Imported Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 The gym is for training, nothing more. Anyone deadly serious about staying in shape will tell you this. Focus is everything. Deadly serious?? Sounds like a desease. I can hit my mark, accomplish what I set out to do, get the results I was after and all without being "deadly serious". The gym is just a place.
thefooloftheyear Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Frankly its unacceptable and creepy....Its a gym...That crap goes on all the time at the gym I go to and it bothers me that the people that work there(or the ownership) dont say something to these morons because its pretty obvious it makes a woman uncomfortable in most cases(unless she knows the person)...I cant imagine how humiliating it must be when a woman is doing certain exercises and trying to concentrate while a bunch of little jackwads are staring at her ass.. TFY 1
Emilia Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Frankly its unacceptable and creepy....Its a gym...That crap goes on all the time at the gym I go to and it bothers me that the people that work there(or the ownership) dont say something to these morons because its pretty obvious it makes a woman uncomfortable in most cases(unless she knows the person)...I cant imagine how humiliating it must be when a woman is doing certain exercises and trying to concentrate while a bunch of little jackwads are staring at her ass.. TFY With all seriousness, I pay attention to how I sit or stretch or whatever so that I save my dignity. I did catch younger guys trying to take pictures of me on their smart phones though. That didn't go down well.
thefooloftheyear Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 With all seriousness, I pay attention to how I sit or stretch or whatever so that I save my dignity. I did catch younger guys trying to take pictures of me on their smart phones though. That didn't go down well. You'd almost have to...On that same vein, I have had instances where a woman starts doing an exercise right in front of me...I feel uncomfortable(and dont want her to feel uncomfortable) and give her the space-even if I was there first..I dont even want to see anything accidently.. Leave em alone, guys. Most of them DONT want that kind of attention at a gym...Most(all?) of the women that actually GO to gyms are more serious about it than most of the guys...They certainly dont bullshyt as much-thats for sure.. TFY
hotpotato Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I'd be nice and say hi, but i wouldnt interrupt their workouts. IMO gyms or wherever young people go to stay fit are not generally good places to meet people. I dont like people trying to talk to me during workout/beach time. I usually have a goal that i'm trying to meet in a time frame. Frankly its unacceptable and creepy....Its a gym...That crap goes on all the time at the gym I go to and it bothers me that the people that work there(or the ownership) dont say something to these morons because its pretty obvious it makes a woman uncomfortable in most cases(unless she knows the person)...I cant imagine how humiliating it must be when a woman is doing certain exercises and trying to concentrate while a bunch of little jackwads are staring at her ass.. TFY I'm happy Ive avoided the gym this far in life. I workout at home and at the beach. I dont think I'm missing much. I may join the Y, hopefully there are less morons there.
jba10582 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I think people at my gym are very friendly, although I am in a small town...I do not feel that talking to someone is awkward at all and especially not awkward to give a polite smile walking by. I get to know a lot of people when I see them there. If someone is in the middle of a set or doing supersets (which I often do also) I won't bother them. Not everyone there does HIIT in crazy intensity mode all the time. I admit its possible that things are probably a little slower paced in a small town than a large city, so the time/traffic adjustment ect is not conducive to feeling rushed all the times as it seemed in some of the past places I have been. 1
Elias33 Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 You meet people everywhere. No matter where you are, you probably think you have a "reason to be there." The bar, the club, the supermarket, outside of your home. If you're not game, than you are not game. But don't think that other people aren't. With the right guy, everywhere is the right place. Hey, I am at the gym to workout too, but if I see a girl I like, I am going to invade her personal space and talk with her. It's not a big deal and has almost always worked out well for me, but I usually only take note of women that notice me. You have @75 years of life. @30 you hit your prime. @40 it starts going down hill. Sometimes you don't even have that much. Unless she is at a funeral for a loved one, go for it. The gym if off limits...really? It's a meat market there. Lots of horney girls at the gym. I was going to respond and advice against it until I read this. Totally going to do this now, you should be a motivational speaker sir. I salute.
Shepp Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Why does it being at the gym make any difference? Do you not smile at strangers normally?? Is that just me?? Am I just the grinning idiot who goes round chatting to random people? When did whether to smile or not become such a decision? 2
Emilia Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Why does it being at the gym make any difference? Do you not smile at strangers normally?? Is that just me?? Am I just the grinning idiot who goes round chatting to random people? When did whether to smile or not become such a decision? Erm.... But seriously, as a woman if I keep smiling at guys, they won't leave me alone. That's pretty much the reason. 1
Phoe Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 I rarely EVER see men and women interacting with each other at the gym, unless it's a couple there together. People seem to leave each other alone. There's just one girl that I've noticed getting bothered sometimes. She's really cute. She always looks uncomfortable about it and I sometimes see her take off to a private room to finish her workout. I feel bad for her about that...
