Kermit76 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 6 month mark. Have not seen my ex. Two brief texting conversations. Have an event next month we both got invited to. It is for a project we both worked on together while we were dating. Do I go or sit this one out? Not sure how I will feel seeing her and I'm sure we will both be uncomfortable there. At least me. But a part of me wants to go to show her I have moved on.
Kevin_D Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Nope. Don't go. Avoid it if you can. Call in sick. Do whatever it takes.
pickflicker Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 If you were going to a concert with 30 000 people, then sure. An intimate event like this, no way. The fact that you have to ask, means you're not really there yet. 3
Author Kermit76 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Yes. I admit I'm not there yet. But I worked over a year on the project. Its a film premiere. And its important to me. It sucks that I have to think about this.
David87 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Don't go because it will set you back. You still have feelings for your ex.
Author Kermit76 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Sigh. I guess you guys are right. Sucks it has to be this way.
organizedchaos Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Yes. I admit I'm not there yet. But I worked over a year on the project. Its a film premiere. And its important to me. It sucks that I have to think about this. It's work and it's important. I say go, suck it up, deal with the minor setback, but don't stick around. Maybe she won't come? 1
lolablue17 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Oh, come on... You are going to miss an important event just because your EX is there? screw her... Just go to the premiere and dont give a **** about her, have fun, meet all the people you know there, ignore her or you can just say "hi", and dont pay any attention. You can set going there with a friend, girlfriend is the best. 1
Leegh Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I would go to the event. In a way going to the event, may give you more closure. Initially, it may bring back memories, but over the long run it may help you move on. In addition, if any alcohol is being served there, I would not have any, as drinking can intensify feelings, etc. Also, if you do decide to go, if it is causing you too much stress at the event, you could always leave early. 1
LostConfused123 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I wouldn't, but that's just me. There's no way I could see my ex with his new date.(and that's the best case scenario) If by then, you're over her, then, yeah, of course go. Either way, best of luck! Oh, and CONGRATULATIONS!!! Sounds like you did an awesome job!
Heroeric Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 If you go, don't pay attention to her unless you have too and appear Happy, so she doesn't think your still bothered by it. 1
David87 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 If you go, don't pay attention to her unless you have too and appear Happy, so she doesn't think your still bothered by it. Yeah thats easy to do, but the thing is that when he'll see her a toon of feelings will hit him. Joy, hate, butterflies in the stomach, regret, panic, anxiety etc and probably will mess up the event. 1
d0nnivain Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 It's your film project too. You have to go. Take a cue from actors: Fake it till you make it. Look great. Act like everything is fabulous. Be polite. Say hello with a tight smile but nothing more. Pretend like she's not there. If you can bring a friend for moral support all the better. Don't drink because you don't want to lose control & say something stupid.
Author Kermit76 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 (edited) Thanks everyone. It will be a game time decision if I go or not. She is in the film and I worked on it. To my surprise working on the film last night I was able to watch her with no emotion which I couldn't do five months ago. But seeing her in person could evoke another emotion. However, if I go I will be polite to her, not stay long, and will bring a friend for support. If I have to work that night then I don't go, or if she can't go that's even better. Edited March 10, 2014 by Kermit76 1
WYSWYG Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 If this helps: Me and my ex shared a circle of friends. It's where she also met her current bf. Yea, i knew him and knew what was coming my way. BU last Nov. I was at an event last Jan. and saw them walk in for the first time together. Surprisingly, I kept my composure and actually had fun. He shook my hand - I really got nothing against him. She wasn't friendly. It pretty much affirmed an ending for me. Back when I was still w/ her, we had cold days of distance from whatever fights we had. If I recall, I would miss her on those days but I always felt relief when I see her even w/out words. For me, seeing her in person keeps her real and not larger-than-life that I imagine. That's just me. What's your gut-feeling about this event? Naturally, your anxious not knowing how you'll feel and handle yourself. It's a confrontation that requires disposition. It could also be just the last hurdle you need to pass to get over her. Good luck, bro....
Chi townD Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Johnny Depp was once asked if he watches his movies and he said "No". They asked why not? And he responded, "Because I already know how they end."
Author Kermit76 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Thanks for your advice. I think I could handle it. It actually may be nice to see her like u said. My gut feeling is she doesn't have a new boyfriend but I could be in for a surprise. I want to go but just anxious how she will act towards me if were both there. She has been cold when we had two texting conversations, but she reached out to me on my birthday and maybe she is nervous about the whole premiere as well. Will see what I decided to do.
Author Kermit76 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 ChiTownD, The night will end with me going home alone, lol. I don't have any alternative motive in trying to win back my ex that night.
WYSWYG Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Thanks for your advice. I think I could handle it. It actually may be nice to see her like u said. My gut feeling is she doesn't have a new boyfriend but I could be in for a surprise. I want to go but just anxious how she will act towards me if were both there. She has been cold when we had two texting conversations, but she reached out to me on my birthday and maybe she is nervous about the whole premiere as well. Will see what I decided to do. Expect the worst to set aside any surprises and I think you'll be fine. If anything, act like 007. You're a babe-magnet....that's my attitude!
Chi townD Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Point of my post is because it sounded like you were going to the first run of a movie project you worked on. You already know how it ends. And it's sounds like you edited for some of the film, sooo.....you know how it ends.
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