Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Even when I've had boyfriends ask it infuriates me. Shows a total lack of respect. Really? I would get annoyed if I wasn't in the mood but I found sexting really fun in relationships my last one was long distance.
Copelandsanity Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 I can't imagine that now. It baffles me It has to be a current generation thing. I'm not even that old - early 30s - but the whole idea of exchanging nude pics during the dating process is unacceptably sleazy. I could understand it within the context of a relationship, but only in that situation. But it seems like with younger people now that sex isn't really a big deal nowadays; it's just something you do for the heck of it. 2
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) It has to be a current generation thing. I'm not even that old - early 30s - but the whole idea of exchanging nude pics during the dating process is unacceptably sleazy. I could understand it within the context of a relationship, but only in that situation. But it seems like with younger people now that sex isn't really a big deal nowadays; it's just something you do for the heck of it. It's been real hard for me to find guys that don't talk about sex yeah, I really want a guy that doesn't wanna consider it till he cares about "me" as a person, I am 27 I think a lot of guys my age feel that they have to have sexual relations before even considering being with a girl. That makes it hard because I wouldn't wanna have sex with someone unless I was already considering being in a relationship with them. Edited March 9, 2014 by Omei
HappyLove Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 OP, be upset with us all you want but you have A LOT to learn. NEVER EVER give a stranger you met online your address! NEVER EVER get picked up at your house by a perfect stranger you met online! No matter how many deep texting or conversations you've had, this is someone you've never even seen face to face. Be more careful please. I think you need to listen to some of the posters here who have done OLDing before. A coffee date is a quick out if you don't like the guy. Many guys post these fabulous pictures and show up looking nothing like the pictures. You can give the liar 20minutes or less of your time and leave. Imagine having to sit and order dinner....wait for food. You really seem hard up for a nice dinner. Why not treat yourself? The other stuff about nude pictures are just blaring red flags that we've also seen. Instead of wasting time with a jerk move on to the decent guys your speaking to. Glad you canceled, if for nothing else you showed him you have standards. 2
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 It's been real hard for me to find guys that don't talk about sex yeah, I really want a guy that doesn't wanna consider it till he cares about "me" as a person, I am 27 I think a lot of guys my age feel that they have to have sexual relations before even considering being with a girl. That makes it hard because I wouldn't wanna have sex with someone unless I was already considering being in a relationship with them. Then this is what you have to project in your profile, your pictures and in your language. If you have a bullet proof profile that is clear on what you're looking for then you will avoid a big part of that online BS.
HappyLove Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 It's been real hard for me to find guys that don't talk about sex yeah, I really want a guy that doesn't wanna consider it till he cares about "me" as a person, I am 27 I think a lot of guys my age feel that they have to have sexual relations before even considering being with a girl. That makes it hard because I wouldn't wanna have sex with someone unless I was already considering being in a relationship with them. Nine times out of ten the guys you meet online are JERKS! As soon as it starts being just sex talk especially if you've never even met you need to move on. There are good guys, but very hard to find. Plus the women these days are so desperate a guy ask for nude pics she gives them thinking they are in a "relationship" even though she's only known him 2 weeks. You almost can't blame the creep for asking because you won't give them the next sucker will. 1
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 didn't give him my address, just a pick up loc. Profile fully clothed not even a cleavage shot and words clearly state no hookups. Not upset but yall are trying to find things wrong continuously
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 I also didn't give my last name, I asked where he worked knew his name, was gonna text my friend his license plate, wasnt gonna drink anything left on table in my absence friend was gonna text me hourly, had times of pick up and drop off friend had the address of the resteraunt. I dont think I have a lot to learn at all I think im actually pretty sealed tight I had even went as far as to tell my parents. Yall need to stop making assumptions that im totally clueless because I was gonna give a guy a second chance.