Phoe Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 As far as the smiling thing goes, I see no reason not to smile at people. I smile at people in passing all the time, just as a nicety. Sometimes I get a smile back, sometimes it get's ignored, but it certainly doesn't hurt to try smiling.
hotpotato Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 As far as the smiling thing goes, I see no reason not to smile at people. I smile at people in passing all the time, just as a nicety. Sometimes I get a smile back, sometimes it get's ignored, but it certainly doesn't hurt to try smiling. There's always a reason-stalkers! I will smile out in public, but while working out...no. Guy likes you, sees you looking cute in your outfit, and takes it the wrong way. Summertime is coming, I may have to pull out the burlap sack instead of the t shirt and shorts. It's mostly weird guys who come up to me when I'm trying to exercise. From now on if a guy tries to chat my up he will get a mean mug and a low pitched grrrrrr! Smiling in a workout session is iffy. Some of the guys who will approach you just so happen to be the ones who can't read social cues. Most active people will not talk to you if you have your earphones in.
Got it Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Why I don't like gyms. I am there to work out, not be on display and I hate to be the center of attention. So I work out alone at home or outside. I think it would be hard to know who to go up to or not. If she is an extrovert she is going to take it one way, if she is introvert quite another. I am shy so this would be a no go for me.
Phoe Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 There's always a reason-stalkers! I will smile out in public, but while working out...no. Guy likes you, sees you looking cute in your outfit, and takes it the wrong way. Summertime is coming, I may have to pull out the burlap sack instead of the t shirt and shorts. It's mostly weird guys who come up to me when I'm trying to exercise. From now on if a guy tries to chat my up he will get a mean mug and a low pitched grrrrrr! Smiling in a workout session is iffy. Some of the guys who will approach you just so happen to be the ones who can't read social cues. Most active people will not talk to you if you have your earphones in. I've never been stalked or approached by someone just from smiling at them, especially at the gym. I've never been approached at the gym at all, ever, and I've been a gym-goer for years. Maybe it's just the environment where I live, where people just don't really do that. Typically when I smile at people they ignore it. I think someone smiling at them catches them off guard honestly, haha.
Sub Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Just don't let them know you refer to them as "chicks".
Shepp Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Erm.... But seriously, as a woman if I keep smiling at guys, they won't leave me alone. That's pretty much the reason. haha - just me then! I've never really considered smiling as a come on! If a girl has ever thought she was flirting with me by smiling then she should know that it very much went straight over my head! I think maybe its a bit of a locational thing too - from experience people in big cities seem to want less to do with strangers - ironic really, seeing as they choose to live in a place surrounded by people! That said, we got a thank you card at work a couple of weeks ago from a girl who'd been in a RTA, said she didn't remember much but she wanted to thank everyone who helped that day etc etc and say thanks to the 'super cheerful firefighter' she remembered climbing in the car with her. The lads were all like - that's you shepp............so maybe grinning idiot it is! I always figured it was just friendly - heres hoping not everyone I smile at thinks im hitting on them! 2
Tayken Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Smile but do not ever approach them when they're working out. They're there to work out not meet guys. Approach them after the fact. Ahahahahaha...OK, yes pull the other one I personally refuse to get involve in this, I do not acknowledge women in the gym even when they are sticking their arse up in the air and all that nonsense. However I have see a couple lately at the indoor track staring at me whilst doing sprints. Yes I like a nice sporty woman like the next person, but am not going to give them that ego boost
MissBee Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 I see so many people (usually women), wearing expensive workout gear, on the treadmill barely breaking a sweat. Run faster, girl! As for guys, they do look hotter, for sure. Personally, when I work out I look exhausted. I wouldn't want a guy approaching me, I'm at the gym for a reason. There are plenty of other places to meet people. I don't care where a man approaches me, as long as the approach is a good one and not rude, creepy or borderline sexual harassment .There is no off limits places to possibly make a romantic connection in my book. The happenstance seemingly random meet-ups are the stories I like to hear from couples... That said, yes at the gym I may be feeling gross and sweaty and not the cutest, but if a man approaches me in that state, then while I may be a bit self-conscious, he obviously sees something he likes even while I'm sweaty and unmade up, so if we do exchange numbers and go out, he'll be even more blown away at how nicely I clean up...rather than say meeting a man all dolled up first. In many ways it would be less pressure as I'd be like wow, he saw me at a potential worse and approached me so it can only go up from here where the next times he sees me he will be blown away!
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