Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 We are not calling you a shank, we are telling you, all of us, do NOT call a guy sexy before having a personal relationship with him. It sends the wrong message to them! Geezzz listen woman! There is even a man here telling you to NOT do it! When I'm online I get a lot of messages from men *hey sexy* and the like, I never answer those! If a man calls me sexy in the middle of a conversation I drop him !! And all those that allows themselves to call me *sweety* and the like before meeting me. And even though I reject right off the bat those men I STILL deal with a a lot of crap. Eliminating men with early sex language is only skimming the surface. Here my online dating rule: Maybe it will serve you in the future. I expect men to address me online with the SAME respect they would in real life. If I am waiting in line to pay at the grocery store I highly doubt a man would make a first contact with *hey sexy*, it's completely improper in life, so it's completely improper online as well. If you don't have personal rules you won't survive online. Is there anyone on this forum here that is reading my reply's of me stating that I clearly agree but have decided to go on the date anyway? Anyone here at all? Or is everyone just so immersed In trying to get me to give them what they wanna hear? Where is Elswyth when you need her? lol I notice it's the very same people replying over and over unwilling to accept my choice to still go. And all the rape stuff when I am going to a public place...Dramatic?
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Sorry Survivor12 I am gonna use this post as what ive been talking about as someone who hasn't read any of my reply's again telling me to be aware again telling me that I am being naive when even so clearly in my main post that was a rant, not a question. Now I am being told I am stubborn because? because I am not canceling the date? I don't think I would wanna date most of you on here seem like arm twisters unwilling to accept that even tho it happened I am still willing to go but because of that I am just simply unaware. No matter how many posts are made of people saying the obvious that is already obvious I am still going to go, Because I want to look into it further. When I reply to post's on here I make note a keen note to take the OP's replies into consideration of what they are already aware of and that im not just throwing the same feedback over and over without reading the replys. Lol. Relax. If you get so agitated with people's opinions, then maybe you shouldn't post threads. Just like you have the freedom to rant, they have the freedom to criticize your rant and follow up actions. There are HUNDREDS of threads on here. Nobody has time to take notes on people's viewpoints. There's a new thread posted every 10 seconds and people are posting to multiple ones. Right now, this thread is up to 55 replies. Most responders aren't going to go back and read ALL 55 replies. At this point, people are just skimming.
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Is there anyone on this forum here that is reading my reply's of me stating that I clearly agree but have decided to go on the date anyway? Anyone here at all? Or is everyone just so immersed In trying to get me to give them what they wanna hear? Where is Elswyth when you need her? lol I notice it's the very same people replying over and over unwilling to accept my choice to still go. And all the rape stuff when I am going to a public place...Dramatic? Are you talking to me? Hey! You go on that date, I even told you good luck and I'll be looking forward for your update. I am just giving you advice for next time!! Have YOU been reading what I posted? lol 2
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Lol. Relax. If you get so agitated with people's opinions, then maybe you shouldn't post threads. Just like you have the freedom to rant, they have the freedom to criticize your rant and follow up actions. There are HUNDREDS of threads on here. Nobody has time to take notes on people's viewpoints. There's a new thread posted every 10 seconds and people are posting to multiple ones. Right now, this thread is up to 55 replies. Most responders aren't going to go back and read ALL 55 replies. At this point, people are just skimming. And if you notice for the last two pages it's me stating that I am fully aware what is going on here, I am not the first person on this forum to get annoyed with repliers replying but ignoring the OP's comment's. And I do think if a person is to reply to a post yes they need to read up before making a reply I can name various poster's on this site that do this and always take the OP's comments into play and not just ignore them and state the same old thing over and over. And I never said I was being called a skank I said it's silly to think calling a guy sexy he would think you would come off like a skank that is just being plan over dramatic, there is nothing wrong with telling someone they are attractive, and most people would take it as such.
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) If you want to date him go ahead. Odds are that he's not what you're looking for. If you want a free dinner and a casual sexual relationship, go ahead Is it possible that he's a decent guy and is just somehow socially retarded or something? maybe, there's always a chance but the information you have presented does not lean towards that possibility And that's pretty much it for this thread. I don't know what else we can cover This^ Is pretty much what ive been saying over and over yeah. But people don't wanna hear that or read it or even accept it, yes it is frustrating lol I am gonna stop replying till the date's actually happened because at this point it is the same small selection of people just trying to twist my arm into giving them what they wanna hear im still going, anyone interested in knowing what happened and check back later. Edited March 9, 2014 by Omei
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 I actually did just cancel the date because all the rape talk instilled such fear into me.
