imm Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Me and my boyfriend will be making 3 years at the end of this month. On Jan 31 he broke up with me because he felt that he was slowing me down. He had a good paying job but they closed down and he was unemployed for a couple of months. He finally found a job but it was 20 miles away from his house and it only paid min wage. He had to stop going to school because he was not making enough money to pay for it. The same thing that he broke up with me he "quit" his job.After a week we got back togethr, he told me that he was having a mid life crisis (his only 25) and the only thing that he was sure of was that he wanted to be with me. A couple of days a ago a mutual friend ( he worked with my boyfriend and I and then he only worked with my boyfriend) called me to tell me that my boyfriend had not quit but was fired. The reason why he was fires was because he had been seen with a girl while he was working. (My bf was a security at a school) I believe that the girl that he was with was a student. Another student saw them together and had reported it to his boss. According to the mutual friend, they had only been send flirty text and been walking around, nothing physical happened. I have not confronted my boyfriend yet because this friend has been known to lie. He also told me that the boss was suppose to call me to let me know what really happened. But it's been a couple of days and still no calls. I'm waiting for the call to confront my bf, I have been dropping hints but my bf denies it. What should I do?
David87 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Move on, there is a possibility that he cheated on you and even if he didn't he's the one who initiated the breakup. Don't call him, don't confront him just disappear.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Me and my boyfriend will be making 3 years at the end of this month. On Jan 31 he broke up with me because he felt that he was slowing me down. He had a good paying job but they closed down and he was unemployed for a couple of months. He finally found a job but it was 20 miles away from his house and it only paid min wage. He had to stop going to school because he was not making enough money to pay for it. The same thing that he broke up with me he "quit" his job.After a week we got back togethr, he told me that he was having a mid life crisis (his only 25) and the only thing that he was sure of was that he wanted to be with me. A couple of days a ago a mutual friend ( he worked with my boyfriend and I and then he only worked with my boyfriend) called me to tell me that my boyfriend had not quit but was fired. The reason why he was fires was because he had been seen with a girl while he was working. (My bf was a security at a school) I believe that the girl that he was with was a student. Another student saw them together and had reported it to his boss. According to the mutual friend, they had only been send flirty text and been walking around, nothing physical happened. I have not confronted my boyfriend yet because this friend has been known to lie. He also told me that the boss was suppose to call me to let me know what really happened. But it's been a couple of days and still no calls. I'm waiting for the call to confront my bf, I have been dropping hints but my bf denies it. What should I do? Welcome to LS. At one point, I understand what he is going through. I'm 28 now, but at 25, I was freaking out. I had NO clue what I wanted to do. In a way, I still dont. I thought about breaking up with my gf too at the time. HOWEVER, you know the saying "Where there's smoke, there's fire?" I think this fits that exactly. The quit/firing happened....it sounds fishy. Now, there is talks of another woman involved? I think this whole "I dont want to slow you down" is to make him look better for what he did. I'm going to bet apples to oranges SOMETHING happened. You say nothing physical....this sucks to hear, but I wouldnt be surprised to hear that he had. Of course, I highly doubt he'll ever tell you the full story. If I were you, I confront him head on. Ask him point blank and tell him that you can't keep this going unless he is honest. Talk to the boss if he calls you like your BF said. I'd tread INCREDIBLY carefully. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
WYSWYG Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 It may be time to move on... Things I learned from a RS going downhill is that: *they will not be honest and likely thought about the BU way ahead of you. *they will do things for their benefit and will not care how you feel about it. *they're no longer that person that used to care. There will be a lot of questions we want answered. We will feel cheated, used, abandoned etc.....It's a process that most of us here is dealing w/ just like you. Times when no words seem to offer any consolation. Sleepless nights and the lack of desire for living - we're all there w/ you. But keep posting here. There's a lot of articles you can read and can ease your pains. BU can break your heart but do not let it break your spirit. I have had BU's before the recent one and surely another one to deal w/ in the future. Easier said than done but best to let him go. Stay NC and mourn the loss. One day, he will suffer the same pain. Be gentle w/yourself. You will overcome this.....
Author imm Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 You guys are right, it's just so hard when you have a lot of things together and have been together so such a long time.
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