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 As a single mother, I never give out my info esp where I live.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Profile fully clothed not even a cleavage shot and words clearly state no hookups. Don't say "no hookups" on your profile. Because immediately, anyone who reads it thinks "hookups". You say "no games" - you sound like a game player. You say "no drama" - they think "drama queen". Don't talk about what you don't want - talk about what you do want. 5
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) Don't say "no hookups" on your profile. Because immediately, anyone who reads it thinks "hookups". You say "no games" - you sound like a game player. You say "no drama" - they think "drama queen". Don't talk about what you don't want - talk about what you do want. Or they could think exactly what it means no need to add secrect coding to it. One of my most recent reply was a lengthy paragraph of a guy telling me all about himself a very well thought out reply and at the end he also says I am looking to find a person to spend quality time with not a hookup. So obviously there are ppl who will read it for exactly what it means. Gonna let this post fizzle out since i cancled. Edited March 9, 2014 by Omei
Chubbi Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) Just to put it out there, I'm 23 years old. The first guy I met on Okcupid, we went out for drinks. I told him where I lived; we are next door neighbors. I went over to his apt on the first date. We sat on the couch, he put his arm around me, we watched a TV show, we laughed, we ate cookies, he walked me home. The third guy I met on Okcupid, the first date, he picked me up from the metro in his car, took me out to dinner, made me laugh, dropped me off at the metro. He asked for a kiss but I wasn't feeling it. I told him there was no chemistry, he apologized and moved on. The second guy I met on Okcupid, I'm still seeing today. I invited him to my apartment on the second date. What did we do? We danced around the living room, he played in my hair, we cuddled; only pecked for a kiss. He left to catch the metro. Just saying. I hate rules. Follow your gut. Edited March 9, 2014 by Chubbi
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 Just to put it out there, I'm 23 years old. The first guy I met on Okcupid, we went out for drinks. I told him where I lived; we are next door neighbors. I went over to his apt on the first date. We sat on the couch, he put his arm around me, we watched a TV show, we laughed, we ate cookies, he walked me home. The third guy I met on Okcupid, the first date, he picked me up from the metro in his car, took me out to dinner, made me laugh, dropped me off at the metro. He asked for a kiss but I wasn't feeling it. I told him there was no chemistry, he apologized and moved on. The second guy I met on Okcupid, I'm still seeing today. I invited him to my apartment on the second date. What did we do? We danced around the living room, he played in my hair, we cuddled; only pecked for a kiss. He left to catch the metro. Just saying. I hate rules. Follow your gut. This means absolutely nothing. It only takes ONE time to be on a date with the wrong guy. Ted Bundy was a handsome charming man as well... I would never play russian roulette with my safety. 6
Ruby Slippers Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 This means absolutely nothing. It only takes ONE time to be on a date with the wrong guy. Ted Bundy was a handsome charming man as well... I would never play russian roulette with my safety. Agreed. Letting a man who's a complete stranger pick me up for a date sounds insane, no matter how respectable he seems to be. Drive yourself, take a cab, or take transit. Anytime I've planned a date with a guy from online, they always offer to meet somewhere in my neighborhood so I don't have far to go. 1
Chubbi Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 This means absolutely nothing. It only takes ONE time to be on a date with the wrong guy. Ted Bundy was a handsome charming man as well... I would never play russian roulette with my safety. Yeah, it takes one time to be on a date with Ted Bundy. Because the chances of that happening are sky high. You are more likely to die from second-hand smoke. I'm glad we agree then that any precautions you take prior to the date also mean absolutely nothing once you get on a date with a serial killer. If a serial killer wants to kill you, and you go on a date with them, they will. You can't control serial killers. You can only control yourself. So your little rules of: I don't want you to pick me up in the car; oh, I don't want you to know where I live can't control them. They can still kill you. So, I'm not sure why you're ripping on what I said. It's like thinking I won't wear a skirt because I don't want to be raped. I'll just wear pants. You can still be raped in pants. If someone wants to rape you, you can't prevent it. You can't prevent someone from raping you unless you live in your room all day with the doors chained tight. You go outside for one second, you can get raped. That's the bottom line. The only way you are able to live and be free is if you don't live scared of the world, always in hiding, always in negativity. I don't get it. I'm just sharing my experience of the world, just like you are. You don't have to cut down my opinion to boost your own. I hitched-hike across Mexico with a group of friends, and I bet some people on this board would clutch their pearls in fear. I didn't. I went out and lived. Someone picked us up and took us the whole way where we wanted to go. No money required; no abduction by Mexican cartel. Ppl on this board are so negative. I can't stand negativity disguised as reality.
Els Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 This means absolutely nothing. It only takes ONE time to be on a date with the wrong guy. Ted Bundy was a handsome charming man as well... I would never play russian roulette with my safety. Precisely. That's like someone saying, "Well, I've never worn my seat belt in my entire life, and here I am, still hale and hearty! This whole seatbelt thing is overrated." Just because someone didn't take precautions and didn't die from it doesn't mean that those precautions are useless.
Els Posted March 10, 2014 Posted March 10, 2014 It's like thinking I won't wear a skirt because I don't want to be raped. I'll just wear pants. You can still be raped in pants. If someone wants to rape you, you can't prevent it. You can't prevent someone from raping you unless you live in your room all day with the doors chained tight. You go outside for one second, you can get raped. That's the bottom line. Wrong analogy. YOUR thinking is like saying that people get raped in all situations anyway, so why not walk alone down that dark seedy alley full of drug addicts every night at 3am since if it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen...
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