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 I actually did just cancel the date because all the rape talk instilled such fear into me. He was going to rape you in the restaurant? 3
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 He was going to rape you in the restaurant? No but he was gonna pick me up so I would of had to be in his car alone, and people are right I am just too bothered by the nude picture question... I wanted to see if yeah indeed maybe he was just socially retarded but I do want better for myself I don't wanna be telling the story of how we met and how I had to convince him to leave me alone sexually. I just have to be way more careful with my word's I am talking to few other guys that hasn't even mentioned anything sexual I rather give them the chance. 4
Survivor12 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Is there anyone on this forum here that is reading my reply's of me stating that I clearly agree but have decided to go on the date anyway? Anyone here at all? Or is everyone just so immersed In trying to get me to give them what they wanna hear? Where is Elswyth when you need her? lol I notice it's the very same people replying over and over unwilling to accept my choice to still go. And all the rape stuff when I am going to a public place...Dramatic? Well, apparently you didn't read mine because I did not argue with you about going on the date. I called you stubborn because you refuse to accept the POSSIBILITY that this guy is simply telling you what you want to hear. I'm done with this nonsense. Have fun on your date. I'm sure he's a great catch.
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 No but he was gonna pick me up so I would of had to be in his car alone, and people are right I am just too bothered by the nude picture question... I wanted to see if yeah indeed maybe he was just socially retarded but I do want better for myself I don't wanna be telling the story of how we met and how I had to convince him to leave me alone sexually. I just have to be way more careful with my word's There are another guys I am talking to few other guys that hasn't even mentioned anything sexual I rather give them the chance. In the list of advice I've given you for online dating add: Do NOT let a man you don't know pick you up. You meet them at the restaurant. You get there with your car, you leave with your car. I have had a really bad experience like this. I met a man for coffee, he drove there, I took the metro. After our coffee it was poring rain so he offered to leave me at the metro station, I felt a false sense of security and said yes, it's just at the corner anyway. The man kept me in his car, against my will, for 40 minutes, driving me around the city on highways, trying to convince me we were meant to be together. I had talked to this man for 3 weeks, I knew where he worked, I knew his name, he STILL was a stranger and scared the ****t out of me. Right above that rule squeeze in another advice: No restaurant for first meet. Coffee, a walk, ice cream parlor, park..............no restaurants. 3
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Well, apparently you didn't read mine because I did not argue with you about going on the date. I called you stubborn because you refuse to accept the POSSIBILITY that this guy is simply telling you what you want to hear. I'm done with this nonsense. Have fun on your date. I'm sure he's a great catch. I haven't refused to accept anything I have agreed with almost pretty much everyone on the forum again this is where people only picked to see the fact I was still going and saw nothing else and they wouldn't accept that. It wasn't me here who hasn't been accepting.
Survivor12 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 He was going to rape you in the restaurant? Actually, I was drugged once by an acquaintance--in a public place--and then offered to drive me home. Fortunately, a friend happen to see what was happening & insisted on taking me home instead. A few weeks later, he did the same to someone else who wasn't so fortunate. It happens. 1
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Actually, I was drugged once by an acquaintance--in a public place--and then offered to drive me home. Fortunately, a friend happen to see what was happening & insisted on taking me home instead. A few weeks later, he did the same to someone else who wasn't so fortunate. It happens. Wow! unbelievable, I will remember that. Thanks for sharing. 1
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 In the list of advice I've given you for online dating add: Do NOT let a man you don't know pick you up. You meet them at the restaurant. You get there with your car, you leave with your car. I have had a really bad experience like this. I met a man for coffee, he drove there, I took the metro. After our coffee it was poring rain so he offered to leave me at the metro station, I felt a false sense of security and said yes, it's just at the corner anyway. The man kept me in his car, against my will, for 40 minutes, driving me around the city on highways, trying to convince me we were meant to be together. I had talked to this man for 3 weeks, I knew where he worked, I knew his name, he STILL was a stranger and scared the ****t out of me. Right above that rule squeeze in another advice: No restaurant for first meet. Coffee, a walk, ice cream parlor, park..............no restaurants. Yeah another reason I canceled the only reason why we planned a pick up was because where I live Sunday buses in my location are not running I live on the edge of town and they don't run those Sundays so he offered I was going to text my friend his license plate lol and she was gonna check in regularly, But after the sexual advances no I don't even wanna be in the car with him. I still think a place to eat together is perfectly normal for a date.
