Ribsy Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 My wife had told me she didn't love me anymore and we should work on relighting the candle, so we did for a fair few months. What I didn't know was she was having an affair and also became obsessed with chat room porn and sexual Skype. She left me for 5 months and we got back together to try and repair things between us but 5 months after that we fully split and divided our finances. It's been about one and a half years now and I've had some major ups and downs, depression and anxiety has been very hard to cope with as well as running my own business. I honestly don't love her anymore but I still feel quite down and out. I was very close with a girl for the last 6 months, but it just didn't feel right and she wanted to move things between us a lot quicker then I wanted. That ended up with us breaking up about 1 month ago. Seems silly but now I miss her even though we would not have been a good long term match. Life seems so mixed up. I have my children 50% of the time and I want total security for them but I'm not sure how to approach a new relationship without the pressure. I was 17 when I met my wife so I am quite new when it comes to break ups.
Mr.Milked Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 It's going to take some time to get some normalcy to your life, take your time. I think it was said somewhere here that you can expect at least a month or two for every year you in a marriage to get through the feelings of everything that happened so don't be too hard on yourself. And as someone else here stated: "Hang in there and make sure to use the forum to get off your chest whenever you want. There is no such thing as talking too much about what you're going through here."
Bluesandy Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Hi Ribsy, I can feel your pain... And the fact you are mixed up... A year ago my wife of 23 years left me out of the blue for her boss, leaving me with my three daugthers. I was destroyed, but after one month, I had the courage to meet another woman full of affection.. I stayed with her for 9 months, till christmas time, and because she had too many jaleousy issues, we had to split... I felt very down for 2 months, and that was weird I missed her very badly, more than my wife, even I knew and know that it was impossible that things would have worked out in a long term process. For the last three weeks, I kept dating girls (from dating websites), and I start to have feelings again for one of them... Which is good news cause I am less down than ever, my confidence is gtting back, as well as my libido ;-)... So eveyone has his own medecine, and that's one of them I can suggest you to try to be up again...
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