vhshowdown Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 My ex g/f and I broke up about this same time last year. We both started seeing other people and things got heated, so we broke all contact. She has attempted to get back with me last May, I wasnt so sure, wanted to take a few weeks. In June though, she totally blows me off for the other guy that she had been seeing for a few months. We talked maybe once or twice in August and Sept. In October, halloween to be exact, she calls 15 times over that weekend, but I never call her back, trying to move on. So I guess she got the message. Well, out of the blue, she calls me at work this past Thursday, and asks if I am seeing anyone, if not could she come over after work. I am skeptical, but agree. We hang out and stuff all nite, and into the morning, but no sex, just talking and stuff. Alot of my problems I had in our relationship and last summer come out in frustration, but not angrily. I got alot off my chest that nite. She tells me that she was unsure if she wanted to get back together but made up her mind last summer that she was not going to get back with me. Ok, fair enough. Well in saying all that I needed to say, I let it be known that I will not bring up any of the past anymore. So, we hung out the next nite Friday nite, and we both said we had a great time. We really did. Well, she doesnt have a phone at the moment, but she calls me Sunday morning at 2 am and leaves a message that it is snowing outside. Ok Then Sunday afternoon I went to my bros house to watch football, and after the games I was driving home, I saw she had called me from her work, so I called and they said she already left. I get home and she left a message on my answer machine, just called to say hey, etc.... Well, yesterday, I called her at work, and she has an attitude now, like why are you calling me at work?? So, now I have no idea where I stand, if anywhere?!?!?! Can anyone give me advice? Do I walk away again? Do I pursue this, I do have feelings for her still I think, I need more time with her to know for sure though. Her birthday is next week as well. I am very confused once again!!
Sarah12385 Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 buh-bye. that's what i'd say. talk about mind games! she seems a bit confused if you ask me. i think you should let her know that until she gets a little more grounded on what she wants, you're not bothering with the games. it seems as if she comes to you when there's nobody else around. you don't wanna be anybody's last resort. ask her what she wants. if she can't give you a straight answer, tell her she needs to think about things cause you ain't waitin around forever! ~Sarah~
Author vhshowdown Posted January 25, 2005 Author Posted January 25, 2005 Sarah Thanks for opening my eyes. That is very good advice. Re-reading my post again, ya she is playing around with games. So, i am not going to even bother with her at all. I don't need the hassle or stress that comes with her again. NO WAY.... I guess thats part of the reason why I did not contact her back in October, and to be honest with you, I am glad I did that. I guess "If it’s clear that a relationship has played itself out, don’t belabor it – move on."
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