MichaelM Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 Not sure if I am in the right area or not but I need some advice. I had the most wonderfulk and intense four month with a girl during the summer that just passed. She had just left her husband who had cheated on her many times. They are still going throught he divorce. We decided to stop seeing each other because she found it too hard, and nneded time to herself. That is when things got very messy and ugly for us. One day she wants me in her life, the next she wants nothing to do with me. This has been going on for about 3 months now, a constant roller coaster ride. About two weeks ago she sent me an email saying she did not think we should speak at all anymore. She said she did not need me in her life. I agreed with her and stopped communicating. At the same time I was very sick and had a big doctors appointment. SO, after about 4 days from the time she called me. I was not home and did not call her back. About 3 days after that she emailed me and said she was very concerned about my health and wanted to knwo how things whent. Then the rest of the week we spoke by email only and she was very nice all week. This past firday she called me at 2:45 am after the bar. Again I was not home and did not return her call. She emailed me this morning and asked me if I still like her and ever think about her. I told her yes and yes, and asked why she would ask me that. She said because I am never home when she calls and I never return her calls. She also said that she really wanted to see me friday night. Then she said it was ok though because she eneded up calling somebody else instead on friday night, She then said she was just kidding and she would never do something like that. I got mad and told her not to joke about things like that, she again said she was only kidding around and it was not true. But, she said she regreted calling me and that she was drunk. . I told her if she regrets calling me then we should not speak at all anymore. She then emailed me FU! My questions are: What does she want from me? Does she even care? Why would she regret calling me? Link to post Share on other sites
kypepeo Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 Walk away!! SHe clearly has issues to deal with and she needs to do that on her own. Don't get pulled into that , you'll end up getting hurt for no good reason Link to post Share on other sites
Stylin22 Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 Pal, if you would like to have a good, happy life...walk away from this one. She playing some serious mental games here. You have to be the one to cut it off...if she gets mad then so be it. You sound like a good guy to put up with it so far. Get yourself something alot better than this... Link to post Share on other sites
Weird Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 yeah son, this chick is *****ed up and sounds like she is 12. Walk away bro. Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted January 27, 2005 Share Posted January 27, 2005 michael, being the only non misogynist to respond (sorry weird, you're cute but you've got the makings of one) i must admit this girl has serious issues. i think it would be in your best interest to run from this one as fast as your legs can carry you. breakups are already an emotional roller coaster. she's the uber roller coaster. get off the ride. Link to post Share on other sites
roxy_1980 Posted January 28, 2005 Share Posted January 28, 2005 She is going through a divorce. One that is not final and involves her being cheated on. Right now, she doesn't trust men as far as she can throw them. Which in most woman's cases isn't that far (if they can pick them up in the first place). All men, include you, are the scum of the Earth to her at times. Her conflict doesn't seem to ending any time soon. Move on. You'll find a more stable woman that you can love. And don't be overly worried about her, when she settles down and finds her center again, she'll find someone to love too. Sorry, but you're there in the wrong place at the wrong time. Maybe under better circumstances it would have worked out. Besides, do you really want to be her divorce rebound guy? Good Luck with whatever you decide Link to post Share on other sites
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