Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 (edited) So I feel ready to date again nothing serious I would like to find someone I care for someday I've been going out on dates I dislike them very fast here's why.... While I like to flirt here and there once a flirt seems to happen they take it as a window to ask how soon would I have sex or can they have a nude photo, and this happens all the time I get disappointed they were nice before a flirt and I srsly do not lead on that im that willing to be sexual that fast a flirt from me will be like "you're cute well see what happens sexy ;-)" But I am not being totally sexual like them I am deeply frustrated when they start because I feel like they dont care about knowing me at all. I have a date tomorrow a guy is taking me to a fancy resteraunt his treat it would be the first time a man has ever courted me, I was head over heals excited at the thought of maybe ive found a gentlemen and he asked if a kiss is okay if I like him now that's fine... But now hes asking for nude pics and my vision of him is almost near shattered the date is tomorrow I no longer feel like he cares about me as a person because I had to say no about 5 times with the reason "we havent even met yet" I asked him to stop and that I was starting to worry thats all he wanted we had such nice convos before too, now since ive asked him to back off ive got no reply and im not sure if the date is even on anymore. I am starting to get frustrated it seems near impossible to met men that show genuine interest in me, and ask about sex later hes not the first guy to do it about every date I've been on has been me paying, and guys asking for ****. I make it totally clear im not interested in a lay and want something meaningful. Rant over Edited March 9, 2014 by Omei
LostConfused123 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 So I feel ready to date again nothing serious I would like to find someone I care for someday I've been going out on dates I dislike them very fast here's why.... While I like to flirt here and there once a flirt seems to happen they take it as a window to ask how soon would I have sex or can they have a nude photo, and this happens all the time I get disappointed they were nice before a flirt and I srsly do not lead on that im that willing to be sexual that fast a flirt from me will be like "you're cute well see what happens sexy ;-)" But I am not being totally sexual like them I am deeply frustrated when they start because I feel like they dont care about knowing me at all. I have a date tomorrow a guy is taking me to a fancy resteraunt his treat it would be the first time a man has ever courted me, I was head over heals excited at the thought of maybe ive found a gentlemen and he asked if a kiss is okay if I like him now that's fine... But now hes asking for nude pics and my vision of him is almost near shattered the date is tomorrow I no longer feel like he cares about me as a person because I had to say no about 5 times with the reason "we havent even met yet" I asked him to stop and that I was starting to worry thats all he wanted we had such nice convos before too, now since ive asked him to back off ive got no reply and im not sure if the date is even on anymore. I am starting to get frustrated it seems near impossible to met men that show genuine interest in me, and ask about sex later hes not the first guy to do it about every date I've been on has been me paying, and guys asking for ****. I make it totally clear im not interested in a lay and want something meaningful. Rant over Don't go out with him. You deserve SOOOOO much better!! You just have to weed out the weasels, same as if you were in a bar and some creep was hitting on you. 6
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Don't go out with him. You deserve SOOOOO much better!! You just have to weed out the weasels, same as if you were in a bar and some creep was hitting on you. I got a text back with him saying sorry he hasn't dated in a while and is getting too excited by my beauty and promises he will stop unless I initiate, this was a hour later and he reply's are usually very fast so im guessing my "please back off im gonna think all you care about is sex" made him think about his reply for quite a while.... Should I still give him a chance? This resteraunt is real expensive do you think hed waste 100$ I know it's gonna go well over that just to get a lay?
Eggplant Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 a flirt from me will be like "you're cute well see what happens sexy ;-)" But I am not being totally sexual like themThis line may be too sexy. 8
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 This line may be too sexy. You think so? He said I was cute I wanted to tell him it back, it was in regards to his questions about us going out many times and we haven't even yet once, he said "there will be many more dates if we get along cutie" and I ment we will see what happens and hes hot also. Prob shouldn't if added the sexy but still even then is that all men really need to go into sex overdrive?
Els Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 You think so? He said I was cute I wanted to tell him it back, it was in regards to his questions about us going out many times and we haven't even yet once, he said "there will be many more dates if we get along cutie" and I ment we will see what happens and hes hot also. Prob shouldn't if added the sexy but still even then is that all men really need to go into sex overdrive? No, I think something's fishy with this guy. But Eggplant is right, I still wouldn't use that line until I actually want things to go 'there'. 3
BikerAccnt Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 I'm sorry it's not going well. Flirting should be fun, and more guys should realize it's not an open door too sex. I'd be very cautious. I'm a guy and I dont' ask for nude pictures. Never have never would. Especially of someone I've not met. Surefire way for me to not find the woman I want. I've just started dating a woman, 2cd date was just last night. I cant imagine asking for nude pictures of her even after meeting her twice now. I'd ruin what may turn into a good relationship. I respect her too much to do that anyway. I don't think a guy that asks for nude pics of someone he's not met, or just recently met, has a lot of respect for women period. But that's me, I'm just an old fart who is out of touch perhaps. 6
Emilia Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 How do you meet these men OP? It sounds like online dating to me. If it is, why do you flirt with strangers you have never met? How well do you know these guys?
