freebird31 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 (edited) Well...I had read this quote about how we are never really ready to do anything and we should not wait until we are "ready." And for me, being ready means dating again. And i have been holding on for 10 and a half months already. I dont want to hold on anymore. Its hard. and its def easier said than done. Esp becuase i still get that pain in my chest from time time like i miss him. But I cant wait forever for him, its unfair to me. I think all this time i was stubborn to the idea of dating someone new. And i felt like i should wait until i was ready. but just like that quote says, when are we ever really ready? I thought being ready meant dating someone when i was finally over my ex. I thought, this being my first relationship, that time would make me get over him. But time has only helped to get over the PAIN not him. It is possible the feelings will always be there for him, and thats something i should accept. But i cannot hold onto him anymore, in hopes that he will realize he had a good thing. Its truly unfair to myself. I think, for the first time, in 10 months, i think im open to date new people. I think i deserve something new. I mean, im not going to go on the search for a new boyfriend. But im not closed to the idea of getting to know someone anymore. Its been 10 long months and i think its time i do something for myself instead of HOLDING ON to this . Like i said, im not over him. My feelings are still there and prob will stay there for a long time. I had to give it 10 months to realize that. But now, i just need to learn to cope with it...and be open to new things. Who knows, maybe this WAS meant to happen. Maybe there is someone out there who is a better match for me. Maybe that is why my world with my ex ended. Idk. But i think its time for me to find out....im scared but i think i am open to it .. Edited March 10, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 2
BC1980 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I also waited about 10 months to consider someone else. It freaked me out at first, but I talked myself down. We only went on one date, but it helped just to get out there. The only way to know if you are ready is to test the waters
robbysurfs Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Good for you! The first few are trying but it is ok there is someone for everyone. I am still dating and open to be honest I could take it or leave it I am pretty happy right now. My point is you will get back to the person you were before you met him
Author freebird31 Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Well I don't know if I'm ready..I mean I still am crazy over my ex:( but I can't continue to hold out hope, that might be false hope. It's just unfair! Blah:( .
maturityassets Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Go have fun. It'll take some time to get over that ex because you'll compare whoever you are dating to them but push through. Seems like you've grown alot personally in 10 months. I think you'll make a great partner to any guy you get into another relationship with. Best of luck
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