Nickyg Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) Hi, i recently went through a break up about 5 weeks ago. I dated the girl for about 6-7 months and a combination of things broke us up such as jealousy on both of our parts and fighting a lot near the end. She broke up with me and said she feels like she needs to heal from her previous relationship of four years that was full of arguments, him cheating, and lies. I speculated that she left me for someone else, although I'm not certain just cause I've noticed a new guy becoming good friends with her closest friends. The other day, I was finally not thinking about her and I decided to go out and have some fun with some girls my friends know. While out, at around 2:30 am, my Ex's best friend (who hated me cause she's a jealous, insecure manipulator) called me and asked me if I would be home that night. I told her no and she said that she wants to come by my place and get my ex's hookah at 3 am before she leaves for Puerto Rico. I told her I wouldn't be home and that I'll get it to her some other time. Idk if that means anything or not, but it definitely made me think about her again. I guess I just want to know if it's best to move on, if it seems like she'll come back, or if it's an unclear situation that will take time to manifest. I've done all I could to move on such as breaking all contact, blocking her and her friends from social media, and deleting her number. I have run out of options. Any advice? Thank you for whatever help you can give. Edit: my friends were with me when she called and think that it's a discreet way of making themselves more relevant to my life again, which it obviously worked... My friends are very experienced with break ups and they said "girls are dumb... At this age at least (21) and they'll break up with you and once they feel like they've lost you for good, they want to show up out of nowhere again." Just a random but I forgot to mention. Edited March 9, 2014 by Nickyg Forgot to include information
David87 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 I guess I just want to know if it's best to move on Yes it's the best thing you can do right now. if it seems like she'll come back Don't hope that she might come back, it doesn't matter now. My friends are very experienced with break ups and they said "girls are dumb I don't think that your friends are experienced, because girls at 21 aren't dumb, they are too young to know what they want in general, they experiment and they definitely don't want to settle down(not all of them) it's a natural thing to do at that age(don't blame the 21 year old girls) they'll break up with you and once they feel like they've lost you for good, they want to show up out of nowhere again It happens from time to time, but it's up to you if you give it another chance or not. So for now maintain NC and focus on yourself and when you're ready start dating again.
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