waiting4u Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) I'm a bit uncomfortable with leading in dating scenarios - I feel like it comes off as pushy. Okay, so I went out on a great first date last week with a guy I really like that I met at the gym. He’s really good-looking but comes off as a bit quirky and awkward. We talked until the place closed and did some kissing at the end of the night. Next day I texted to say thanks and he responded by calling me gorgeous and saying he had a blast. Even sent his texts twice because he said he was afraid I wasn’t getting them! I went away for four days on a business trip and got back last night. While I was away, we messaged a little back and forth and he said “looking forward to seeing you back in town.” This morning he just happened to be at the gym when I went for my workout and he came over to say hi. I was all sweaty and icky, but he said “let’s chill this week, okay?” and I said “yeah” and he said “yeah?” and I said “absolutely.” Then he sort of stroked my hand and off he went. So, this all sounds great (generally), he seems to like me and all, possibly even goes to the gym so he’ll run into me on purpose (he usually goes to another gym and he knew I was getting home last night). Thing is – I’m uncomfortable with being the one to take the lead so much. Our first date happened because I suggested it, although we’d been talking before, and he drove and paid and all. Should I text him and suggest a second date? Or just wait around for him to follow up on the “let’s chill” thing? (apparently this is guy-speak for "let's hang out") I’ve never met a guy who was so self-conscious even though he’s crazy attractive. I noticed after I first saw him at the gym that he went into the locker room and changed his shirt (or put on a hoodie or something) before he came over to talk to me. And he did this nervous rambling thing at the beginning of our date – it was strange, but cute. Am I intimidating? Should I take the lead here and suggest we do something? Or maybe I’m reading it wrong and he’s not really that into me . . . Edited March 9, 2014 by waiting4u
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