hockeyman5000 Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 I'm just looking for some suggestions. I had been going out with my girlfriend for awhile, and I thought we were totally in love. At least that's the things were going. She never let that she was having any problems. Then one day I called her at work, which I did all the time. If she wasn't busy we'd talk a couple minutes. This time she was pissed and asked what I wanted. Before I could answer she hang up. I called back later during her normal break time. I was guessing that she was busy when I called the first time. This time she told me to stop calling and harassing her then hung up. My friend works at the same place. He talked to her for me, and she said she wasn't talking to me because she was stressed out. She had been having some problems and was understanding about that. The past few days the hasn't returned any calls. I made sure not to make tons of calls. Just a couple the past week. I get the feeling that it over, but I just haven't been told. I really am in love with her, and can't figure out how to get her to talk. Long story, but she works with a girl I knew in high school, and didn't like. They get along real well though. I have a feeling that she was talking crap on me, and that this may all be a big understanding. So I have no clue what I might have done or anything about the situation. She did have a bad previous relationship and her bf put her through hell. So she doesn't trust people very easily. I just hope she'll listen to me again or give me another chance. Any ideas how to get her back? Thanks.
blinkless Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Hockeyman, you said you had a guy friend talk to her for you. WRONG. This is the most important part, I believe you were correct when you said that it may be a breakdown of communication. There is only one answer, talk to her. Openly, honestly and in a positve way. I have a rule I hold myself to, if someone asks me anything, if I hesitate with my answer Im not being honest. Im so conditioned I dont think I could lie ifI needed to. Communication to some people is harder than others, and because the abrupt manner your story told of her change in attitude reaks of misunderstanding. If she wont talk to you or give you information you can use, learn something. Let her know how you feel. In person, strategically planned,as not to be attempting this at an inappropriate time. Good luck Go win your beautiful girl's affection back
Bronzepen Posted January 25, 2005 Posted January 25, 2005 Originally posted by hockeyman5000 Then one day I called her at work, which I did all the time. If she wasn't busy we'd talk a couple minutes. This time she was pissed and asked what I wanted. Before I could answer she hang up. This could be a clue. Maybe she is under stress but that is no reason to treat you like that. Maybe you calling her at work all the time made her coworkers make fun of her. Maybe she thinks your checking up on her. Who knows. Just talk to her face to face. See what's the problem.
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