angel555 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 So long story short. Dated someone who seemed real nice at first.Things were pretty good for like 2 months.I was really into him considering the fact that i didnt wanna date after my previous relationship.We had a mutual friend(they work together at the same office,while im in the same workplace but different branch).This muttual friend had an image of being a slut.My ex never cared even if she did flirt with him.Atleast thats how he made it look like.I always thought that she would be after him.(Hes not a great looking soul lol).Given my thinking i was kinda paranoid over a few things about how much they hung out together(in groups). And well trust my intutionI wanted to tell him about how her behaviour around him makes me uncomfortable.And that night the guy tells me that he likes me but doesnt love me.And we broke up.He tried talking to me a couple of times.I was always cold after that.Recently I found out that they are dating and almost living in.She was supposed to be my friend and he was the one after me always.So do ****ty things like this happen or am I just plain unlucky!!
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I don't know if you are unlucky but you are unclear. Before I can help I have Qs. 1. When you say "this mutual friend had an image of being a slut" what does that mean? Are you saying that the mutual friend had a slutty reputation? That the mutual friend thought you were a slut or that the guy is? 2. What didn't your EX care about? Who was flirting with your EX? Was this mutual friend who set you up with the new guy flirting with your EX or was this person flirting with the new guy too? 3. You were paranoid about how much who hung out? I also don't understand why you would be paranoid about a group hang out (as opposed to a 1 on 1). 4. Who were you going to have a discussion with about how "her" behavior toward "him" made you feel? As for being unlucky, I'm not sure that has anything to do with this guy's feelings. I do think you may be a poor judge of character
Author angel555 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 Yes that was unclear.So let me get it right. I met my ex at work (training).We exchanged numbers and got talking.He used to make an effort from the beginning to talk to me and be with me.Eventually he asked me out after a month of talking and texting and I said yes.We were shifted to two different offices which were at two ends of the city.We could not meet everyday,but we met mostly during weekends and spent time together.Things were great between us.He seemed like a nice guy So this mutual friend Im talking about is an attention seeker.She would hit on any guy she sees.I never had an issue with the way she was as long she didnt get into my business. My ex's best friend liked this girl(mutual friend).So his best friend always wanted to hang out with her and he used to force my ex to tag along all the time. They all went drinking often till 2 in the night and then crash at this girls place drunk.And when ever this happened my ex used to stop texting and calling me until I hear from him the next day.His usual story was he was drunk and passed out. I never complained and never showed how much I didnt like what was happening. We all went on this trip together and I had injured my leg while trekking.My boyfriend instead of coming with me to the hospital went to buy drinks for the night at the hotel.That night I could see how much she was trying to flirt with him and his best friend.(This girl was flirting big time with my ex's best friend as well).I always thought that my ex's best friend and this girl would end up together so never worried much about her causing trouble. But after this trip that happend,I could sense that my boyfriend was aloof and was always crashing at her place in the night.I stay far away and I could not meet him everyday so I had to rely on the things he told me. So after a few days of this trip I told him that I wanted to talk to him about how this girls behaviour made me uncomfortable and how I know that he wouldnt be interested in her(cause he never responded when ever she tried flirting). So before i could bring up this conversation that day,my ex tells me that he likes me but does not love me. we broke up and I havent textes him since.He tried getting in touch with me later on,but i did not respond. A couple of days back,I heard that my ex and his best friend are not talking to each other and had a fight and it was over this girl. It seems my ex and that girl have started dating each other.So all this **** makes me feel real bad about myself. This is my second relationship and I thought he was a nice guy and they turn out to be this way. The worst thing is this girl was one of my good friends at work before we were aligned to different offices. Maybe as you said its just poor judgement of character or is it just me.Attracting the wrong people!!
d0nnivain Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 That didn't clear it up. Forget the girl for a minute. If I guy I'm dating doesn't come with me to the ER when I get hurt while I'm with him on vacation but instead goes to a bar, that relationship is over right then & there. So your past relationship with your jerk of an EXBF is over & he is now dating this girl. What does any of that have to do with the new guy?
Author angel555 Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 There is no new guy in the picture right now.Im just talking about how jerk of a boyfriend my ex was.
d0nnivain Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Told you I was confused. I read your 1st post to indicate that there was some new guy who also knew this mutual female friend. Anyway, you are better off with both your EX & this friend out of your life
Author angel555 Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 I hope so too!!All this had made me lose faith in people and love.Im 21 and already feel like this is the worst!!
d0nnivain Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 You are too young to give up. There are billions of people in the world. Don't give up on everybody just because of those two.
CaliBabe Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 If he wants a slutty girl then let him have her! She will just end up doing him dirty and he will get left. Do you want a guy who is so easily persuaded by sluts anyways? No. He is a weak man. We want winners!
Author angel555 Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 Where are the winners Im wondering!!Its probably all about the place and timing i think!!
lauri Posted March 13, 2014 Posted March 13, 2014 Are you unlucky? No. You are fortunate that this relationship is over. He dumps you to be with a girl who, was your "friend", which clearly shows she is selfish and only care about herself. I guarantee that what goes around comes around...you need to stay strong and stay away from both of them..you deserve a lot better. 1
Author angel555 Posted March 13, 2014 Author Posted March 13, 2014 Are you unlucky? No. You are fortunate that this relationship is over. He dumps you to be with a girl who, was your "friend", which clearly shows she is selfish and only care about herself. I guarantee that what goes around comes around...you need to stay strong and stay away from both of them..you deserve a lot better. Thanks so much!! Trust me on how much a girls intuition can help you out during times like these.I always felt that there was some attraction between the two.Though my ex denied it all the time.Even the night we broke up,the reason he gave me for ending things was not valid and I told him I was sure it had to do something with that other girl.He denied it then as well. All my friends thought that I was paranoid for no apparent reason for thinking that something was brewing between them while we were dating.That paranoia actually helped me see things more clearly I feel!
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