Lovesoldier84 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 (edited) I have issues from an abusive child hood. My ex had gotten out of an abusive relationship several months before meeting me. It was LOVE at first sight, the sex was so passionate we shared so much in common. He introduced me to his friends and family, we had loads of fun together playing video games. His passion was gaming mine is business so I encouraged to make a business out of it which he appreciates about me... However as our relationship unfolded my insecurities got the best of me. From the first month I snooped through his computer. I approached him about it and he deletes the girl. It's started getting monthly where we right.. But the good times kept us wanting to fight through. Near the end of our relationship. I hit major depression. My friend committed suicide on December my uncle passed away on Christmas and I lost my job. Not only that I knew my love life was crumbling. I hit rock bottom. It got bad, I ended up in the hospital and conned my way out. He came to visit but the nurse said go, never talk to her again cut all contact. She needs to heal. 27 years of suppressive emotions are exploding. He dropped me like a rock ignoring my calls deleted me off Facebook... And I know this is all out of anger. Throughout the relationship he kept asking for space because I wouldn't let him. In a sense he felt he need to do this because it was an unhealthy relationship. But I ended conversation with him saying, I'm finally meeting my dad after 28 years and fixing my issues. Thank you for the memories and love. Take care. He replied instantly that he was happy for me.. And I'm 3 weeks no contact. But I still love him because I'm going to therapy and fixing core issues. I hope he is hopeful fr a new me because without the snooping, we would have had An amazing relationship. So beautiful. How do men work after a break up? Does reget ever hit their heads? It was a beautiful situation. No lying no cheating just fun and... My issues which I am getting help to heal. I love him so much... But am letting to of the relationship and learning to love myself. Please be kind. It seems like our break up was needed to heal and meet again due to unfinished business. A new me with professional help would eliminate the issues. Edited March 10, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Gix
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Normally I'd say a break up does not help but in your case, I suppose there is a possibility. You have so many other issues going on -- grief, depression & job loss -- that you don't have the emotional energy for a relationship. You have to fix you & become whole before you can be part of a healthy couple. The risk is that he won't be there when you are ready. It's unfair of you to ask him to wait but you do need to do what's best for you 1st. FWIW, I'm sorry about your losses.
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