jani7 Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 A few months ago I walked in on my boyfriend, of two years, in bed with another girl that he had told me was just a friend. All they were doing when I walked in was laying in bed watching tv. He said that they were just friends and that nothing was going on. He didn't think what he was doing was cheating but I told him I did. He told me that he felt lonely without me there all the time, because I moved after graduating last year and he still lives on the college campus since he is still in school. We talked things through and decided to stay together to work things out. Then about a week after that he broke up with me because he said it was too much for him. He said he couldn't stand not having trust between us and that there was too much going on in his life at that moment. He said he didn't want to always have to prove to me he wasn't cheating. So we went our separate ways. A little over a month ago we started talking again, and he told me how much he missed me and that he couldn't imagine being without me any more. He said he loved me and that there was no one else he wanted to be with. He stills swears to this day that he and the other girl never had anything more than just a friendship. He says he no longer talks to her but I am sure they see each other around campus. I do still love him but I am wondering if he does truly feel those things or if he's playing me for a fool? Does he deserve me and another chance? Or should I just move on and not worry about him? Any comments/advice are welcome...especially any guys' views on this! Thanks!
her1nonly Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 i can empathize with your ex. i too left a relationship because it i constantly had to prove my loyalty to keep her reassured. that caused a lot of arguements...and i just had enough. i had similar situations, but i swear, i never did anything with any women while i was with my ex. but yet she insisted that i did. i was guilty in fibbing...little lies which in the end are lies. bottom line. my ex doesn't trust me, but i wasn't willing to work to earn it. if you take him back, he'll leave again, once you start doubting him being faithful. i don't know him, but men are capable of being dawgs...so he could easily be playing you for a fool while you're not around.
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