm getting messages like crazy... many just to hook up and others of men that are genuine. Unfortunately I've blown off a few of the genuine men that I've met in person.
Tayken Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I never tried the paid sites. After reading reviews on Match and Eharmony, I backed off. Did POF and OKC for about 8 months. I had better results and the majority of my dates were from OKC, but ended up meeting my guy off of POF. NEVER thought that would happen as that site can be pretty dismal. He'd only signed up the day before and it was his first time ever trying online dating. I can say without a doubt that he is the absolute love of my life. I've never known anything like it. Wow....that sounds powerful, and I hope that is the case though in the end. I am sure others have said that too because it's new love and the honeymoon phase is still on
Tayken Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 This is true about all online dating.....the girls / women do use it as a pickmeup therapy the moment they have been dumped or left by their husband. I have known a few who have done this weeks after their husbands left....it's their way of reassuring themselves that they may still have it Problem is....any female will get messaged on those sites, as there will always be a guy that is willing to bang anything. I mean if someone is willing to touch me and bang me and go down on me on the first night after feeling me up all evening.......they are hardly the kind of person I want to have as a GF / partner I've used POF and Tinder - met a bunch of girls from both. Problem with those is that chicks use it for an ego boost, and you wont get that on a pay site. Currently I am signed up with eHarmony and Zoosk. eHarmony I checked out as it lets you sign up and get a profile for free but you can't see pictures. Right away I was getting the questions and stuff from about 6 girls (paid girls, could see me but I couldnt see them). I thought it was great! Then I searched for a discount code # and signed up. ($15/mnth...cheap) Oh boy - the girls I had been mingling with were...uhh, not my type to put it nicely. Teased 80's hair, 20's but looked 40, country bumpkins, overweight etc. Once I got through that I've been matched up and chatting with some better quality gals that are serious about relationships - which makes this site better than the free ones (for me anyway). Zoosk seems like a waste of time so far....I'd avoid that one.
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