ExpatInItaly Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Well, I would say since I shared a large part of my adult life with her (19-24), we shared many great experiences together. I enjoy talking to her and she makes me laugh. Mainly probably boils down to comfort. So far, the texts I have gotten today from her are that I'm a liar, gross, and disappointing. And then she told me to "enjoy"...she's definitely not showing any characteristics of being a good friend...I guess it's time to just let her go out of my life completely. Wow. She's a jackass. Not a friendly jackass either. 1
HappyLove Posted March 11, 2014 Posted March 11, 2014 Well, I would say since I shared a large part of my adult life with her (19-24), we shared many great experiences together. I enjoy talking to her and she makes me laugh. Mainly probably boils down to comfort. So far, the texts I have gotten today from her are that I'm a liar, gross, and disappointing. And then she told me to "enjoy"...she's definitely not showing any characteristics of being a good friend...I guess it's time to just let her go out of my life completely. She is a horrible person! She has some nerve! She gets her kicks from beating you down. Hope you're starting to see how toxic she is. I agree it's best to go no contact with this person. She's not worth it!
Author movingbackwards Posted March 11, 2014 Author Posted March 11, 2014 She is a horrible person! She has some nerve! She gets her kicks from beating you down. Hope you're starting to see how toxic she is. I agree it's best to go no contact with this person. She's not worth it! I think this is the main issue. She's always had a way of being degrading and trying to break me down. When we were together she tried to mold me into this perfect guy for her to marry. She would never directly call me names, but she would always to have control over me and belittle me over issues. I appreciate you guys letting me vent and talking through this with me. It's been a weird passed 4 days now so I'm just coping with trying to have her back around. It's just not working. I'm gross because I'm sleeping with a girl that I'm not in a true relationship with. I'm "just like my friends"....and she never thought I would be the one to sleep with girls without being in a committed relationship. To that I say, it's none of her business. She's stating I'm lying about me being with this girl and that I wont admit to being in a relationship with her. When I confronted her about her and the guy she ran off with she said "It's none of your business" and now wants to know the status of me and this girl. It's all ridiculous and childish. I think I have a natural tendency to try to fix her, as that was my main goal while we were together. She has terrible anger issues, codependency problems, etc. I never wanted to mold her into someone different, I just wanted to help her cope with her anger and heal her psych issues. I still feel that need but there comes a time for someone to help themselves.
HappyLove Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Exactly OP, at this point you're being foolish! No true FRIEND beats up on you! She has no say in your life. And you bringing up her man just shows you still care. I don't see the point of this relationship. But some people like the drama and to torture themselves I guess. You shouldn't even be responding to her and answering her stupid questions and accusations. Are you that hard up for friends? Time to get out more. I hope you find the strength to get away from this toxic dysfunction in your life. Good luck! 1
Author movingbackwards Posted March 12, 2014 Author Posted March 12, 2014 Exactly OP, at this point you're being foolish! No true FRIEND beats up on you! She has no say in your life. And you bringing up her man just shows you still care. I don't see the point of this relationship. But some people like the drama and to torture themselves I guess. You shouldn't even be responding to her and answering her stupid questions and accusations. Are you that hard up for friends? Time to get out more. I hope you find the strength to get away from this toxic dysfunction in your life. Good luck! Thank you for your input. I meant when I confronted her 8 months ago. I'm just stating the nature of her hypocricy.
HappyLove Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Thank you for your input. I meant when I confronted her 8 months ago. I'm just stating the nature of her hypocricy. Oh ok, I see what you mean. Yes, she has some nerve a true hypocrite indeed!
ThatGirl213 Posted March 12, 2014 Posted March 12, 2014 Well guilty people always have their way of trying to blame it all on someone else and/or taking their anger on someone else. It is not surprising to see her acting like a hypocrite.
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