Is this sadness after breakup or depression?

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Hi. A little over a month ago my Ex's mom broke us up (I'm 16, she's 15) mostly because I don't have a car. She's now in a relationship with some 19-year old sexual predator, but whatever... I think I'm almost entirely over her. She was the first person I've ever had a long (3 months) relationship with. I'm not going to say "first love" because I'm pretty sure it was just infatuation. This doesn't really matter, but I feel like I should add it.

 

Anyway, recently I've been very unmotivated and mopey. I feel like I have no real purpose in life. Today I stayed in bed until 3 pm. My grades have been dropping because I've been laying off doing homework until late at night or even the next day. Things I normally do for fun are usually just to occupy my time, but I still get some enjoyment out of them. I'm kind of lonely but I'm not sure being in a relationship would make me feel better.

 

If anyone out there has experienced depression or is experiencing it, can you help me?

[chados]

why do you think we all are here from the start? i knew this was going on but the problem was that you were more focused on her and him then yourself. theres no point making more and more treads cause its not helping.

 

 

anyways. first relationship that you feel is the real deal will almost always be the one that is the hardest to let go of. the worst thing isnt that the relationship ended but that the person choosed to be with someone else instead of yourself and that you didnt get any explanation. or at least one that you wanted to hear. and trust me no one is good. guys are normally the ones that gets depressed. the reason for this is because girls much more often then guys have already dealed with the depression before they break up.

 

 

they dont say anything in the relationship. or if they do it might not be something that is important. they just break up out of nowhere. they dont always know theyre gonna break up. they just know that something is wrong.

 

and this is important. its never your fault that someone breaks up with you. young people especially girls always think that its gonna be better with someone else. think about it.. how many in your school are breaking up once maybe even five times a year? mostly it dont get any better. i wouldnt be scared to bet my money that shes not staying with him forever.

 

its always good in the beginning, the feelings you have there are almost always the same with everyone you are together with. then when youre together for a while you become more and more friends. and the feelings you have at first might be there but on a completly new level. now you can tell her everything, you know exactly how much you can annoy her before she gets mad. or how what to do to make her happy. three months is nothing, and you havent lost something that wasnt there. (she has lost you, because she left you)

 

i can promise youre gonna get over it. and its good it happens now. because its not fun having a first girlfriend when youre an adult and she leaves you. then you can feel hopeless when all friends has been dating for years. almost no relationship at 16 is gonna last forever. especially not if its your first. i can also promise you that youre not going to look back when finding someone that you can trust. and that you know isnt gonna cheat on you.

[Mr Scorpio]

Your purpose in life is to enjoy it. It seems that you aren't enjoying life right now due to pain from the loss of you ex. I'm not going to invalidate your pain based on your age or the relative brevity of your relationship. However, I will point out that being mopey is NOT going to help you.

 

 

You are young. There will be other women and some of them will want a partner who can pull their weight in a relationship. Staying in bed until 3pm doesn't help to that end.

 

 

"Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny".