mortensorchid Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 My Mom is in her 70s now. I regret to say that she is turning into something that I don't like but there is nothing I can do about it. Mom is very depressed because she is morbidly obese. She doesn't eat a lot when she is around me and/or others, but she is a closet eater. Because of her morbid obesity, she doesn't do anything with her time. She doesn't work, she doesn't do anything in terms of community oriented nor anything social. If anything she has discouraged me from doing anything social or community wise. I have tried to suggest things for her to do with herself, she says she lives to make my and my sister's lives perfect but cleaning up after us and keeping her home perfect. She is so OCD it's ridiculous. The house is so clean you could make microchips in it. She will cry LITERALLY CRY if the dishes aren't washed or the towels aren't folded as she wants them. She is depressed that she does not have the same relationship with me and/or my sister that she did with her own mother. It ain't gonna happen. My sister lives in another city and is very busy with her career, I live in town but I am so not like my mom it's ridiculous. FOr example, my mom is so prissy that she is always going off about her nails and getting her nails done and how important it is, but in the meantime I could care less about it. In fact, I am in mixed martial arts and my knuckles have been taped and split until they are red and sore. Needless to say, it's not important to me. I don't know what to do about her anymore except to just say "It's not my problem", continue to take advantage of the situation (I am getting my house cleaned and laundry done) and keep doing what I have been doing. Her friends (whichever ones are left) tell her the same things, all she says is "I know" in a pathetic voice. Until then she continues to gain weight, her health goes downhill, and she is turning into a sad, pathetic person. It's just not my problem anymore. What do others think? Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 She is the only mother you will ever have. Respect that its an illness. She deserves to be treated kindly. Years ago i carried your very thoughts about my mom. How saddening it is to read your words. My mom has since passed away and now i live with the regrets of how i treated her through out her life. She deserved better. You sound like you care about her health, get her to a doctor for her physical well being. Garner some level of compassion. Ask yourself how you would want to be treated if you walked in her shoes.... Then do it. I wish you well... Its not easy... Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted March 11, 2014 Share Posted March 11, 2014 I don't know what to do about her anymore except to just say "It's not my problem", continue to take advantage of the situation (I am getting my house cleaned and laundry done) and keep doing what I have been doing. No, you cannot write your mother off while continuing to accept favors from her. If you want to be like "It's not my problem" then move out of her house and stop letting her do your laundry. How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
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