you_can_not_see_me Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) Basically this girl was giving me really strong vibes earlier in the semester then for various reasons I wasn't able to pursue her for a few weeks, then this last week when I intended to pursue her more actively I notice that she is starting to semi flirt with this other guy. I could tell because I was siting behind her and the guy was constantly looking over at her, and she looked at him a couple of times. I thought this was game over but then she just turned around and stared at me for a long time. so it seems like there's still something going on between me and her as well. I am just worried that the hiatus of me not talking to her for a few weeks have made her more likely to go with the other guy. This whole situation is stressing me out more than usual, I have never needed to directly compete with another guy for a girl. I don't want to cause emotional disappointment for another guy and neither do I want the same for myself, but I am really attracted to the girl and I don't want to let up on pursuing her and I know only one of us can be with the girl. I am trying to not stress on this until I see her again, but I just can't stop thinking about this, its even invaded my dreams. Any advice would be helpful. Edited March 9, 2014 by you_can_not_see_me
Joaquin Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Why not ask her out and be done with all this staring?
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Why not ask her out and be done with all this staring? I want to do that next time I see her, but meanwhile this whole affair is twisting my stomach real bad. Also I don't know what to do if next time I see her, she is talking/interacting with the other guy in some way. I just feel like the door of opportunity is closing real fast and I am not sure I have much control over what happens.
morrowrd Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Girls play games like this, she probably has a small inventory of guys in other classes or environments she is doing this to. The best thing you can do is not get all over eager, (spells needy, clingy). Respond to her communication warmly, smile at her, but don't stare. Get her to smile and laugh (if you can do it appropriately, don't force anything and make yourself look like an awkward goof), and pay attention to whether or not she flirts. If she does, take a "step of faith" and ask her if she'd like to hang out later, play pool or something in one of the student lounges. Something unthreatening, just to get your feet wet.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Girls play games like this, she probably has a small inventory of guys in other classes or environments she is doing this to. The best thing you can do is not get all over eager, (spells needy, clingy). Respond to her communication warmly, smile at her, but don't stare. Get her to smile and laugh (if you can do it appropriately, don't force anything and make yourself look like an awkward goof), and pay attention to whether or not she flirts. If she does, take a "step of faith" and ask her if she'd like to hang out later, play pool or something in one of the student lounges. Something unthreatening, just to get your feet wet. I wouldn't be surprised if there were more guys, I know of another guy in the same class who is also obviously into her but she doesn't seem interested in him, so I don't feel any competition from him. I must admit there is something weird about this girl, she is too nice to everyone. Which may be attracting more guys to her.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Do you realize how pathetic you sound right now? Jeez, man up. If you like her, chat her up for a bit then tell her to join you bowling this weekend. Her answer should tell you where you stand with her. If it's a no, then you know that you don't have to waste your time worrying where you stand with her. It's just a bloody girl. They're not mythical creatures of the night. you are right, I am clearly making a bigger deal of this than I should. But what can I say my mind wonders its own way.
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