Stay Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) Ok so this girl I met is attractive, more than average if I say so myself. I know first dates are usually awkward and both parties feel weird. But this was a bit different, I'm use to girls who are confident in their actions. This girl seemed shy, which I understand but her actions from drinking her water to doing things is very unconfident if that makes sense? It's almost like when you pick up something very slowly cause you're afraid of people seeing you or something along those lines, maybe not to that extent but close enough. Other than that her eye contact was impeccable, I broke my eye contact before she did and it seemed like she was better at that. It was almost like a Michael Cera awkward. Those girls who you see in the movies who are in high school and all they do is read books, are anti-social, and walks with their heads down , that's sorta the vibe I get but it's not fully that(She's not like that but that's the kinda feeling I get). Another way to put it is those really shy asian girls from Japan or something. She converses extremely well, we never stopped talking at all. It just seems like the confidence is lacking a bit in the way she carries herself. Hopefully I'm making sense but I can't seem to pinpoint if this is a socially awkward person which might come off as a bit weird or if she's just very nervous and needs some time to get comfortable. Throughout the date I saw a little comfort building up but it wasn't much that made a huge difference. Even when she got excited and laughed uncontrollably it was like she was holding back a bit, I feel like it wasn't to the full extent she could be at. I understand how it is because I myself use to be socially awkward and was really shy. Almost like this but not as bad I guess you can say. So I understand where she's coming from. If she carried herself better with lots of confidence and self-esteem she'll be way more attractive. We got on the topic somehow and she said she cares what people think of her, so I just told her once you start not caring what people think you'll be more of yourself. Anyone have any inputs on this? Is this normal and have you met someone like this who eventually opened up? Edited March 9, 2014 by Stay
HappyLove Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Sounds like she was extremely nervous. If you like her I'd go on another date to see how it goes. 3
newmoon Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 she could also just be very feminine and enjoy a man taking the lead with everything. not every girl is in-your-face confident. some are (amazing, I know) old-fashioned and demure! go on another date and hold back on giving her personal advice on increasing her confidence... you don't know her enough to be dropping advice like that 2
Author Stay Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 she could also just be very feminine and enjoy a man taking the lead with everything. not every girl is in-your-face confident. some are (amazing, I know) old-fashioned and demure! go on another date and hold back on giving her personal advice on increasing her confidence... you don't know her enough to be dropping advice like that Opps I worded that wrong in the OP, I didn't tell her that explicitly or gave her any advice, I was just saying how I use to be like that but after not caring what people thought about me I just felt more of myself. I took the lead and also did kiss her and the date couldn't have been better. I am going to give it more tries and hopefully see her open up a bit, I just never dated a girl like this before so was wondering. 1
babycakees Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 The last guy I dated said that I was just like this the first we went out. He said he could tell I was really nervous and that I barely made any eye contact. He said he actually in a strange way that he liked it because it made me interesting. Odd. But I dated him for a few months and he even said I was much more open on the second date. 1
Author Stay Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 The last guy I dated said that I was just like this the first we went out. He said he could tell I was really nervous and that I barely made any eye contact. He said he actually in a strange way that he liked it because it made me interesting. Odd. But I dated him for a few months and he even said I was much more open on the second date. In a way I do like it also because she's not a typical girly girl. I've always been curious myself about a girl who isn't worried about all the materialistic stuff. I've never really known a girl like that so she does have my interest because of that. I'd describe it as an awkward ditzy which a lot of people are kinda ditzy when they're nervous and awkward(hell, I had my ditzy moment during the date) because she seems quite smart from what I've gathered. Only more dates will tell though.
waiting4u Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Probably she really likes you and you make her nervous. Maybe a little social anxiety as well. It's pretty common. 1
babycakees Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 In a way I do like it also because she's not a typical girly girl. I've always been curious myself about a girl who isn't worried about all the materialistic stuff. I've never really known a girl like that so she does have my interest because of that. I'd describe it as an awkward ditzy which a lot of people are kinda ditzy when they're nervous and awkward(hell, I had my ditzy moment during the date) because she seems quite smart from what I've gathered. Only more dates will tell though. I almost guarantee she will open up more on the second date. Especially if it was because she was nervous! Good luck! 1
Author Stay Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 Thanks for the responses, I just don't want her to be some weird person which sometimes being socially awkward can make you seem like that.
WP4046 Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 this is why I always preferred intimate encounters over a date because it's so nerve racking.
Author Stay Posted March 10, 2014 Author Posted March 10, 2014 this is why I always preferred intimate encounters over a date because it's so nerve racking. Can't have those throughout the rest of your life though. I'm all for that but that could just be as nerve racking when you don't have any connection or know a person at all. Could just be me though.
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