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 I got a text back with him saying sorry he hasn't dated in a while and is getting too excited by my beauty and promises he will stop unless I initiate, this was a hour later and he reply's are usually very fast so im guessing my "please back off im gonna think all you care about is sex" made him think about his reply for quite a while.... Should I still give him a chance? This resteraunt is real expensive do you think hed waste 100$ I know it's gonna go well over that just to get a lay? At the moment a man mentions sex or sexy pictures you dump them. Compliments MEANS NOTHING. Are you really going to give a chance to a jackass because he told you you're pretty? Really? that's all it takes to play you? Throw at you a couple of compliments? I am sorry this man is full of ****. SO he has not dated in a while? because he doesn't date he forget how to be a gentleman around a lady??? Another load of BS. Funny how he didn't forget how to ask for sexy pictures !!!! The amount of money a man spends on you MEANS NOTHING. Yes some men think if they spend money on a woman than she has to return it in sexual favors. They also think more money they spend over dinner then more entitled they are to get sexual favors. Please don't be SO naive! 6
PogoStick Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 If you don't want a man's mind in the gutter, then don't lead him there by calling him sexy. Ironically, how would a girl feel if the guy doesn't want to have sex with her? That being said, asking for nudes so early is a red flag, at least at my age (36). 1
hasaquestion Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 "you're cute well see what happens sexy ;-)" This man has clearly mastered the art of seduction.
Survivor12 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 I got a text back with him saying sorry he hasn't dated in a while and is getting too excited by my beauty and promises he will stop unless I initiate, this was a hour later and he reply's are usually very fast so im guessing my "please back off im gonna think all you care about is sex" made him think about his reply for quite a while.... Should I still give him a chance? This resteraunt is real expensive do you think hed waste 100$ I know it's gonna go well over that just to get a lay? NO! He's just changing his tune to get you to lower your defenses, but he's STILL the same crude guy whose primary goal is to get you into bed. YES! He would. He's confident that you can be bought --or guilted, and the fact that you are even considering going out with him after the way he has behaved shows that he has good reason. No more conversation. Just tell him that you've changed your mind, are canceling the date and not to contact you again. If you don't, at the very least you're going to find yourself fighting off his advances...and I won't even mention the worst case scenario. Save yourself now. 1
babycakees Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Last guy I dated asked me for nude pics before we went out too. That should have been red flag #1. But I blew it off thinking this was typical behavior for guys. It's not. A guy should be respectful and not try to push the limits. 3
somedude81 Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 While I like to flirt here and there once a flirt seems to happen they take it as a window to ask how soon would I have sex or can they have a nude photo, and this happens all the time I get disappointed they were nice before a flirt and I srsly do not lead on that im that willing to be sexual that fast a flirt from me will be like "you're cute well see what happens sexy ;-)" \ Jeez are you serious? What do you think sexy means? If you said that to me, I'd believe that you wanted to have sex with me, and that there would be a very good chance of sex happening after the date. This is even more apparent with the fact that you haven't even met the guy yet. 1
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 Jeez are you serious? What do you think sexy means? If you said that to me, I'd believe that you wanted to have sex with me, and that there would be a very good chance of sex happening after the date. This is even more apparent with the fact that you haven't even met the guy yet. If I had said you looked sexy you would that means hey lets get it on? Gosh men are weird they never just take things for exactly what they are a compliment. He already knows yes not coming over after that date that was made clear before I even said the comment.
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 I plan to give him another chance, since he said sorry and it seems that saying someone is sexy looking means lets have sex in the dating world (dumb) I won't be doing that again. I dont plan on being intamate till I care about someone again so if he doesn't ever reply after the date worse case scenario I got a good meal and ill know the truth about him.
BikerAccnt Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 Jeez are you serious? What do you think sexy means? If you said that to me, I'd believe that you wanted to have sex with me, and that there would be a very good chance of sex happening after the date. This is even more apparent with the fact that you haven't even met the guy yet. Seriously? Someone calls you sexy and you think that means they want to have sex with you? I take it as a flirtatious compliment and nothing more. People don't know what flirting is these days apparently. It IS NOT an invitation to sex. It's an indication of attraction. 3
Gaeta Posted March 9, 2014 Posted March 9, 2014 a flirt from me will be like "you're cute well see what happens sexy ;-)" I've missed that at first, I was under the impression guys flirted with you like this...not you. That is not flirting, that's trash talk. If this is your MO no wonder you get the players of this world all over you. *We'll see what happens sexy * is suggesting sex. It just means if you play your game right I will be happy to open my legs for you. You need to clean your act. 3
Author Omei Posted March 9, 2014 Author Posted March 9, 2014 At the moment a man mentions sex or sexy pictures you dump them. Compliments MEANS NOTHING. Are you really going to give a chance to a jackass because he told you you're pretty? Really? that's all it takes to play you? Throw at you a couple of compliments? I am sorry this man is full of ****. SO he has not dated in a while? because he doesn't date he forget how to be a gentleman around a lady??? Another load of BS. Funny how he didn't forget how to ask for sexy pictures !!!! The amount of money a man spends on you MEANS NOTHING. Yes some men think if they spend money on a woman than she has to return it in sexual favors. They also think more money they spend over dinner then more entitled they are to get sexual favors. Please don't be SO naive
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