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Actually, I was drugged once by an acquaintance--in a public place--and then offered to drive me home. Fortunately, a friend happen to see what was happening & insisted on taking me home instead. A few weeks later, he did the same to someone else who wasn't so fortunate. It happens. Cool that you share this I had already made mental notes not to drink a drink I have left on the table while I go to the washroom.
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 I still think a place to eat together is perfectly normal for a date. Yes for a date a restaurant is a perfect place but is a first meet a real date? I personally don't consider a first meet a *date*, it's a first contact, you check each other out, ask questions, get a feel of the person. Then, after this first meet if there is a common interest you go on a *date*. A lot of the men I met for the first time I was glad we were not sitting in a restaurant. The evening would have been very long and boring with lots of them. 2
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Yes for a date a restaurant is a perfect place but is a first meet a real date? I personally don't consider a first meet a *date*, it's a first contact, you check each other out, ask questions, get a feel of the person. Then, after this first meet if there is a common interest you go on a *date*. A lot of the men I met for the first time I was glad we were not sitting in a restaurant. The evening would have been very long and boring with lots of them. Coffee shops are restaurants too they sell food it's public you sit in chairs there is almost no difference, that I can see anyway. Anyway I am pretty glad I decided not to go. Ya'll changed my mind prob for the best too tho I could of done without being frightened to death lol
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 OP: He wanted to treat you to a $100 meal as a first meet. What does that say?
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 OP: He wanted to treat you to a $100 meal as a first meet. What does that say? That chivary isnt dead There are guys out there that will still take girls out and make them feel amazing. Or he's willing to fork out tons of money to get what he want's. Both are reasonable. Both are very real
StanMusial Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 It seems weird to me that anyone would ask for or volunteer nude photos or send photos of various body parts as part of the dating process. I can't imagine 10 years ago, myself or anyone I know, chatting up a girl in a bar and saying, "Oh, by the way, here's a camera, go out back real quick and take some naked pictures of yourself. Thanks." That's not normal. 7
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 It seems weird to me that anyone would ask for or volunteer nude photos or send photos of various body parts as part of the dating process. I can't imagine 10 years ago, myself or anyone I know, chatting up a girl in a bar and saying, "Oh, by the way, here's a camera, go out back real quick and take some naked pictures of yourself. Thanks." That's not normal. It's actually so common buy guys in life and all over the net even if you don't flirt with them. I had an online friend once like a penpal who I chatted with for 7 months and he said "We should do cam stuff together we're good friends and we should share this experience" Most bs line ever he completely ruined the whole friendship. 1
babycakees Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 That chivary isnt dead There are guys out there that will still take girls out and make them feel amazing. Or he's willing to fork out tons of money to get what he want's. Both are reasonable. Both are very real I'm willing to bet it was the latter one.
babycakees Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 It seems weird to me that anyone would ask for or volunteer nude photos or send photos of various body parts as part of the dating process. I can't imagine 10 years ago, myself or anyone I know, chatting up a girl in a bar and saying, "Oh, by the way, here's a camera, go out back real quick and take some naked pictures of yourself. Thanks." That's not normal. Even when I've had boyfriends ask it infuriates me. Shows a total lack of respect.
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 I'm willing to bet it was the latter one. I do agree
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Yes! Definitely be cautious. I always got as much personal info as possible before meeting someone for a date. First and Last name, where they worked, whatever. ALWAYS, before I left for a date I would text his info, a picture, and where we were meeting to two friends and then give cutoff times. If you haven't heard from me by 8pm, call me. If you haven't heard from me by 10pm, call the police. I would even let my date know that I'd given his info to friends as a precautionary measure. 1
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