Monicaj11 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 (edited) in the beginning of jan, we had a huge fight over something stupid and I gave him 2 weeks of space, we were together for 3 yrs, lived together for 2 1/2 yrs. In sept he moved to NC for personal reasons. I was due to come to NC in March to move in with my bf from ny. I loved this man with all my heart! I was a great girlfriend! I cooked, cleaned, supported his dreams! And was like a second mother to his daughter. I am 25 he is 34, I also did so much FINACIALLY! In the end I feel used and thrown out like trash! I was so faithful and loyal to him! When I called to make up after 2 weeks he was distant and cold! He would yell at me n hang up. Finally I asked why are you treating me so bad? What did I do? His response: I don't owe you an explanation I then asked did you meet someone else? He says he did n hung up, I cried, begged, and sent a flood of texts which didn't work! Finally I went NC for 40 days, broke contact on thurs, he answered was calm and told me he has "resentment "towards me for telling his daughters mother we broke up, mind you his BM lives abt 10 mins away from me and he begged me to get his daughter a toy she wanted and he would refund me ,so I did. When I saw her she asked how I was and I told her we B/U..her being the hot head she is was upset! Called my ex and curssed him out! She knew how good I was to him and their child! this man was living in a shelter and I let him move in with me n my family! Anyway, he made up some lame exscuse and hung up. I then looked on his IG and saw he now has a gf�� He literally dumped me and was with this girl a few days after! I saw all the pics, she went down there and was at his house! Taking bed selfies and ish! She is sprung. All she does now is post pics of them and puts captions like he is my soulmate, my hubby, god sent me a winner.. Lol.. Im sorry but im in shock like wtf? Crazy part is this chick is not living in NC with him,. She lives in Harlem like me so he's in another LDR. smh! He has known her for a while, they grew up in the same neighborhood in harlem. she's a good looking girl, 32 n has a child. I seriously dont see how this could be so serious so fast, my ex is a bit selfish and for this woman to uproot her life and her pre teen child to move to NC in his 1bdrm apt would be insane! This man cannot date anybody with kids! Their relationship is moving at lightening speed! I was with this man for 6 months b4 he dropped the L word on me. They have been together for just abt 2 months from looking on IG and all they do is tell each other they love each other �� I couldnt blv it! I had avoided his IG like the plauge! He blocked me but I still know his psswrd so I looked. It hurt so bad to see him being so openly affectionate to her n dropping the L word so soon. Im guessing its b/c of the lust and it's the honeymoon stage. The rejection is the killer and I feel so hurt after 3 yrs he just dumped me for this chick! I did not know he was seeing her so back in jan when I was calling she had the nerve to get on the phone and tell me to stop calling her man! He was done with me. I never been hurt so bad, the last 2 months have been the hardest! While he's happy telling her he loves her im suffering! It's total betrayal! He called me on friday a day after I had called him, on thursday after I saw his ig I texted him that I see he has a GF and he looks "happy" so God bless. When he called I missed the call, stupid me called back 2 hrs later he didn't answer and he never called back, so questions I have is, could this really be love after being together for 3 yrs he dumps me, jumps into this rebound right away? And could he be playing mind games by calling and seeing where my head is so would chase him? Im doing my best to move on,but it hurts! After all I invested, heart, feelings, money, it hurts to be dumped. I have a feeling his new relationship will not last b/c he is being good guy now and she has no idea what she is in for, I'm the youngest woman he has dated yet his longest relationship! Im not holding my breath though, All thoughts are appreciated so thanx in advance! Edited March 10, 2014 by Monicaj11
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