Murtz Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 So my ex and I went out for 3 years before she eventually broke up with me. Long story short, she felt as though she loved me more than I loved her and was annoyed that she always initiated everything. She never really communicated that to me so I never knew that that was a problem until she finally broke up with me. If we ever got back together I would make sure that we would both communicate better. The whole next month I spent showing her that I really do love her and how much she really meant to me. We even went on a date in which she told me later that she was in tears when the night ended because she was so sorry for what she had done. However by the end she truly just needed more time and we started to do no contact. She was actually really upset that I initiated no contact. However I felt like I needed to try and move on. On valentines day weekend I sent her a valentine day card. I then got pretty mad at her for some stupid stuff that I have apologized over already and I believe we are in good terms with it. Last week I called her and asked if she wanted to hang out this current week and she said that Monday (today) would work great. I asked if this could be a date and she said she would get back to me on that. I then later said "that calling it a date would just give me an excuse to do cute things and you know what, screw labels I will just do cute things anyways." However something came up and we couldn't do anything today, but she rescheduled to yesterday. We caught up, she told me about these great plans she had for her future in terms of education and career options. She wants to get her Ph.D. I was so proud of her and I think I expressed that in our conversation. I told her I had a surprised for her, but it would had of waited till night. I had a bonfire on the beach waiting for us while we star gazed. She thought that she was going to have time at night, but daylights savings mislead her. However she said she would like to see my surprise Wednesday. The weather was going to be bad wednesday so she rescheduled to tuesday. Our relationship was one where she did not feel like I was enthusiastic about everything between us, but I really wanted to be. I was distracted by other things in my life that I do not want to go into, but all that has changed now and it has been almost 3 months since we broke up. Is there anything else I can do to help reconciliation. These dates that we are going on are not really my goal of reconciling immediately. I am willing to give her more space if needed afterwards, I just want to show her that I really do care about her and that I have changed my behaviors to treat her better and give her the attention she needed and deserved. If she understands everything that I am willing to do and still doesn't want to be together, then I can accept that and move on. So tomorrow I am going to do the whole bonfire thing and usually when I do cute stuff like that she is in tears because it means a lot to her. What else could I do or how should I handle these situations?
angel555 Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 That is some effort youve taken there.Kudos to the fact that you want to make her feel special. Maybe you could start off by doing little nice things which would take her by surprise. Like send her flowers and a surprise gift.This way shed be more surprised and happy and shell know that you are thinking of her. Since you want to handle this better, you could first start by listening to what she says.Tell her that all this is just for her and there is nothing that you wouldnt do to have her back in your life. Its the small things that matter.Be yourself.Tell her what you really like about her.Im sure you guys will be back together for the better!! Good luck!!
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